Dating Thread 220 - where we forget about pensions and get back to dating

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@InABetterPlaceNow thanks for your thoughtful words, as you say hopefully things will get more comfortable with time. I guess the talking thing plays on my mind a bit as when my ex left he said we weren’t having enough adult conversations (a bit tricky around two under 5s and with severe sleep deprivation to be fair!)

@Naimee87 I so envy you your chattiness, would love a bubbly personality!

@FabulousMrFifty glad it’s not just me that can find it tricky to think of things to say sometimes.

For what it’s worth, based on the words you told us Mrs W said, it didn’t sound like she meant to laugh at you in a mean way. But appreciate it can be more about the feeling of the moment and what matters is how it made you feel. Perhaps she is not as caring as you’d like generally and you’re looking for someone more gentle/considerate.

@Stayingstrongish my friend bought me a reading with an astrologer for my birthday in June. She's BIG into it, i don't know much but find it intriguing. I was told by the astrologer that i have 'free association' which means that i can quite easily go off topic when listening to someone as i'll think of a million different stories or questions that i think are loosley based on what we are talking about. I never even really thought about. But it can comes across as rude sometimes because its as if i'm not listening ( admittedly i'm not a great listener ) or it comes across as if i'm changing topic on someone. They see know connection whereas i do and it's all done subconsciously. My sister hates trying to have conversations with me really. I can't imagine not being chatty / reserved actually.
2 under 5, wow! Not much time at all for anything with such tiny rugrats! Are they older now? I've a 12yr old here whose either in full on hyper-active mode bouncing all over the show chatting about everything or he's glued to his phone and pretty much on 'do not disturb mode' ...

@Onesmallstep67

But between me and you guys, MrT feels more apt if that makes sense? - only if he has a Mohawk and wears lots of gold jewellery 😂

Does he say “I pity the fool” a lot?

@SpringlikeBunk it’s so great you felt secure enough to be open with him and tell him that, and he is interested enough to step up for you, fix that issue (so far).. let’s see how it all goes.. good man Hedgehog 🌟

Today I’m getting all glammed up going for a swanky lunch with a very beautiful friend in central. I’ll be interested to see how busy everywhere is. Hopefully won’t come back with any dreaded C!
(Covid that is.. not cock… hehe)

Have a splendid Friday everyone!

@VanGoghsDog
My Mum normally goes to either my sisters or one of her own younger sisters, but looks like I’m going to my Mums, will get a small beef joint I think and cook for her, I don’t really like Turkey that much,, even though I’m from Norfolk!

[quote Stayingstrongish]@FabulousMrFifty glad it’s not just me that can find it tricky to think of things to say sometimes.

For what it’s worth, based on the words you told us Mrs W said, it didn’t sound like she meant to laugh at you in a mean way. But appreciate it can be more about the feeling of the moment and what matters is how it made you feel. Perhaps she is not as caring as you’d like generally and you’re looking for someone more gentle/considerate.[/quote]
Well yes, she does tend to call a Spade a Spade, whereas I’m bit more waffling Home Counties type, think Miles Jupp, but not so posh, or clever or funny

@PurpleStripyScarf

Oh my goodness *@InABetterPlaceNow* - that's an actual thing - beard fairy lights. Wow, the things you learn on the internet!

Lovely to hear that you're taking the step of calling him Mr T

Oh dear, I only have a Goatee, so beard lights won’t work, maybe I should wrap them around my other beard instead…

maybe I should wrap them around my other beard instead…

😳
How do you think Ms W would react to that?

@PurpleStripyScarf
Laugh her socks off I expect…

@InABetterPlaceNow
Does your Mr T drive a black van with a red stripe down the side , from which he randomly leaps while firing a machine gun wildly in air shouting “Crazy Fool” ?

@FabulousMrFifty

@Naimee87 that’s a good talking tip, to try and free associate and talk about connected topics (even if the connection is only obvious to you!). Thanks

The rugrats are now two under 6, so not that much older! Having a twelve year old sounds fun!

😁 Yup I was expecting to come back to this. I realised not long after I'd picked his name this day would come, but I'd already changed his name 3 times so I figured I'd just have to suck it up 🤣😂😅

@FabulousMrFifty 🙈🤣😂💡🚨💡🚨

@InABetterPlaceNow @FabulousMrFifty we have even more photographic evidence now 🥊😂

[quote Onesmallstep67]**@InABetterPlaceNow* @FabulousMrFifty* we have even more photographic evidence now 🥊😂[/quote]
😂🤣😂🤣 Tempted to suggest the mohawk, I reckon he could pull it off... but might be a step too far after the fairy light conversation 😁🙈

Anyways, he's more like his... 😅😂🤣😂

Oh god @FabulousMrFifty I wouldn't ever laugh AT somebody, but Mr D and I always have a good giggle in bed. If sex isn't messy, funny and a little cringe at times I don't feel like I've had the full experience!
I agree with pp that maybe Ms W isn't meeting your emotional needs quite as well as your sexual ones, and in fwb we usually do still have those emotional needs.
Definitely ready to be upgraded to Mr T @InABetterPlaceNow
Hello to everyone else, I'm in a terrible flare at the moment and can't think straight enough to remember specifics!

@InABetterPlaceNow

Anyways, he's more like his... 😅😂🤣😂

Lol, that’s great 😃 Maybe a costume to spice things up ….

www.fancydress.com/products/adult-the-a-team-mr-t-costume

@FabulousMrFifty 🤣😂🤣😂 That's worse than beard fairy lights!! Practically a chastity belt!!! 🤣😂🤣

@Heartbeats0708 Hope you feel better soon!! ❤️

Now I want to buy Mr G some beard lights @PurpleStripyScarf. I shall blame you haha 😂

@Shayelle2009 have a brilliant time in town today, it seems an ideal day for a glam ladies meet.

Just checking in, Mr Music left today after another couple of days and nights together. Still no sex but enjoying ourselves immensely and we are safe to say both smitten, ridiculous as that sounds...

@Shayelle2009 have a lovely lovely time!!! Getting dressed up must feel nice and eating out, can't remember the last time i did that.
@SpringlikeBunk did you ever see the model-fail video where she's walking the catwalk in shoes that are insane... she wobbles a million times, stumbles, manages to catch herself only to ultimately floor it? I imagine this would be me trying to walk in heels again... i'm so wanting to wear my favourite boots but nowhere to wear them too as they don't match my mask... 😂
I bit the bullet and asked magnet-man about being able to keep us as we are and he told me 'he absolutely isn't going to disappear.' I felt needy even just writing it. I suppose i always get slightly more worried after having had such a good time with him because i absolutely want it to happen again. And each time seems to top the last. And i know in my mind i'll not be disappearing. Also a load fell on his face yesterday and he was SO mad! Very pleased i got photo's of us beforehand.

Also a load fell on his face yesterday and he was SO mad! Very pleased i got photo's of us beforehand.

A load of what exactly, Naimee? 🤔😳