@Shayelle2009 @VanGoghsDog Hugs to you both ❤️ I have some experience with these things, though the close people involved have now passed and I'd created a healthy distance by that point. It's not easy at all.
@TobyEsterhase Wow, what a date! I'm glad you had a good time!!
@Slothmomma Sounds amazing!!! I'm so happy for you!
@BelladiMamma MrDublin sounds so perfect for you. Though I have no idea how you balance all the others!! It sounds like things could be working out for the best!
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards ❤️ to you!
Sorry to everyone I've missed, been struggling I keep up on the thread.
I'm getting really frustrated with MrT being in isolation. He seems to be the same and keeps setting up video calls so we've talked every night since Xmas eve I think. When we were talking last night we realised it's only actually been a week since we last saw each other in person which was technically the bar for our meets so far. It doesn't seem enough anymore (though it's doable and will depend on logistics on both sides).
I'm starting to develop some really strong feelings for him. I think it helps that we spent the 4 months or so after date zero connecting on a friend level - I'd intended to keep it there tbh as I really, really liked him as a person and didn't want to screw things up by adding in other stuff. Date "one" was actually labelled a "meet" rather than date with the agreement we'd decide after if it would be labelled a date. Then the chemistry thing happened.
Had a wobble and talked to him about it as ... that's apparently what we do. As I really, really want this man in my life for a long time. We laugh together so much, have the same sense of humour, and he just seems to "see" me. I feel more myself around him than I can remember feeling with anyone really. He said if I decide we should just be friends he'd respect that completely but to bear in mind that while going the other route carries more risk, it also carries greater reward.
I'm trying to stop the feelings happen so quickly as I know our biggest chance is just letting things slowly evolve. I just like him so much on every level, from friendship to sexual chemistry to intellect and our spiritual views match. We also want the same future stuff. These things have been brought up on both sides first so it's not even that he's just saying what I want to hear.
While feeling like we are different enough to learn from from each other too. He makes me want to be a better person and tackle all these "issues" I have so I don't put them on him. Because when I'm not dealing with them, things are insanely fun, but when they come up from time to time he's also so good at just listening and giving me gentle reassurance that I'm fine, my feelings are valid because of past experience, and he's not running away because he's "not made of glass".
Anyway, just needed to get that out of my head somewhere. Sorry.
On a more fun note, we're planning a cinema trip then hotel stay in the new year, plans are starting to firm up on meeting each other's friends, and he's planning on getting a tv screen set up in his bedroom so he can bring the Xbox up and we can play some co-op! He also needs to help me with the prep for the hobby he does that I've signed up the work "team" for so will be doing that as soon as it's legal to meet! (I'm going to be devastated if we go into lockdown, I really need to stroke his beard at this point 🙈)