I've got a problem with him burping. Am I being uptight?

[SoGross]

Married to DH with two small DC. Me in thirties, him in forties.

Rightio....jokes aside....

Last year he has started to burp in the evenings. I mean some really long, loud, almost cartoon like burps. It started off as me joking about it and saying he needs to stop etc but it all being funny and a bit silly. I would pretend to slap him when he did it etc.

He does it more and more now. I mean, every 15 minutes. And so loud. Right next to me on the sofa

I've started to be slightly more serious with my annoyance and he says 'oh ok i'll try to stop but i can't help it' but he never does it in front of anyone else so clearly he can help it. But then he says 'but i'm relaxed at home'

Tonight, I was trying to get the DC ready for bed and he just did the loudest and longest burp and both kids started giggling. And I just lost it at him. I said I found him disgusting.

He is now sulking. And basically saying I'm an uptight prude. And a bit of a bully. And if he ever called me "disgusting", I would rightly be v. upset. He says I've being very OTT and he now feels uncomfortable in his own house.

What do you guys think? When I write this I think I sound uptight but he does it so, so much.

@Meltedwellie

Poor bloke living with you. Yes you are very uptight.let him relax in his own house. It’s only a noise, unless he’s doing it right in your face in which case you would have a point but just in the same room sitting beside you, nah, you need to unclench 🤣

He’s not relaxing. He’s deliberately putting on a show of loud comedy belching, complete with taking a bow, to annoy her.

@freeatlast2021 Thank you, although hopefully there are more and more good guys out there and one day it'll just be normal! (I guess I've never tried to date guys so I don't really know what it's like out there.)

@MoonbeamsGlittering Yes, things are changing a little but the process is slow I am afraid.

I must be the only woman on here who doesn’t mind the burping/farting 🙈🙈

@MoonbeamsGlittering I've been on Mumsnet for maybe a year or two. I've read some really, really fucked up things on here. All sort of rape stories, but one that stood out was not one that was as harrowing. Just really sad. She was a woman who was a stay at home mum. They weren't struggling for money, yet she had to fight for and justify every penny she spent. She came on here upset that her partner/husband didn't want to give her £40 for a winter coat, so she could push them pram out more places without being really cold (she couldn't or was not allowed to drive the car). £40 won't buy you much for winter. Maybe coast made of polyester or nylon but not a wool coat which are usually a lot more expensive. She wasn't asking for expensive jewellery or even money for her own hobbies - just a very practical winter coat and had to fight to get something that had such an obvious practical use. She wasn't treated liked a loved, cherished partner or co-parents. More like a domestic servant. I hope she managed to get a job and leave him but I don't remember now.

I never knew how many women were worried about what their DH/BF might do if they tried to leave

Mind you, some of the women on her are in exceptional circumstances. They're in relationships with a very unbalanced power dynamic, some of them are in abusive situations, and the most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves an abusive husband.

on here*

This isn't about what he's doing exactly OP, it's how often he's doing it (which is unusual), his attitude towards it, and a few other things which don't sound very nice to a reader.

@EarthSight Yes, I think you're right that so many of the threads are disturbing because women aren't being treated as equal partners but rather as servants or nags or replacement mothers. I would like to be part of a movement trying to help more in some way but often I don't even know what I could do to help. Sometimes I think we need a MeToo movement but for men saying they stand with women. I can't even think of a good name for it!

I could not be with someone so right wing and so dismissive of women's rights and feelings. It would be a turn off and I wouldn't even want to touch him let alone have sex with him. The dismissing what food you buy, laughing at you and eating fast like a pig makes it even worse. That he burps like that is a major turnoff and you if he keeps doing it I would say to him that it is a major turnoff to you and makes you not want to have sex with him (I would say that about his far right views and sexist views of women also), I guarantee you if he wants sex the loud exaggerated burps will cease pretty quick smart!

Ok. You can't help belching if you need to (without making yourself very uncomfortable) and you should be able to let gas out in your own home. However, I think that most people can burp quietly. Would be belch like that if the vicar / Queen / his granny had come to tea? If the answer is no, YANBU. If the answer is yes, he needs to see the GP.