Dating thread 222: into 2022 and beyond

[BelladiMamma]

The rules as a screenshot (feel free to copy and paste them in).

@VivaVegas
Hi, I’m 52 as well, and thinking along the same lines regarding relationships as well..

@StartingAgain6369
Sounds like a good date, shame about the outcome..

So the date with Mr Favourite Place was really lovely - we walked along the beach holding hands and looking at the stars 🤮🤣
He shared a lot about his life and how he's had therapy and feels he is in a good place for a relationship now, he made it clear that he likes me and I definitely want to get to know him better - I just wish there was more of a spark for me. He's not the greatest kisser, which didn't help. He's very lovely though and I really enjoy his company. He's besotted with his cat, which is quite sweet. It will probably be a while before we can see each other again, so I hope we can build on things with chats and video calls. I have to be careful not to mess him around though, if I don't catch feels...

Hi returnbunk!

Hi everyone. I hope you dont mind me checking in . I'm male, single for over 3 years now and recently turned 40. I've just deleted myself from Badoo as I can't even start a simple conversation with the women of the Midlands. I'm just not compatible with anyone.
I have been reading the dating threads on here for a while trying to pick up tips etc etc. But I've now given ip.

If someone called me a slut during sex that would be the last time we had sex.

Why do you need ID?

@WeWantTheFinestWines

If someone called me a slut during sex that would be the last time we had sex.

Agreed.

Gosh lots to catch up on. Is it just me (I've had a couple of drinks) or did the thread get a bit surreal this evening? I don't think I imagined the face-licking?!

Anyway, I'm back from date zero with the first of my new irons. I'd describe it as a perfectly pleasant and enjoyable evening. Lots to chat about. Definitely someone I could be friends with.

So then, that's 10 months of OLD, 14 dates, and 3 new friends 🤔 Can't complain I guess. I still want the last one though, with the brilliant sense of humour and amazing sex

Found you and checking in. Still MrWa, think it’s 6 months now. Maybe more.
I’m in a strange place, I was so over OLD, now I actually miss it. I feel bored, have twitching fingers to download the apps again, which is a massive shame b’cos he ticks all the boxes on paper. But when he came to stay in between Christmas and new year, I just wanted him to leave. I actually wanted to sleep in the spear room away from him .

I have read, but don’t remember who else mentioned it, the sex is good, but no “connection” that’s what this relationship feels like, an ongoing one night stand.

Also don’t know who else mentioned these type of feelings coinciding with hormones.

I think I’ll sit on it until next week, then see how I feel. He’s booked a long weekend in my favourite city for 1st weekend in February though, so I’ll feel massively guilty.

I had dinner with MrStone at his flat last night. I had a long day involving Ikea, swimming and lunch with a friend then back to dinner with him.

He asked again if there could ever be more between us. I simply said no. He went on about how much he likes me, likes spending time with me, really enjoys my company. Etc.
But I feel like I told him no already, he shouldn't have asked again. So I feel uncomfortable and I'll stop meeting up with him now.

Anyway, my two week self imposed mourning period for MrWG ended Tuesday. So I've done a bit of swiping and have some new matches, I'll see if they send any messages. I have a few on Feeld who have done, though one is too far away, one is the consultant who I don't fancy but who does keep regular contact so I might meet up again for coffee some time.

NYE plans in jeopardy due to Covid, but never mind.

It’s a numbers game apparently @PurpleStripyScarf keep going 👍🏻👍🏻

@Catcrazy83

Found you and checking in. Still MrWa, think it’s 6 months now. Maybe more. I’m in a strange place, I was so over OLD, now I actually miss it. I feel bored, have twitching fingers to download the apps again, which is a massive shame b’cos he ticks all the boxes on paper. But when he came to stay in between Christmas and new year, I just wanted him to leave. I actually wanted to sleep in the spear room away from him .

I have read, but don’t remember who else mentioned it, the sex is good, but no “connection” that’s what this relationship feels like, an ongoing one night stand.

Also don’t know who else mentioned these type of feelings coinciding with hormones.

I think I’ll sit on it until next week, then see how I feel. He’s booked a long weekend in my favourite city for 1st weekend in February though, so I’ll feel massively guilty.

First weekend in February? Aren't you forgetting something?

