Dating thread 222: into 2022 and beyond

[BelladiMamma]

The rules as a screenshot (feel free to copy and paste them in).

[quote Stayingstrongish]**@MizK* that’s a great post by @ReturnOfTheBunk*. Go easy on yourself x[/quote]
Likewise. Don't be too hard on yourself. It's not like you're about to shackle yourself to MrTeacher for the rest of your life?

@curmudgeonly007 glad that I didn't offend you! Hope the email from MsW was positive / constructive / what you wanted.

@Thisisworsethananticpated and @BelladiMamma

The thing is it's in everyone's interests to keep the first meet as "reserved and safe" as possible - surely a bland central cafe or pub where either party can get away easily works?

A woman online could be a catfish, or a gang planning to rob a man by a canal or make false accusations so somewhere public is safer for everyone. Plus the toilet issue.

I wonder if it's a cost thing as well? Like they want to "look at you" then decide whether to pay £3.50 for their coffee or not.

It's just annoying - I mean I look as good as my photos, normally get offered second meets, and I've met guys who don't really live up to their profiles?

But I still don't demand I "inspect them" before committing to sit down opposite them and chat for an hour, that's just rude.

Just been in the gym and my running is crap @teesguy (good time I'm impressed!) and @ibelieveinmirrorballs

so I'll just be aiming to get round my 5k without walking I think and then move forward after that!

I’m actually guilty of suggesting walks for a first date ! Mainly because I have to pay a babysitter for a night out , and i like walking !
I’ve got two coming up
But busy parks and daylight hours

I’m worried now !

@Thisisworsethananticpated

I'm sure you're not trying to rob them (I hope? ).

It is different with men and women with the strength difference, but equally I'm astonished at how blase some guys are - it's like a few Ok looking photos and texts, no verification or even a phone call, and they're prepared to drive to a strange address and go into someone's home?

I could be the equivalent of a "clip" joint about to relieve them of their wallets and phone!

No robbing plans 😂
I’m just seeking a FWB

@Thisisworsethananticpated you want his body not his wallet!

That's a good article @Stayingstrongish - and respect to the people who went through that horrific experience and are now trying to help others. We all have our vulnerable times and these predators are horrific. I mean feeling rejected or having lots of crap dates sucks but there's a lot worse that could happen. I didn't realise that about the video calls either?

ReturnOfTheBunk
Well that depends on the walk !
But yeah a body would be , nice

@Thisisworsethananticpated

I've got "mid-thirties" rising sex drive and no-one to give it to and MrHedgehog has ruined me for other men.

I need to exercise it away for now as I don't want the complication of another person for now, but it's really tough! I have lots to be grateful for, but also a warm body to cuddle in bed would be mint

I only went on hinge because I had a long distance texting sexting thing that ended New Year’s Day , and I was totally gutted ! I actually cried

the only way to get over one is to get under one , is my (very misguided) philosophy !

You could try hinge ? Of all the 3 I like it the most as not as snobby as inner circle , and not as cray cray as tinder
It’s free too

[quote ReturnOfTheBunk]@Thisisworsethananticpated

I'm sure you're not trying to rob them (I hope? ).

It is different with men and women with the strength difference, but equally I'm astonished at how blase some guys are - it's like a few Ok looking photos and texts, no verification or even a phone call, and they're prepared to drive to a strange address and go into someone's home?

I could be the equivalent of a "clip" joint about to relieve them of their wallets and phone![/quote]
I went for a first date with MsCycling at hers at the weekend. It was her suggestion but it did cross my mind whether it was a good idea. We'd been talking for around 6 weeks and chatted on the phone a few times but I did see it as a bit of a risk.

@teesguy
That’s great, can you get me a discount on new MTB

Not sure what to think about the email from ms W,
We have known each other as friends for 10+ years, and to be fair we have had periods where has been no communication for weeks,.
Her mail did say her kids and her all has Covid over Christmas period and one of horses needed the vets (again), even so, nothing for close to 20 days doesn’t feel nice.
Saying that, she must feel comfortable with me as she was the one who added “benefits” to the mix, and she wants to continue meeting up,
Is this what I want, I don’t really know, I think I will have to ruminate on that,
On the other hand, it’s very exciting when a woman says “hey do you want to meet up and have some great sex”, I added the word “great”, but she keeps asking, so guess I’m doing something right, plus she is curvy girl, so that’s great 😃.

Hi all can I join ? I am a long time lurker and have posted a few times in the past .
Currently dating my iron call him
Mr Chess it s going ok although I don’t feel like he meets all my needs and I find him boring at times .
The discussions a while ago about ENM have interested me and I wonder if something like that would be better for me .
I have seen the site Feeld mentioned but not sure if I m quite ready for it yet .
Does anyone have any advice , tips and any success stories from using it ? Thanks

Great date zero tonight. Pretty short notice, only been talking for 2 days and no phone call before the date but he turned out to be better looking in real life and we talked non stop, next date already arranged for Friday.

One and only iron but I'll call him Mr Big

@dancemom sounds awesome 🥳

Welcome @Explorer233

Sounds great @dancemom

@curmudgeonly007 I agree the 20 days sounds a long time?

I mean "casual" and "fun" is only "fun" if it's fun for both parties - If you want someone who is more a friend and less benefits, with a bit more "in-between" connection and chat then I guess MsWales isn't your woman?

It's "each to their own" but if someone ignored me and then messaged me out of the blue asking for a "sex date" I'd be like "wtf, no"?

There's a message from the Igel on my phone but I'm not going to read it for now but tbh the contact has been sparse/abysmal so I'm going to get myself into a better place then read?

It's just that I know he "is" capable of pleasant enough communication

so getting fairly terse one-liners about how awful everything is with life/the universe/the borders and no asking how I am has made me a bit .

But also things have been weird for everyone so I'll get through my bit of work then calm down so I'm not responding from an "angry place" (he might be pieing me off anyway so the choice might not be mine )

I mean "casual" and "fun" is only "fun" if it's fun for both parties

That reminds me of a guy years ago who I dumped. Pre OLD, pre mobile phones etc. He was a friend of a friend and we were sort of set up, on paper it seemed perfect. But he was too loud for me. And he would go ages with no contact then call as if we'd spoken the day before.
Anyway, I'd had enough, so I called to tell him "this isn't working for me, I'm going to end it", and presumably to protect himself, he said "well, it was just a bit of fun anyway".
And I said "turns out you were having more fun than I was. Bye".

Mr Big eh @dancemom sounds promising 😏😉🤣🤣 x

Urgh no @ReturnOfTheBunk if the whole thing is making you feel like this then is it really worth it. I think you should set yourself completely free of him for now not in a nasty way but just detatch yourself as he’s now bringing nothing to your life but upset. Can you just give him the fade? It’s a shame it really is but you’re worth more than being his comfort after a nasty break up.

@ButterflyOfShay because he's an ex rugby player 😆😆

Also do you really need someone in your life like this “about how awful everything is with life/the universe”
Can’t stand moaners….

[quote dancemom]@ButterflyOfShay because he's an ex rugby player 😆😆 [/quote]
Touchè honey, he sounds a bit of alright!
All these success stories lately are making me think I should give it another try but something is stopping me! 😣

How you feeling today @MizK.. it’s a funny old time of year isn’t it, can feel a bit bleak and raw.. hugs to you! 💗