My friend has basically said I won’t have a family

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I’m 36 and recently single. I said I had started online dating again as I really want to try again and find someone I can build a life with.

My friend literally said well you’ll need to forget the kids part now, ‘only an insane man would have kids with someone in less than a long term relationship and you’ll be past it by the time anything becomes long term.’

I haven’t spoken to her since but actually I am starting to think she’s right. I need to do it within a year or so really. Nobody sane would do that with me. I feel so low. It’s all over isn’t it, that life I wanted.

Oh come on! No I do not agree with this sentiment.

You never know what is going to happen tomorrow. My cousin met her partner at 38, got pregnant not even a year later, -I am not sure they planned it-, and now 7 years later, they have 2 beautiful boys.

On the other hand, I was in a long term relationship for years, and he was postponing starting a family until I realized (and he admitted) that he was going to drag me along until pregnancy wouldn't be an option. All I am trying to say is that you don't know how things are going to turn out, do not get disappointed, you're still young.

One thing you should do, is to start thinking if you want to have children more than you want a partner or vise versa.