Dating Thread 221 - will this thread see us through 'till Christmas?

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Naimee87 @Shayelle2009 @SpringlikeBunk hope you're all well

@Sugaspunsista @Languidleopard @Caramelblonde @Dancerinthemoonlight @backonthedatingtrain welcome back and thanks for popping in!

[quote StartingAgain6369]**@VanGoghsDog* @Isitreallyme177* @BelladiMamma

It was in my bag of presents from Ms YM1 they are from Asda[/quote]
I LOVE IT

just sneaked some of the DC's stocking sweets for a quick pre breakfast snack 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

What's everyone up to today?

I always love Boxing Day, its a great day and not the same pressure as Christmas Day.

I'm off to my mums this afternoon with the rest of my family (20+ of us) for bingo and buffet.
Always good fun and I always end up with sore sides from laughing and a sore throat from talking and laughing so much.

Hope you all have a good day.

@SortingItOut

What's everyone up to today?

I always love Boxing Day, its a great day and not the same pressure as Christmas Day.

I'm off to my mums this afternoon with the rest of my family (20+ of us) for bingo and buffet.
Always good fun and I always end up with sore sides from laughing and a sore throat from talking and laughing so much.

Hope you all have a good day.

That sounds like so much fun! Enjoy!

I'm aimlessly slobbing around waiting for the DC to wake up 😊

No plans here (still in bed) though I note it's not raining so should get out for a walk, but need to do a LFT first.

I think I'll have more or less the same dinner as yesterday since I have leftovers and plenty of stuff to cook. I can do roast potatoes while the gammon is cooking!

Couldn't sleep last night, annoyingly. Was still awake at four.

Hello peeps, I'm off to Mr Musics place for a few days now. Christmas was lovely so a definite change since last year for me.

I've just been to Tesco as I needed toothpaste and cat food, then I'm going over to my parents as my other brother is visiting and i need to give him their presents. Then it's home to make the bed and take the tree down as I have a slot at the tip booked for 10am tomorrow just tried to reschedule and they have nothing later tomorrow and it will just sit outside like last years if I don't take it tomorrow.

@Eesha

Hello peeps, I'm off to Mr Musics place for a few days now. Christmas was lovely so a definite change since last year for me.

I hope you have a really good time together 🎄🎄🎄❤️❤️❤️

Morning all! There's still 9 of us in the house so hopefully we'll all go for a beach walk in a minute. Then buffet lunch of cold stuff - my favourite - followed by the football (come on Arsenal! Sorry fabulous) and then the 5 guests leave and if their dad fucks off too I'll let the DC back on their xboxes which have been neglected for days. I'll then veg with leftover booze and chocolate 😅

onwards of course you're welcome at the thread meet! Fingers crossed it can go ahead...

@WeWantTheFinestWines

onwards of course you're welcome at the thread meet! Fingers crossed it can go ahead...

@WeWantTheFinestWines 🤞🏻🙂❤️

Got myself out for a run this morning, which saw me tick through 800 miles for the year. For the last 20 years I've had to go to my ex's parents on Boxing Day for 2 days of just sitting around being completely bored, so it was great to get out for some exercise this morning. Settling down on the sofa with the cat to enjoy an afternoon of rugby.

Hope everyone had a good Christmas @Eesha I hope you have a lovely time. @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards Good on you for getting rid .

I need some pearls of wisdom. I have been talking to an iron and I found out yesterday he d only been single since September of this year after being with his ex for 3 years It's made me feel uneasy especially when he mentioned missing the things he did with his and how this Christmas was different. Am I right to let this one go ? I just feel like I could be his rebound and I don't want to end up hurt .

Apart from this , we have a lot in common and want the same things but then again he might just be telling me what I want to hear.

What do I do?

