Thank you so much everyone ❤️ You really are the best bunch.
@SortingItOut Yup, maybe this is why I’m “OK” rather than tail spinning. I’d been very careful before starting dating that my life felt like it was “enough” and I’ve been continuing to develop it while I’ve been with him. Sooo glad I joined the gym, roll on Monday as the machines are going to take a pounding 😂
Exactly that. I’ve learnt an insane amount in a short time which has been overwhelming in some ways so part of me is thankful for some time out I suppose. It’s really silly, but he’s even taught me to hug better. Which means my kids have been coming in for more hugs. He’s also raised my bar incredibly in a lot of ways so if I’m back on the dating apps in a few months (I’ll take some time out first) I’m going to be even more picky 😅
Re the kids meeting, if we do sort things out I’m going to have serious words about “SEE! This is why I said to wait!!”. Though to be fair, that part was driven by me last night - my kids are old enough to be aware that I’m dating and that MrT was a significant development. My middle teen said last night that she knows I want to wait to introduce them, but that a one off meet so they can get an idea of him wouldn’t cause them to get attached and I can still wait longer before they start to see him a lot and build a relationship with him. No idea where she got that wisdom from 🙄
@BelladiMamma Thank you ❤️ He was extremely vulnerable in his sharing today which at least shows he trusted me. He definitely doesn’t have a f’em attitude though and I knew that he was more fragile than he lets on. So this doesn’t surprise me at all. I’m a little peeved in one sense as I’ve been dealing with all the trauma stuff as it comes and haven’t backed out… actually that’s a lie, I did need to take an evening once but I came straight back the next morning and had said I just need an evening. This feels very open ended and like he might decide it’s just too much. We’ll see.
@Heartbeats0708 Yup, keeping myself busy and will see how it works out. We’ll see how it gets resolved (for better or worse) and I’ll rethink the kids thing.
Uck I’m just so incredibly sad. There’s one bit of one text where he explained how he felt about last night feel and it’s awful. It’s absolutely his own trauma speaking, and I know well enough to know he needs to own and resolve it himself but but it’s hard to know I was the trigger to make someone feel that way.
We’ll either come back stronger from this, or it’s time to part ways. All I can do is wait and see! Feels very strange not to be able to send him random stuff though. Will have to lean on here, and the rest of my support network.