Dating Thread 221 - will this thread see us through 'till Christmas?

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@InABetterPlaceNow 😘😘😘

[quote Misty9]@FabulousMrFifty it's Holkham.[/quote]
Oh okay, not been there, tide looks a long way out as you can see a sandbank.
I’m going to try a persuade my mum to take a trip out to Cromer tomorrow, I think we can get on the pier, but my god is normally Cold…

Oh well time to break out the Quality Street

Christmas has been lovely, and our roast turned out brilliant. However, it's all gone a bit wonky tonight!

Eldest returned from a walk with her BF with a bloomin kitten. She knows I don't want any more cats. She was full of sob story about how it was going to be dumped somewhere if it wasn't given a home (she knows the family she got it from, they don't sound very nice to be fair), runt of the litter, barely weaned etc. MrT said that's not adoption material, it's report them to the RSPCA time which is absolutely right (and I would if I had the details of them but eldest won't tell me) and it seemed to cut off what was a day of nice messages. I'm probably just overthinking that bit, hopefully.

Current plan is get it fed etc for a few days then I'm probably going to have to be a mean horrible Mum and get it rehomed. It would just be one too many 😞

@VanGoghsDog I think its the best one tonight, just the right amount of lightheartedness.

Checking in to say Merry Christmas everyone. I'm still seeing my long distance guy and he's got alot better at communicating. I'll see him the week after christmas. It's been over 6 months now.

Hope everyone is doing okay??

MrT was just video chatting with his DD and having food and naps. I have GOT to stop with the overthinking this kind of stuff, it's just so hard to not walk on eggshells when I've done it all my life. I think it's going to be a case of constantly challenging myself when the thoughts come up, take a chill pill, and wait to see what he does. In this case, giving me an update and arranging for a video chat once kiddos are in bed 🙄

Still no idea what to do about the kitten. It seems to hate being alone so is being babysat by the younger two (because eldest has now left for the night!! Urgh!!), causing arguments already and I'm very grumpy about the whole thing. I've already made it very clear to all the girls that it won't be able to stay 😞

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm happy to read that you have blocked and deleted Mr Gambit.
Had a chilled Christmas and looking forward to the adventures of next year

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm happy to read that you have blocked and deleted Mr Gambit.
Had a chilled Christmas and looking forward to the adventures of next year[/quote]
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Thank you @VanGoghsDog - think a call to them tomorrow is in order ❤️

Sorry, wrong quote: meant for @InABetterPlaceNow

@InABetterPlaceNow how old do you think the kitten is?

Can someone please tell me to stop or take the bag away of marshmallows with Santa faces on 🙈

[quote StartingAgain6369]@InABetterPlaceNow how old do you think the kitten is?[/quote]
It's eating solids and drinking, and using the litter tray, and eyes are green rather than blue. However it's absolutely tiny - I'm guessing around 8 weeks, I'd be very surprised if it's any older. Which means it would come with a host of behaviour issues I think if we did keep it - already seeing them as it cries constantly when it's alone, wants to be snuggled with someone, and is really possessive with food 😞 It was absolutely starving when it got here. I'll get it wormed and fleaed too as it's got quite a pot belly. Poor thing 😞

@StartingAgain6369

Can someone please tell me to stop or take the bag away of marshmallows with Santa faces on 🙈

Mmmm....marshamallows.......

@VanGoghsDog
There's only 2 left in the bag and yes I am eating them in bed........ well it is Christmas 🙈🤣

Had a great day with my DDs. They said I did good with their presents and were really grateful. They got me a cool poster of the cycling climbs in the Alps and a lovely mug. We enjoyed lunch and had a good chat afterwards. They went to their mum's this afternoon so I've been chilling with the cat and eating chocolate since then. All in all a great day!

And two date zeros in the pipeline for Monday and Tuesday!!

[quote StartingAgain6369]@VanGoghsDog
There's only 2 left in the bag and yes I am eating them in bed........ well it is Christmas 🙈🤣[/quote]
Omg. I need those

@teesguy

Had a great day with my DDs. They said I did good with their presents and were really grateful. They got me a cool poster of the cycling climbs in the Alps and a lovely mug. We enjoyed lunch and had a good chat afterwards. They went to their mum's this afternoon so I've been chilling with the cat and eating chocolate since then. All in all a great day!

And two date zeros in the pipeline for Monday and Tuesday!!