Sorry to hear you aren't feeling it. Definitely a good idea from a hormones perspective to wait a week and see how you feel.

Fingers crossed nye plans go ahead @VanGoghsDog

He shouldn’t keep asking you, maybe you’re right and it’s time to freeze him out, sometimes feelings are too strong for friendship even if boundaries haven’t been crossed.

I did a vax centre shift today and sat for five hours with a chap, chatting between patients, it wasn't very busy so lots of time. Really nice guy, great to chat to, smart, funny, well read. Also seems to be single Sadly over twenty years younger than me!
But nice to know normal men do exist!

@Catcrazy83

It’s a numbers game apparently *@PurpleStripyScarf* keep going 👍🏻👍🏻

Thanks Cat, will do!

Haha @PurpleStripyScarf I’m that far north I’m almost Scottish, I never go into London, shame as I’d love to put faces to everyone here

I will try and sit with these “feelings” for a week. But right now it feels like the cliche, that is the ICK

@Catcrazy83 oh no - the ICK. that's a great shame

@VanGoghsDog I had to have a minor operation to have my last IUD reMoved as it was embedded in my womb lining and extremely painful. Yes I need to think about long term contraceptive options but I also need to continue having safe sex so condoms will carry on being a thing for me, and yes they will occasionally be unreliable but I guess I need to keep an eye out - literally - for that & act accordingly. Apparently you can get a diaphragm privately so let's see if that could be an option? As for certain miscarriage etc. That is down to my age and also the number of viable eggs. My gynae had a good rummage around during my operation in September and she said I could still get pregnant but at my age probably wouldn't carry to term. So double whammy!!

A shame indeed! Don’t know if there’s any coming back from it.

Have you thought about gettin your tubes tied @BelladiMamma? I looked into it briefly as all hormone contraception give me stinking headaches. NHS we’re pretty willing, I only went back on it b’cos there wasn’t much sex at the time 😂

[quote BelladiMamma]@Catcrazy83 oh no - the ICK. that's a great shame

@VanGoghsDog I had to have a minor operation to have my last IUD reMoved as it was embedded in my womb lining and extremely painful. Yes I need to think about long term contraceptive options but I also need to continue having safe sex so condoms will carry on being a thing for me, and yes they will occasionally be unreliable but I guess I need to keep an eye out - literally - for that & act accordingly. Apparently you can get a diaphragm privately so let's see if that could be an option? As for certain miscarriage etc. That is down to my age and also the number of viable eggs. My gynae had a good rummage around during my operation in September and she said I could still get pregnant but at my age probably wouldn't carry to term. So double whammy!![/quote]
I've never heard that age meant more likely to miscarry, I'm 53 and never been told that.

You can get a diaphragm on the NHS I'm sure. Yes, I have problems with condoms as I had a fail that led to pregnancy. And while I have my third coil now, removal and insertion has to be done under anesthesia or sedation as I have a friable cervix.

You could get sterilised? The only reason I never did was because it doesn't stop your periods where the merina coil can do, though mine never stopped but were very light and sporadic, so a lot less tiresome (I think they have completely stopped now, fingers crossed).

Or only shag men who've had the snip!

@VanGoghsDog @Catcrazy83 sterilisation is definitely an idea. Currently waiting to see what MrD's suggestions are as he said he's been thinking about a few male contraceptive ideas.

Found myself in MrFootball’s bed after my shift at work tonight….so watch this space I guess

Hi @Yellowshirt sorry to hear you’re in a low place with dating. Are you happy in other areas of your life? Which bits of conversation do you struggle with? Women are after different things, not everyone wants a hugely chatty guy x

@WeWantTheFinestWines thanks for your thoughts on the ‘slut’ thing. I think I need to improve my boundaries and just tell him I don’t like it. To be fair to him he has said a few times he wants me to tell him what I like and don’t like.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards thanks I'm feeling better today just now my throat is sore from a the coughing

vangogh looks like Mr Stone is misreading signals and thinking that you spending so much time with him means there's hope for him. This seems similar to the isitreally situation. Where there's contact there's hope? You obviously get on very well, it's easy, etc... I think you have to stop seeing him. He will always want more and hope that you will change your mind and realise you should be together. It seems unfair on him to keep seeing him.