Husband's work taking over family life.

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Husband is a high earner, who takes on additional work to the extent that our younger child wants to cut the computer in half, to stop him working and spend time with us going out or in the house.
He helps get them ready for school and bed, but it's like he's part-time help for an hour in the morning and two hours at night.
There's no companionship.
He takes work on holiday (one holiday a year), works the day before we go and goes back the following morning.
He sleeps separately so he can wake up early to work before going to work, or stays up late working.
He's angry if I challenge him and walked out when I got angry about the amount of work he's doing. I'm terrified he'll disappear if/when I I challenge him again.
He wants to be in charge.
I want to have a life.

Earthsight: Yes!

Random - I tried and it was refused by govt.

The balls in your court not his because you want to change the status quo. Waiting around for him to be someone different isn’t a strategy that’s going to reap rewards.

What are you doing to better your employment position, are you on a path to gaining qualifications and or experience.

OP you are not stuck, you’re scared of being the catalyst of change.

I'm looking into further training.
So sick of children complaining he's too busy for them.

OP, have a read back to your original post. Nothing has changed since then, except that you are a year older, and your financial future is even more fucked.

The only way you will ever be happy is to actually change the things in your life that are making both you and your DC unhappy !

Make a decision, you either stop moaning and accept that your H couldn't care less about you and the DC and make your social plans etc yourself but continue living with him, or you say 'No, I'm not wasting another year being miserable' and tell him you want a divorce...

Continuing to do the same things, year after year after year, hasn't helped, has it ? Nothing at all has changed for you or DC. Accept that he'll NEVER value you or your DC. You just need to decide if you're going to continue to live with him while he ignores you all , or whether you live separately while he ignores you all? (because that's the only thing that will actually change if you divorce him)

Autumn, you're right and that's exactly how I feel.