@teesguy

Got myself out for a run this morning, which saw me tick through 800 miles for the year. For the last 20 years I've had to go to my ex's parents on Boxing Day for 2 days of just sitting around being completely bored, so it was great to get out for some exercise this morning. Settling down on the sofa with the cat to enjoy an afternoon of rugby.

Would love to borrow some of your motivation 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿

@backonthedatingtrain

Hope everyone had a good Christmas *@Eesha I hope you have a lovely time. @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* Good on you for getting rid .

I need some pearls of wisdom. I have been talking to an iron and I found out yesterday he d only been single since September of this year after being with his ex for 3 years It's made me feel uneasy especially when he mentioned missing the things he did with his and how this Christmas was different. Am I right to let this one go ? I just feel like I could be his rebound and I don't want to end up hurt .

Apart from this , we have a lot in common and want the same things but then again he might just be telling me what I want to hear.

What do I do?

I don't think the timing is the issue, it's the mentioning that he misses her specifically? It might just be that he's feeling like he's missing out on the cosy stuff in general and not enjoying being single? You could just ask him directly?

@BelladiMamma I did ask but he just said it was strange not having the Christmas routine he had with his ex

[quote backonthedatingtrain]@BelladiMamma I did ask but he just said it was strange not having the Christmas routine he had with his ex [/quote]
Well, it is ... I've had three christmases without my ex and I still miss all the routine. I think it's compounded by Covid though. Most people feel a bit off around this time of year. Maybe leave him be for a couple of days (you could say you're busy) then when you pick back up with him see how he's doing

@backonthedatingtrain having had dalliances with a couple of recently split guys I would say leave well alone. Being a rebound fling is no fun :(

I'm strangely finding today a bit harder to be alone than yesterday tbh. I think it was a novelty yesterday whereas today it's just...quiet. But I started the day with yoga and a healthy breakfast and just had a nice long chat with Mr Bat which was positive. Will snuggle up with the cat and a film I think. Might find a marvel film I haven't seen if I can...
@FabulousMrFifty Holkham is beautifully vast and wild, although the sea was really far out yesterday and I had to jump a few streams! Cromer is lovely too so I hope you get out there while you're this way

@Misty9 argh I thought as much 😒. @BelladiMamma thank you for sharing. I will go with what you have said and back off

@backonthedatingtrain

Hope everyone had a good Christmas *@Eesha I hope you have a lovely time. @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* Good on you for getting rid .

I need some pearls of wisdom. I have been talking to an iron and I found out yesterday he d only been single since September of this year after being with his ex for 3 years It's made me feel uneasy especially when he mentioned missing the things he did with his and how this Christmas was different. Am I right to let this one go ? I just feel like I could be his rebound and I don't want to end up hurt .

Apart from this , we have a lot in common and want the same things but then again he might just be telling me what I want to hear.

What do I do?

Thanks @backonthedatingtrain! ❤️

[quote backonthedatingtrain]**@Misty9* argh I thought as much 😒. @BelladiMamma* thank you for sharing. I will go with what you have said and back off [/quote]
If he really is on the rebound and is still talking about it in a couple of days ... then time to move on

I'm planning to get back on the apps in January as long as no announcements are made.
Tentative plans to see a friend for lunch next week so I will firm up the plans in the new few days.
Other than that doing a post Christmas sort out and thinking about 2022 goals

@BelladiMamma I wish I had the same motivation when it came to not eating biscuits.....calorie replacement in progress!!

Mr Beard left this morning to go and visit his family and since then I’ve been tidying the house and had a walk, it’s a lovely day out there.

Actually really enjoyed yesterday, in the afternoon Mr Beard and I cooked together, drank champagne and watched a film. Very relaxed and low pressure. Still felt a bit sad from looking at friends’ perfect Christmas family photos with matchy matchy outfits, but managed not to cry or get too emotional.

@Misty9
Never been to Holkam beach, but looks good.
Stuck the old girl in the car in the end and took a drive up along the costal road to Wells and back via Holt, good job too, weather here is rubbish