Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

[Heartbeats0708]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@SpringlikeBunk

There were a couple of moments during the night that I felt I wanted to kiss him, but when it happened I wasn't really in the mood for it and it didn't feel right. He is a genuinely lovely guy so I think he'll respect me wanting to take it slower. Thanks for the reply/advice

Bella your whole Mr A thing is so different from anything I've ever known, but you seem very together and eyes-wide-open about the whole thing, so I have no doubt you'll navigate whatever situation you find yourself in with poise. And the girlfriends will probably end up being BFFs! 😅

MrHedgehog keeps messaging me being nice as if he’s worried I’m upset or something.

Tempted to reassure him by mentioning I’m not dating anyone else and spending time planning all the X rated antics I’m going to do to him next time we indulge in a bit of a European Union

But I’m trying to be all classy and discreet etc 😑

@SpringlikeBunk

MrHedgehog keeps messaging me being nice as if he’s worried I’m upset or something.

Tempted to reassure him by mentioning I’m not dating anyone else and spending time planning all the X rated antics I’m going to do to him next time we indulge in a bit of a European Union

But I’m trying to be all classy and discreet etc 😑

@SpringlikeBunk

MrHedgehog keeps messaging me being nice as if he’s worried I’m upset or something.

Tempted to reassure him by mentioning I’m not dating anyone else and spending time planning all the X rated antics I’m going to do to him next time we indulge in a bit of a European Union

But I’m trying to be all classy and discreet etc 😑

Keep waving the classy and discreet flag for us @SpringlikeBunk

I've just decided that I'm better off on the side of filth, so long as the other person is cool with it too, obviously. But I seriously doubt that I can be with anyone ever again who isn't 🤣🤣🤣

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Bella your whole Mr A thing is so different from anything I've ever known, but you seem very together and eyes-wide-open about the whole thing, so I have no doubt you'll navigate whatever situation you find yourself in with poise. And the girlfriends will probably end up being BFFs! 😅

Never fear I have all the same highs and lows and does he fancy me over analysis that everyone else does. I also happen to embrace my return to my free spirit roots and I'm just enjoying the ride for now

Still zero irons here. Could have had a date tomorrow but he expected me to go to his area for a fireworks event. A good hour and a bit on the train and it's not like there aren't fireworks events halfway or in my area.

@Dancerinthemoonlight

Sounds good - I’ve definitely personally found since I started raising initial screening boundaries (eg no last minute first meets or flakiness or hookup pushiness or being inconsiderate) most guys really don’t pass!

Even if they seem quite normal/mainstream the entitled app attitudes are so strong.

I don’t need to be wined and dined but just a quiet low key first meet somewhere convenient for both of us?

So things are a lot quieter now I’m
eliminating more.

But that’s a good thing I think - better to have zero or few dates than bad ones!

@SpringlikeBunk

MrHedgehog keeps messaging me being nice as if he’s worried I’m upset or something.

Tempted to reassure him by mentioning I’m not dating anyone else and spending time planning all the X rated antics I’m going to do to him next time we indulge in a bit of a European Union

But I’m trying to be all classy and discreet etc 😑

I really think you should spring into action, don't bunk off, text Mr Hedgehog all your x rated plans, I'm pretty sure he won't roll into a ball and his spikes will be standing to attention

Loo update

... amazing evening

We are all having an absolute blast and I've met all his friends. Feeling quite giddy

@BelladiMamma

Loo update

... amazing evening

We are all having an absolute blast and I've met all his friends. Feeling quite giddy

Yay, it's all good and not weird! Have a fab time Bella

enjoy @BelladiMamma x

@BelladiMamma fantastic, glad it all went well

@BelladiMamma I hope the evening continued to be great!

I went out with friends last night and I think I kissed one of them but who knows. Too much alcohol was consumed. I gave my number to a 21 year old, and I had a great time but ohhh I need to calm it down.

Checking in, thanks for the thread @Heartbeats0708!
Waves to @TwatInTinFoil, @dancemom, @SpringlikeBunk, @Eesha @Naimee87 @Isitreallyme177

@BelladiMamma SO glad you went and met his friends and you’re all getting on!! x

I’m hungover today so no gym for me!

Roll call = zero irons, good looking men EVERYWHERE on the trains and around london yesterday though!

@SpringlikeBunk that’s sooo nice about Mr Hedgehog! He sounds hooked on you 💖

@Shayelle2009 yay, you finally had a proper night out! Tell all!

I was up till 1am working and eating wotsits. I need to get a life. No irons understandably.

@StartingAgain6369 hope you have fun with Ms Sunglasses, what a glorious date worthy day today. Miss M&S is always tempting in my eyes....that potato salad, posh dog selection and fresh lemonade, Yes!!!

@Isitreallyme177 I think I would enjoy the male company too if I were you, at least you have time in the diary. I wouldn't fool yourself thinking Mr Cricket isn't looking for other dates (a pilot on the apps will be inundated) so maybe keep your other options open too.

@BelladiMamma I knew they would love you!

Ahh not really a night out @Eesha just catching up with friends the last couple of days but I just feel shattered now!! You still swiping or not bothering? Think it’s about 2 months since I’ve been on any app. No intention of ever going back to those potato fests!

@Eesha thank you, will update later but I'm beginning to feel a bit nervous now

@Dazedandconfused10 I gave my number to a 21 year old

Thanks for the new thread @Heartbeats0708. Work been crazy so haven't been on for a few days so spent last night and this morning catching up with you all 😁

Roll call for me is still Mr M. Managed to squeeze a coffee date in Friday morning before work and meeting him today for a Sunday lunch. Our weekend away is now booked for December. All still going well 😁

Hey @Shayelle2009 waves back glad you had a good night out.

@Eesha yeah I'm enjoying the male company at least. He doesn't put that he is a pilot on his profile so I can only assume that there is a reason for that. In fact he kept that until we met. But yeah a handsome man will be inundated with offers from much more glamorous women than me, a woman currently sat in ripped jeans and a hoodie.🤣

This is what I don't miss about dating. That anxiety wondering if someone more exciting is messaging them, why aren’t they in touch, that horrible feeling that affects the self confidence and worth.. can’t be doing with any of that!

Wow lots to catch up on!
Most welcome for the new thread. Hello everyone!
@Dazedandconfused10 your night sounds like a riot 😂 do share more details when you find them out!
Great loo update @BelladiMamma hope all continues to go well and you had a nice eve with Mr A too 😍
Good luck to all on date zeros today, beautiful weather for it (where I am at least). Having lunch with Mr D later and very much looking forwards to seeing him after a tricky week.

@Isitreallyme177 I just think a reasonably OK looking man would have a lot of choice let alone a very attractive one. That's not to say he isn't interested in you but definitely keep your other options open otherwise you might be genuinely wasting your dating time.

@Shayelle2009 I've become quite jaded with the apps so taking a small break. I've updated my pictures thanks to @BelladiMamma but not feeling very enthused by anyone. I'm starting to think it's not for me. We can sit on that bench together!