Dating Thread 221 - will this thread see us through 'till Christmas?

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@WeWantTheFinestWines

You lovely lovely threaders. Have the merriest of Christmases. Or survive it; it's only a day out of 365 after all. You really are the most wonderful little community and my life is richer for having you all in it. I have to get up soon to put the oven on so goodnight to you all and Merry Christmas! 🎄🎅🍾🥂🥂🥂

@WeWantTheFinestWines sending loads of love to you ❤️😘❤️😘❤️

I just want to say sorry to you all, for yesterday.

The pain in my legs is really bad and I can't sleep. ❤️

Merry Christmas to my favourite bunch on the internet. I hope you all have a wonderful time, whatever it's you have going on.
I'll probably be hanging around a bit today as I'm having a similar wobble to @Stayingstrongish and it feels like a virtual hand hold ❤️

Happy Christmas everyone! Thank you for all your support and advice it does get taken onboard.❤

Now I've had an argument with both cats this morning as one clawed my 1000 thread count Egyptian cotton sheet (I've had it about 7 years, can't afford to replace it and M&S don't seem to do them anymore) and the other literally scratched the duvet cover just because they wanted breakfast🤦‍♀️🤣🤷‍♀️. They're now sat in the sitting room chattering away. Think I should get up and let them outside.

Merry Christmas everyone. I woke up at 5am for no apparent reason 😩

@Heartbeats0708 I love how places like Mumsnet become a refuge/hiding place for those of us with slightly wonky arrangements on days like Christmas Day. My mum’s here (complicated relationship) and luckily I’ve got my DC this year, so we’ll have a good day. But it’s not the bustling hub of thriving family activity I always thought I’d have (ie fantasised about).

On the plus side, plans are afoot to see Mr Mixtape on the 28th and there’s been lots of good contact. I’ve also got plans with London friends either side and am feeling in general a lot calmer than I have been over the past couple of weeks. I feel clearer about what it is I need from any romantic entanglement (and what causes spiralling anxiety ie ambivalence).

Waiting for my children to wake up now - they’ve never been like I was as a child - I’d have been up for hours by now!

Happy Christmas everyone

I'll be floating around today, may go for a walk later but the forecast isn't great

As @WeWantTheFinestWines said it's one day @Heartbeats0708 I second your comments about the favourite bunch on the Internet and @Isitreallyme1277 I hope your bedding survives the day

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards thanks for the hugs - sorry you’re in so much pain x

@Heartbeats0708 we’re here for you today. We’ll all get through it together.

Waiting for my kids to wake up too!! This is my first Christmas as a single dad. Both my DDs are with me until this afternoon. Hopefully they like the presents I have got them. Hope everyone have a wonderful day.

Merry Christmas to you all, hope 2021 sees us all off the thread....

or 2022 even

Merry Christmas🎄🎅
Thanks to all the threaders who make up the best group on Mumsnet💗

Today is a funny old day, my kids are older so there is no waking up early for them (DD is with her Dad until this afternoon) so I'm currently sitting with coffee in bed, will walk the dogs soon, have a leisurely breakfast, potter about, have a long walk (weather permitting) and then eat curry later on before DD comes home and we do presents, will do a few games and a buffet tonight.
I know its not like other peoples xmas but its perfect for me.
I had too many years of stress on xmas day caused by my ex husband and so changing it up makes all the difference.
I'd be the one stressing over the presents, having brought them all after he spent all his money, we'd all be up early for present opening, afterwards he'd go back to bed as he was tired still while I prepared roast, he'd eventually get up and lay on the sofa watching TV and fall asleep,I'd serve roast, he'd have a nap on the sofa, then we'd play games and he'd have a nap and then it would be bedtime.

What I have now is so much better even though there is just 2 of us for most of today.

I hope those who wobble today come back to the thread where we can support each other.

Merry Christmas everyone
@Isitreallyme1277 I can’t believe you are arguing with your pets !
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards really hope you feel better soon
@SortingItOut that sounds perfect, I will definitely get a dog when I retire

@teesguy you sound like a great dad, you be fine

I used to be a sad being single at Christmas, but I’m actually pretty happy, none of awful relationships stresses to worry about 🎅

Merry Christmas all you lovely lot!

Wishing everyone on here a happy Christmas! Thanks for the kind words and support when it’s been needed! Wishing us all the best health, wealth and love life luck for 2022 💕💕💕

@FabulousMrFifty one was even hitting me in the face 🤣. At 5.30 on Christmas day I just wanted another hour in bed. If only they could learn to feed themselves!

@SortingItOut your Christmas sounds lovely. Bet you're glad your life how it is now rather than being basically the domestic slave!! Have a lovely day 🙂

Happy Christmas everyone! Thanks for all the support and wisdom in recent months. Hope everyone has a nice time / gets through it ok xx

@Shayelle2009 Thank you, I love my life and although I do understand people who get wistful about families I'm just so pleased to be away from my ex husband and that life.

I'm dreading the Xmas Day when Mr K wants to be together as he's very traditional and will want roast (he's a better cook than me so hopefully he'd cook it) and I just think 'no thanks'😂
Luckily he still believes in not leaving his mum alone so will go to hers every year (he has 2 brothers who are useless), either with his son or without, and shes in good health so will hopefully be with us for many years to come so hopefully the spending Xmas Day together won't happen for a long time😂.

Hope you have a great day.

Merry Christmas everyone

🤣 you’re funny @SortingItOut. It’s really great it works well with you and MrK 💗

Happy Christmas @Dancerinthemoonlight hope everything is well with you x

In other news… I have a big ridiculous crush on some guy I walk past a lot on my local high street. My 2022 resolution is to try and speak to him somehow! Been ages since I had a crush on someone so it’s kind of cool 🙂 I'm going to call him MrTurk 😆

@Stayingstrongish you're very welcome and that's okay. It's worn off a bit now, thankfully ❤️

@FabulousMrFifty- thank you ❤️ me too! It'll be much easier once I definitely know what the problem is.

I'm feeling okay today. Just a bit tired. I've already had a lovely text exchange with my friend, so that's cheered me up. ❤️

She came round to my house to drop off a Christmas present she'd brought for me and I came downstairs to see her. The first thing she said when she saw me was 'you look really tired.' So I had to explain to her about what's been happening. I think she's been a bit worried, so I feel guilty about that.

To everyone else- thank you so much for all the support, I do appreciate it, (even though it may not seem like it) and I'm grateful for all your collective wisdom you inpart. Hope you all have a fantastic day 😘😘

@Dancerinthemoonlight great to hear from you again ❤️

Happy Christmas everyone!!

I had my first ever Christmas lie in today and the kids made me a coffee to wake me up, I could get used to this kind of start to Christmas!!

Was a good job as MrT kept to his word on listening to me mutter as I wrapped endless presents and then we stayed up talking till 3am 😅 He was trying to work out a way to stream music for us but we didn't manage a solution (he's android, I'm iPhone) - any ideas?

After a fair few White Russians I swung it back round to a "check in" on where we are. As I really, really like him so I'm now in the "how the heck does he like me" phase which I think I mentioned last night. Turns out he's firmly 2 feet in, sees this being long term, and is absolutely happy to be completely exclusive (the White Russians might have said "but I feel like I'm denying all of womankind a massive gift 😩😂")

Time to start thinking about getting the roast on!!