Dating thread 222: into 2022 and beyond

[BelladiMamma]

The rules as a screenshot (feel free to copy and paste them in).

Anyone fancy a roll call?

I'm off the apps at the moment and only entertaining MrDublin at present although I do have MrPoet and MrA as potential ongoing FWB situations

Checking in.

Currently chatting enjoying to MsCycling and planning to meet up soon. We seem on the same wavelength. Going to find some time for a walk and coffee with MsLabrador. 3 other chats in the early stages.

Newbie here! Split from exh beginning of this year, met a man OLD October, he has ghosted me over Christmas so will be trying my like OLD again beginning of next year…

@BelladiMamma thank you for the new thread. I'm really happy with Mr Music, 1 month in and it's idyllic!

Nil zero zip nowt naught nothing, About as many as goals Norwich are scoring, nothing lined up, no walks, no plumbing jobs, zilch zippo

Radio silence since pre Christmas from Ms W.

There is a woman I sometimes see walking her dog, I shall call her Ms Dog Walker have seen her when I have been cycling, she normally says hello and does that hair thing, might have a go a boring her with my adventures in plumbing

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks for the new thread @BelladiMamma! I have copied and pasted the rules in text as my eyesight isn't good enough for screenshots and I like to check in the with rules occasionally to make sure I bear them in mind.

My roll call consists of Mr Favourite Place, date tonight.

Hi Guys

Single for a year but still a bit of an on/off thing with ex (mainly just sex though as it's easier than finding someone else). Had a lovely FWB but he's now in a relationship and although most of me wishes him to be happy, a part of me is looking forward to him being single again as it was fun and uncomplicated (we are totally incompatible otherwise).

Rejoined bumble and tinder, nobody ever responds to me on bumble and tinder is slim pickings but I'm persisting.

Rejoined bumble and tinder, nobody ever responds to me on bumble and tinder is slim pickings but I'm persisting.

This is same problem I found with the apps, in my case, women just don’t reply

Checking in for the last thread of 2021. Mr Bat and I have our 2nd date next week possibly, although we've had a few nighttime encounters since the 1st one... But I'm not sure I'm feeling it. Or anything in fact, about anything. I used to get excited about dates, butterflies etc. Now I just feel a bit...empty. Desensitised maybe.

Mr Flake did get in contact the next day to apologise. Said he'd freaked out. No other irons on the app and I rarely get likes too. It all feels a bit too much emotional effort at the moment :(

@MizK how are you feeling about Mr Teacher? I think I've remembered that right...?!

Welcome to the thread Knutface! Being ghosted is horrible, hopefully you'll have better luck in 2022.

@FabulousMrFifty

Rejoined bumble and tinder, nobody ever responds to me on bumble and tinder is slim pickings but I'm persisting.

This is same problem I found with the apps, in my case, women just don’t reply

Glad it's not just me too!

I've found PoF to be the best of the apps as I'm able to send a message and and hopefully get a conversation started.

I've not had a single like on Tinder for weeks!!

Hi, I’ve tried to follow these threads in the past but they are SO fast moving!

I’ve taken part a bit too (under different names) but I’m not currently on apps. Well, not today, but there is a slight story there…

I spoke to a man on a few separate occasions throughout the year but we didn’t meet as he didn’t want to. I don’t know why, Covid? nervousness? doesn’t fancy me? doesn’t want to leave the safe world of online only? Who knows. But I enjoyed chatting SO much with him, and I keep going back on the apps to see if he’s there or not. Usually he is, but I never use my photo and I delete my account quickly, after a day or two. One one occasion, it was after an hour. I need to get out of this loop, and I feel it’s stopping me from being open to meeting others. I’m thinking to go back on after winter, in a few months. I need to not message him again though.

@WeWantTheFinestWines Thanks, I did feel pretty bad about it so I’m trying to move on to someone else quickly. Modern dating seems traumatic, it wasn’t like this in the 90s. I am not even looking for anything serious.

Had very nice 2nd date with Ms Colombia who is in UK until Jan 9th

The uncomplicated situation with Ms Drop Dead Gorgeous is on pause over festive period.

Had to block Ms Derry Girl whom I never even met but was displaying stalker- like tendencies.

Checking in. Had a couple of dates with a Ms Marathoner and think will see each other again. Seems lovely but perhaps she's a tad fitness obsessed.

Pretty much off the apps and much food for thought in this article.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/dec/28/dating-apps-sexual-revolution-single-people
Worth a read and spot on about many of the negatives in OLD.

Just checking in.

Nothing new to report. Mr Gambit is still a selfish idiot and he's still blocked. 🙂❤️

Checking in.

MrTeacher - need to decide whether it's worth telling him how I'm feeling or just seeing if it fizzles out on its own. TBD.

A few chats ongoing, none are standing out any more than others at the min.

Bring on a fresh start in 2022...in many ways this year can bugger off!

@OnlyClothes

Hi, I’ve tried to follow these threads in the past but they are SO fast moving!

I’ve taken part a bit too (under different names) but I’m not currently on apps. Well, not today, but there is a slight story there…

I spoke to a man on a few separate occasions throughout the year but we didn’t meet as he didn’t want to. I don’t know why, Covid? nervousness? doesn’t fancy me? doesn’t want to leave the safe world of online only? Who knows. But I enjoyed chatting SO much with him, and I keep going back on the apps to see if he’s there or not. Usually he is, but I never use my photo and I delete my account quickly, after a day or two. One one occasion, it was after an hour. I need to get out of this loop, and I feel it’s stopping me from being open to meeting others. I’m thinking to go back on after winter, in a few months. I need to not message him again though.

Hi 👋🏻

What do you need advice on? Are you just checking on this guy and you want to break this unhealthy pattern or are you also messaging him?

@TobyEsterhase

Had very nice 2nd date with Ms Colombia who is in UK until Jan 9th

The uncomplicated situation with Ms Drop Dead Gorgeous is on pause over festive period.

Had to block Ms Derry Girl whom I never even met but was displaying stalker- like tendencies.

Sorry you had that experience with MsDerryGirl. That sounds rubbish

Checking in. Still not back on the apps but going to in the next few weeks. Out with a friend tonight for a few drinks so will see if I like the look of anyone

@teesguy
Yep, it’s pretty disheartening, I went back on the apps recently, same old faces, hardly any one new, as im rurally located it’s doubly worse.

I sometimes read other dating threads on this forum and it’s women (sorry ladies) complaining about the lack / quality of men and I read them and think, jeez, where all the decent women then ? Cos there not around here,…

But I’ve pretty much given up now and just kinda hang around here for the fashion, cookery and plumbing tips

@TobyEsterhase
Good boundaries 👍🏼

I’ve also found a lack of nice men OLD but I assume it’s down to my location (fens, arse end of nowhere). All the decent ones seem to be in the cities.

Hi all,something stands out for me and that is that all the men on the thread seem great catches and would probably get on with a lot of the women here!I mean ,what's not to like about a man with plumbing skills@FabulousMrFifty I know it's not allowed to date the thread,but maybe we should set up mumsnet dating.So many lonely people with so much to give.