Would you stay with your partner if they decided to transition?

[RedRobyn2021]

I'm watching an episode of Queer Eye where this transwoman's partner said they stayed with them after they decided they wanted to transition and it got me thinking

If your partner decided they wanted to transition would you stay with them?

No.
AGPs are 'in a relationship' with themselves, not with their wives.

Fuck no. There’d be the very basic disagreement about gender ideology for starters, same as I would not stay with someone who joined a cult or became a fascist etc.

There’d also be that they would not be attractive to me in the slightest doing womanface. My ex-partner is 6”2 and naturally a strong-boned man with the jawline to match. Him in a frock with lippie and a wig ... it would look very foolish and not what I (still) find attractive about him.

Yes because l love him but any sign of another person and they would be dead to me .

@PamDenick

No. It won’t ever happen as we’re both Gender Atheists.

And if he ever aligned himself with a political group that thinks the rights of a few middle aged men to wear size 11 Maryjanes trumps the biological reality of the sex based oppression of women and girls around the world I’d think he would have lost all sense of reality…

WTF is a gender athiest?!

No.

You’ll note that no man works tolerate this bollocks in a relationship

Only us compliant nicely nicely women 🙄

No, while it would kill my attraction to him the biggest damage would be that I would lose all respect for him. A fundamental difference in values and beliefs that would be irreconcilable

Absolutely. I married him because I love him as a person, not for his gender.

I don't even know what "transitioning" means.
Given that changing biological sex is not possible does transitioning mean wearing kitten heels and dressing like a croupier in a night club?

I like to think I would/could but realistically I doubt it.

However, I'd have no issue if my son wanted to transition (but I've obviously a VERY different relationship with him)!

Absolutely. I'm bisexual, so it doesn't matter to me whether my partner is a man or a woman. If they still wanted to be with me, I would still want to be with them.

I assume a gender atheist is someone who doesnt believe in or agree with gender stereotypes.

I don't know. I find cross dressing a massive turn off but I wouldn't want to lose the love of my life.

@PamDenick

No. It won’t ever happen as we’re both Gender Atheists.

And if he ever aligned himself with a political group that thinks the rights of a few middle aged men to wear size 11 Maryjanes trumps the biological reality of the sex based oppression of women and girls around the world I’d think he would have lost all sense of reality…

I’ve just read your post properly… after the initial shock! It seems we feel the same way, but calling myself a gender atheist would get me laughed at in social situations!! It’s that really what people are calling themselves?!

No

Nope

@twomumsonebump

Without a doubt. She's more to me than just her genitals. I love her heart and soul, and if it came down to losing her or letting her be her true self then I wouldn't even question it.

This is genuinely not goady but I really am interested - if she fully transitioned and had a neopenis constructed, would you happily have PIV sex with her? I understand her genitals don't define her as the person you love, but your sexual orientation would still be the same even if she transitioned. Hope that makes sense.

I'm bisexual so I get asked this a lot as a hypothetical. Interested in thoughts from a lesbian, or a bisexual woman like me!

Nope!

Not a snowball's chance in hell. Everyone I've known who has sought to transition appears to have been overtaken by utter narcissism, gaslighting and self obsession. It's clear they aren't the same person as they were and no way would I seek to accommodate this.

Plus I'd also worry that my partner had had a brain injury given his GC views - can't see him deciding to try and become a woman.

God no! Spend every day living a lie and facilitate them to live a lie? No thanks.

@PamDenick I think it's possible to be trans without being on the current trans rights political bandwagon.

@whymewhyme

I watched this episode and i really felt for the gf it just didn't feel geniune. It's probably just me though.

I think someone else said the same earlier in the thread actually

No way. Because every single person who 'comes out' as trans says that this is who they always were. Which is just pissing all over their existing relationship.

As is claiming every mention of who they were pre-transition - name and pronouns - must be expunged.

It's the ultimate gaslighting.

No way !!!

Yes

@My200lbLife

No.

You’ll note that no man works tolerate this bollocks in a relationship

Only us compliant nicely nicely women 🙄

Another reason why a man could never be a woman. They’re not emotionally capable