Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

[Heartbeats0708]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

He showed up! I shall report later lads and ladies

@Dazedandconfused10

He showed up! I shall report later lads and ladies

Hurrah 😃

No he's free the Saturday and Sunday when I have no child care 🤣🤣 told me he likes my company though which was nice to hear. When he hadn't asked for a third date I was beginning to worry he wasn't interested

@Dazedandconfused10

He showed up! I shall report later lads and ladies

Have a great time

@inmyslippers

No he's free the Saturday and Sunday when I have no child care 🤣🤣 told me he likes my company though which was nice to hear. When he hadn't asked for a third date I was beginning to worry he wasn't interested

So do you have a date lined up now

Hope those that bought a hat kept the receipt.. I'm getting a feeling from Mr D. He seems distant/off. I had some difficulties with my ex that unsettled me- I was honest about it and the distance seems to have grown. Not sure if he's just not feeling it any more or if the ex stuff was a red flag to him but I cannot stand not just talking things through rationally. Might need a handhold with this one.

@Heartbeats0708 oh no that's a shame. Has he said anything? Is he willing to talk it through? Mr Cricket has been distant this week too (he moves on Friday though and is preoccupied with that). Maybe there's something in the air.

@Dazedandconfused10

He showed up! I shall report later lads and ladies

Go girl ! yes full report later

@Heartbeats0708
Yes still got the receipt but he may just be giving you some breathing space or doesn't know what to say

@Isitreallyme177
With Mr C moving it's one of those things which is never easy however smoothly the move goes.

He said he wasn't feeling well earlier @Isitreallyme177 and there's a nasty cold doing the rounds but no reason why he couldn't have replied to my message, bloody blue ticks tell me what I didn't want to know!
Hope things pick up again with Mr Cricket after moving day.

Yes! Grandparent came through and agreed to baby sit. We're off out for dinner on Saturday 💃🏾 this will be date number 3.

@inmyslippers

Yes! Grandparent came through and agreed to baby sit. We're off out for dinner on Saturday 💃🏾 this will be date number 3.

Yay 😁

Good for you

@Heartbeats0708 oh bugger. That's not great. Breathe through it and try not to read too much into it until you get the chance to speak to him? Easier said than done. 💓here's a heart beating 💓 just for you

Yay to @inmyslippers

Sorry to @Heartbeats0708

@StartingAgain6369 that's why I'm leaving him in peace at the moment. I get the feeling he is also juggling work and the divorce. I was shattered when I moved and didn't want to see or speak to anyone all week. I was too busy getting everything sorted and pots and pans put in cupboards to feel like chatting.

@Heartbeats0708 my ex has a nasty cough at the moment, had to rush him to hospital for xrays on Monday. He's a grumpy fuck, I called him earlier and had my head bitten off🤦‍♀️. Men when they ate ill!! And thank you I'm hoping once moving day has been and things have calmed down he might be less distant.

Well ladies, you know me. Not one to waste a contact or two, I've fired up the chats from Feeld and I currently have:

MrDad - date zero this morning. Second date next Monday although I might let him know now that it's more of a friend thing.

MrLumberjack
MissBrazil
MrChile
MrConsultant
MrGermanShepherdDog

Trying to figure out if we can do any date zeros or second meets (MissBrazil) before Christmas. All seem keen and non flaky. Quite fancy a shag before Christmas. Unlikely to happen given my lack of availability but as we've said before, God loves a tryer. Maybe Father Christmas does too.
🤷🏻‍♀️ 🤶🏻 🎄

@BelladiMamma

Well ladies, you know me. Not one to waste a contact or two, I've fired up the chats from Feeld and I currently have:

MrDad - date zero this morning. Second date next Monday although I might let him know now that it's more of a friend thing.

MrLumberjack
MissBrazil
MrChile
MrConsultant
MrGermanShepherdDog

Trying to figure out if we can do any date zeros or second meets (MissBrazil) before Christmas. All seem keen and non flaky. Quite fancy a shag before Christmas. Unlikely to happen given my lack of availability but as we've said before, God loves a tryer. Maybe Father Christmas does too.
🤷🏻‍♀️ 🤶🏻 🎄

Sorry didn't mean to exclude the chaps as well just said 'ladies' out of habit

Who pays for the third date? This will be the furthest I've got with anyone off tinder 🤣. First date he paid, second date I offered to split the bill and he declined. What's the etiquette? I'm very rusty at this

@inmyslippers

Who pays for the third date? This will be the furthest I've got with anyone off tinder 🤣. First date he paid, second date I offered to split the bill and he declined. What's the etiquette? I'm very rusty at this

It's up to you. I'd always offer to split the bill and then see where it goes from there?

@BelladiMamma
Sorry didn't mean to exclude the chaps as well just said 'ladies' out of habit no offence taken

Sorry didn't mean to exclude the chaps as well just said 'ladies' out of habit

No worries, I’m ducking out anyhow, nothing more of value to add.

I know this isn't dating but it was interaction with a lady

DD1 was in a after school netball comp tonight against 5 other schools. Got there around 7pm to watch and spotted a mum who I use to get on really with but they moved house and changed school.

Her DD was playing for her new school, so I went over and said hello and she gave me a hug and said I'll come and have a proper chat when the match has finished.

About 15 mins later she came over to me, I could see DD1 watching me out of one eye, but it was great to catch up, I had lots of questions about girlfriends so I said it was quiet on that front but I'm fond of Ms Sunglasses and she made me smile by telling me to get out there !

Got another hug and a peck on the cheek and said goodbye

@BelladiMamma well done for getting back on the proverbial horse. Does any excite you in particular?

@StartingAgain6369 yes, the school mum is right, definitely get out there. Did you have your dinner/pudding with Miss Sunglasses yet?

@Heartbeats0708 try not to overthink, talk it through before you drive yourself mad. It might not be as bad as you think.

Gosh the weekend is looming again, I'm actually half way through Christmas shopping (online), far more fun than online dating

@Eesha I must start my Xmas shopping, the problem is my kids (24 & 18) don't know what they want 🙄

Mr K's son has Covid, Mr K is not vaccinated🤬
So another 10 days of not seeing him.
A few weeks ago we went 10 days without seeing each other due to my work and his fishing trip.
I told him last week that when we don't see each other I feel like we're friends and not partners, he was a bit shocked.

Mr K is not happy about the 10 day thing (I told him I don't want to see him plus of course its the law) I told him that if he was vaccinated we wouldn't be in this position.....he didn't answer.

Lets see how I feel after 10 days....thank god for counselling 😂

@Eesha thanks love. Quite like MrLumberjack and the bonus is he's in my local town once a week so hopefully that isn't too much hassle logistically.

Christmas presents 🎁😱

I'll be going for a combination of locally sourced stuff - food, home made soaps, membership of the local animal rescue - & good ole £££