Aww that's so great re the DC

& a nice distraction to have the date zeros coming up soon 😊

[quote StartingAgain6369]@VanGoghsDog
There's only 2 left in the bag and yes I am eating them in bed........ well it is Christmas 🙈🤣[/quote]
@StartingAgain6369 where did you get those from 😲

Love the Santa marshmallows, makes my normal ones look boring!

@VanGoghsDog @Isitreallyme177 @BelladiMamma

It was in my bag of presents from Ms YM1 they are from Asda

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Can I just say sorry to you all? You were right. And thank you. ❤️

How gracious of you. And this is exactly why you deserve someone much better than Mr Gambit ❤

I've had a lovely day, even though all I seemed to do was lurch from one meal/drink/snack to the next, with washing up and clearing up filling the gaps. I'm grateful that ex and I get on well enough that we can host Christmas together, and I'm proud of my teenage boys for keeping two toddlers entertained all day. Tomorrow the guests leave, the next day I'm off to stay in the alternative accommodation on my own. I'm not back at work until NYE. Being off work at the same time as my DC (other than for a weekend) is a first and I'm not sure how I'll handle it as I'm loving their company these days and we haven't spent much quality time together in my week with them because of Christmas prep and guests. I suppose I'll read, watch films and eat. Go for walks if it stops raining. It will be a bit sad. Maybe I should work on my profile and get back on the apps.

Thank you to everyone that's commented. I just wanted to make amends to everyone. I've been struggling with my physical and mental health, but I've took it out on everyone here, which isn't fair, when you all have tried to understand and shared things with me. I appreciate it.

I've had more support from you when I've been feeling Ill. I told Mr Gambit that i was feeling unwell three times on Thursday, but he didn't care. He just carried on with things. It made me realise that I didn't expect that from a potential partner and father to my children.

The children that he teaches are probably more mature than him 😂😂

Hope I'm still welcome at the thread Meetup soon ❤️

Morning everyone and I hope that you've had a nice couple of days.

My DC were with their Dad; 3 out of 4 of them got Covid in the run up and all I cared about was whether or not they were ok and getting back here for the day yesterday, which they did. We had a lovely end to the day. I started Christmas Day at my Mum's with my tree surgeon BFF and our dogs. Mum cooked a fantastic meal and we all had a lovely time. Everyone got one kiss and hug after we all tested negative so that was great.

The only bum note was having to see my ex when I picked up the DC and then as I got them in the car the gf came to the door but the ex didn't even introduce us so I just hung back. It was fine though, amongst all the crap stuff he's done I just thought, I'm not going to step in and be all jolly and say hi to her so I managed to turn very quickly and hop in the car. She's the one that has to live with him so she can be gracious if she wants but I'll just keep ignoring her. Since she road raged me back in the summer, and they did the sum total of FA to help when I was bed bound after my accident ... I really don't give a shit! 💩

I have been reading the thread and sorry if I miss anyone out but @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards good move with the blocking and you've had some very sound advice
@WeWantTheFinestWines the thread lasted!!!
@FabulousMrFifty you've never been to Holkham ... it's gorgeous!! Probably harder to visit with your Mum if she's not very mobile but borrow someone's dogs and have a lovely tramp there, it's magical
@VanGoghsDog love the sound of your meal!!
@Isitreallyme1277 I'm also looking forward to the gym but I need the motivation! With the teens I always have time to nip out in the morning as they sleep so much but I haven't slept much the last two nights either so I'm craving a lie in. The dogs were very needy at my mum's so slept with me in a tiny single bed and the night before I may have had late night cuddles with MrDublin. After my late night with MrPoet. My friend runs a zoom class stretch and cardio every morning at 8 and she's starting again tomorrow so that's always an option too

It's been an interesting one with MrDublin. He's definitely a real contender for a serious relationship and has started the conversation with me but I've been quite clear that we need to go step by step and I won't promise him anything in advance as I am enjoying my freedom. It's really good to be in a place where someone that you find attractive and is sensible and fun and a proper grown up lays their cards on the table. I've found it's a really good place to be and you know straight away that they're not game playing or holding out for something more interesting or exciting. He's got chats on the go with others but he says he's told them all that he's focusing on me. He's also bisexual which is reassuring for me as he 'gets' it. Also he's not searching for classic monogamy or living together etc etc but is really focused on us trying to figure out if we can agree on a strong and solid basis for a relationship and in his words, if we develop 'nothing is off the table'. In short, I'm really pleased I met him and I'm intrigued to see where this one could go.