Would you stay with your partner if they decided to transition?

[RedRobyn2021]

I'm watching an episode of Queer Eye where this transwoman's partner said they stayed with them after they decided they wanted to transition and it got me thinking

If your partner decided they wanted to transition would you stay with them?

@Queenoftheashes

No he’d make an absolutely hideous woman

Also this.

He’s 6’ 4” with a beard. He’d look ridiculous in a skirt and shimmery blue eyeshadow.

No.

But I know someone who did.

No, I would be too annoyed that he'd had time to sit pondering identity when the mental load gives me no space for similar indulgence.

Nope. Our life together would’ve been a lie. Plus I would imagine that every conversation with friends and family for the foreseeable future would focus on their transitio and I can’t be arsed with that level of self absorption.

@twomumsonebump

Without a doubt. She's more to me than just her genitals. I love her heart and soul, and if it came down to losing her or letting her be her true self then I wouldn't even question it.

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Even though I'd absolutely divorce dh if he sprung this shot on me after 20+ years, I would date a transman. I think what's most important to me is not being deceived and also not being with a biological male who feel entitled to access women only spaces.

If your partner decided they wanted to transition would you stay with them?

I think I would stay in the same house till DD moves out but the relationship part would be over for me. I do think that growing up with two parents is preferable if it happens in harmony and I think that I could stay friends and co-parent while all living under one roof.

But I could be deluded of course.

No

Maybe in some sort of open/poly relationship where my partner and I had an emotional relationship only.

But probably not.

No. Absolutely not.

No. If dh suddenly declared he was a woman and always had been I wouldnt believe him. It would be completely contrary to everything I know about him, and either it would be a fetish or he would have been lying for the last 25 years.

I have a friend whose partner is currently transitioning for the 3rd time, and while she clearly struggles some of thr time, they stay together because this has been something that they've been dealing with as long as she's known them - theyve always been a transwoman or a highly GNC male. There are no lies or concealment.

No. As they obviously have no respect for women’s rights

No, definitely not. I’d feel a huge sense of loss if this happened but couldn’t stay in the relationship. Would hope we could continue as friends and co-parents instead.

No.

I did, although the relationship didn't work out in the end. I don't think that my ex transitioning made a lie out of the time we spent together before though at all. We had a lovely relationship - not a lie at all! And even now, I still care about her. We are still friends. But the transition process was hard on both of us, made us both think a lot about what we really wanted and ultimately what we wanted wasn't compatible any more.

Probably, I'm not saying it would be easy, but he's my best mate & soulmate & I can't see that changing because he changes what's on the outside & we are both pretty good at weathering storms, we've had our fair share & he's stuck by me & DD through some tough times & never wavered, so I'd definitely give it a good go.

No. Definitely not

But I know 2 people (women) who did stay with their transwoman partner. Apparently happily.

And they are soo sucked in to stereo typical roles. Just because you like wearing dresses and watching Bridget jones it doesn’t make you female 🙄 How any bloke knows what it feels like to be a woman or vice versa is beyond me

My friends wife transitioned

She’s stayed with her. But said had she of known from the start. She’d never of married them.

It wouldn’t bother me. As I’m Bi.

I’m bisexual so if DH got cursed by a witch and turned into a woman, great, no worries.

If he woke up and decided he thought being a woman was about lipstick and girly feels, he can gtfo.

No. I wouldn’t be sexually attracted to him any more.

No

Yes. I can't say for sure that it would work out, but I would definitely give it my best shot. Him transitioning wouldn't stop me from loving them and so I would try to make it work (assuming this was what they wanted too).

I do find both women and men attractive though, so I don't have the complication of not finding women attractive that others have brought up.

Yes.

Not a chance