Dating Thread 221 - will this thread see us through 'till Christmas?

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Misty9
Somewhere on the NN coast, Happisburgh or Cart Gap, maybe Walcott or even Mundesley ?

Sorry to read that some of you are struggling. This whole magical thing is generally just from the media including films, I doubt many in real life would say their Christmas is magical, probably more nice or lovely or fun.

I'm still full from my Indian 4 hours ago but DD is back from her Dad's starving so I'm cooking some buffet food🙄

I've had a lovely day just pottering around, took one of my dogs on a long walk (my DS took the other one on a shorter walk), ate the aforementioned Indian, drunk coffee and ate chocolates and that's about it.

Thanks for the lift you guys. I think I still struggle with occasions like this as I never imagined doing them 'alone' ie without DC dad and I still find it a bit of a shock. I'm incredibly lucky to have lovely family that really go out of their way to make things special and look after me. It's when you are alone with your thoughts isn't it? And the expectations that 'its the most wonderful time'. I just can't be arsed but have to!
DC have finally admitted exhaustion and headed to bed. I'm sat in silence and almost dark just trying to unwind a bit. I hit the Irish coffee a bit hard earlier so sticking with soft drinks now 😅

And bloody BRAVO @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm so proud of you!

@Heartbeats0708

And bloody BRAVO *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* I'm so proud of you!

@Heartbeats0708 🙂❤️😘

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I've just blocked Mr Gambit and deleted his number 😘

Yes, great news, you can start 2022 a fresh

@StartingAgain6369 indeed! 👍🏻❤️😘

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I've just blocked Mr Gambit and deleted his number 😘

Well done @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards don't unblock him either. Start 2022 fresh.

onwards you're an absolute star! So proud of you. Totally the right decision, new beginnings, well done ❤

Btw. Thread saw us through till Christmas! 😆🎅🥂🥂🥂

@FabulousMrFifty it's Holkham.

@Heartbeats0708

How's everyone doing? I had a bit of a moment this morning and I'd like to say it passed quickly but it didn't. I just felt really flat and like I don't actually enjoy Christmas? Everyone talks about how magical it is with young DC but I wasn't feeling that at all. I'm quite relieved it's all almost over to be honest.

I can feel the pressure draining away as the day draws in, and I'll be able to enjoy the next nine days as just a holiday. I've thrown in a volunteer shift at the vaccine center on 30th, which means work will give me a half day holiday back 😃

But I did have an emotional time, embarrassingly watching the snip of the Queen's speech on the news. Proper sobbed. Oh well.

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Btw. Thread saw us through till Christmas! 😆🎅🥂🥂🥂

🥂🥂🥂 I think it will keep us going for a bit, Christmas has slowed the posts down

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I've just blocked Mr Gambit and deleted his number 😘

Strong move, very well done - allow yourself time to mourn and reflect, but also resolve to move on to more positive things

[quote Misty9]@FabulousMrFifty it's Holkham.[/quote]
Lovely beach, I was planning on driving over to Weybourne / Holt for a walk today but stayed local instead

Can I just say sorry to you all? You were right. And thank you. ❤️

Thank you @WeWantTheFinestWines and @VanGoghsDog ❤️😘

@Heartbeats0708

Thanks for the lift you guys. I think I still struggle with occasions like this as I never imagined doing them 'alone' ie without DC dad and I still find it a bit of a shock. I'm incredibly lucky to have lovely family that really go out of their way to make things special and look after me. It's when you are alone with your thoughts isn't it? And the expectations that 'its the most wonderful time'. I just can't be arsed but have to! DC have finally admitted exhaustion and headed to bed. I'm sat in silence and almost dark just trying to unwind a bit. I hit the Irish coffee a bit hard earlier so sticking with soft drinks now 😅

@Heartbeats0708 that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling today - I’m with family, I have my kids with me and have had a couple of lovely check ins with Mr L and I still feel sad. I was awake half the night upset about how my decision to spilt with my exH has affected my kids and how their Christmas is different from their cousins.

(Of course Christmas when he was here was shit too but I forget that when I’m thinking life should be perfect mom dad and kids 🙄)

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Thank you *@WeWantTheFinestWines and @VanGoghsDog* ❤️😘

Very gracious Onwards and delighted you made that decision. It will allow you to move to better things when you are ready

@MayEye I always forget how shit Christmas was with my ex, we'd argue, he'd be working so would get up at lunchtime and be an arse because he was tired. I can't remember the last time I actually enjoyed Christmas, I used to love the build up but always found the day a let down. But since being asked for a divorce 5 years ago on the 23rd I can't even be bothered with the build up.

Yes @VanGoghsDog I can feel it lifting too,I've settled back into my normal evening routine and had a quick tidy up which has helped. I think a cry would be really beneficial for me but the tears won't come. Hope you're feeling relaxed
@MayEye exactly that, the impact on the kids is becoming more and more noticeable to them. I don't miss exh, I miss the family unit iyswim?
I did something pretty unusual for me and reached out to a friend for a bit of a pep talk. I'm useless at asking for help!

@StartingAgain6369 are you Norfolk way as well then?

@Misty9

No I'm Warwickshire but normally holiday North Norfolk, you're in a lovely part of the world

I've settled back into my normal evening routine and had a quick tidy up which has helped.

Yeah, dishwasher on, Corrie on. Camomile tea and bed shortly then it's all's done.

Thanks for the Corrie tip @Isitreallyme1277 - I was waiting for it. It's pretty good actually.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards Well done!! Now you can use all that headspace he was sucking up to focus in on yourself where you deserve it to be. Remember, you might wobble but you can always come here and vent if you need to!