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Boyfriend been kicked out and wants to live with me....

195 replies

homealonnneee · 20/12/2021 20:30

Been together 6 months.
He had his own flat 5 mins away from me.
His landlord is a arse and has kicked him out.
He keeps saying il just sleep in my car(obviously I can't let him do that )But I know once he is in mine he won't leave.
I'm not ready to live with him
What do I do?
Even if I say I will find you somewhere to live he will say he can't afford bond etc
Months rent up front etc
I feel totally trapped into letting him stay now

OP posts:
StopGo · 20/12/2021 20:31

Or, of course, you could be a complete mug and let him move in. Seriously wise up.

justforthisnow · 20/12/2021 20:31

Nope. Just no. It is a complete sentence. Why was he kicked out? And do you have any other version of the story other than his?

RagzReturnedUnwrapped · 20/12/2021 20:32

Don't do it. Unless you really, really want to live with him. Which you clearly don't.
He'll become a cocklodger...

Also, it's really hard to evict someone so there's probably a reason he's being kicked out that isn't just his LL being a dick.

AnyFucker · 20/12/2021 20:32

You know you will regret it once his feet are under the table

I expect his landlord was an “arse” with good reason

MrsSanteClaws · 20/12/2021 20:32

But I know once he is in mine he won't leave.

This says it all. Let him sofa surf or sleep in his car, you’re clearly unsure about the relationship. Personally I’d end it as if you’re worried about this then you must have other concerns within the relationship.

GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 20/12/2021 20:32

Why did he get kicked out?

TellMeItsPossible · 20/12/2021 20:33

Oh god no. Listen to your instincts here. He'll be fine living somewhere else, while you won't if he lives with you. Put yourself first!

Original poster
homealonnneee · 20/12/2021 20:33

He has repairs he wants doing and the landlord wouldn't do it.
(This is true,he has a massive hole in his ceiling )
So landlord changed locks whilst he was at work and left his things outside

OP posts:
ToastCrumbsOnAPlate · 20/12/2021 20:34

Say no.

He asked you because you're the most convenient option.

Skeumorph · 20/12/2021 20:34

NO.

Just no.

It's not good that you feel like this - big red flag that he's manipulative.

If this were a good 'un, he wouldn't even be putting the pressure on you (and yes that includes the puppy dog eyes 'I'll sleep in my car' nonsense.) The fact that you know you won't get him out - this is bad. You KNOW at some level he's not a keeper. You wouldn't feel like that in a good, healthy relationship. You wouldn't feel trapped at all.

'No, I am not ready for us to live together. That would be a disaster.'

TellMeItsPossible · 20/12/2021 20:34

Unlikely story.

Dery · 20/12/2021 20:34

“Also, it's really hard to evict someone so there's probably a reason he's being kicked out that isn't just his LL being a dick.”

This. Listen to your instincts. Don’t let him move in with you.

titchy · 20/12/2021 20:34

You say no obviously. If he creates, ditch him and have a lovely carefree Christmas.

MadeForThis · 20/12/2021 20:35

6 months? He can sleep on a friends couch if he has no family nearby.

BillyBarryBoo · 20/12/2021 20:35

He's known plenty of other people a lot longer than he knows you surely? Family, friends, work mates, friend's friend with a spare room to rent?

You didn't know him 6 months ago and you don't want him in your house. Fair enough.

Skeumorph · 20/12/2021 20:35

@homealonnneee

He has repairs he wants doing and the landlord wouldn't do it. (This is true,he has a massive hole in his ceiling ) So landlord changed locks whilst he was at work and left his things outside
That's illegal.
Takemedown · 20/12/2021 20:35

Just say no!

ilovegingercats · 20/12/2021 20:35

Probably just saying he's been kicked out so he can get his feet under your table

Tealightsandd · 20/12/2021 20:36

So landlord changed locks whilst he was at work and left his things outside

He needs to call the police, and don't let them fob him off. Not all police are well versed on this but illegal eviction is a criminal offence.

TheMissingMango · 20/12/2021 20:36

There must be a lot more to his eviction story that he isn't telling you.

And does he have no friends or family?

Original poster
homealonnneee · 20/12/2021 20:37

I don't think he signed a tenancy agreement or anything.
It's just a friend of a friend with a flat above a shop.

OP posts:
borisisaprat · 20/12/2021 20:37

F

Cherrysoup · 20/12/2021 20:37

Has he got a tenancy agreement with the landlord? He needs to get legal advice from Citizen’s advice or a shelter if it’s an HA property. He can’t just move in with you, no.

Original poster
homealonnneee · 20/12/2021 20:37

He has friends but his family live in London

OP posts:
Vapeyvapevape · 20/12/2021 20:37

The landlord can’t legally do that , although it’s a bit late now, and it seems strange that a landlord would choose to lose rent. Are you sure that’s the real story?
Does he have family he could stay with?

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