Could you forgive this?

[Essexmummy88]

This is one thing amongst many issues, but it stands out to me.

Could you forgive your partner if in a rage he woke you up by standing over you in the night whilst you slept and poured water over you? I forgave him because he was sorry but I am regretting it now.

You can do this.
Roughly where in Essex are you OP?

So happy and relieved for you, essex mummy, that the police showed up.

Just read your post op 😢 thank god you are ok and mumsnet head office got involved and phoned the police... I hope today is the start of a lovely new life for you with your children.. I hope the police lock up that monster you have been living with! ... All the best to you and your lovely children ❤️💐💐🌹

Crikey . I’m so glad you’ve got help from the police. Thank you mumsnet!

No. Please don't. My exh poured boiling kettle water over my head once because the baby was crying for a bottle and i didn't get it quick enough. Obviously i suffered burns and trauma. I forgave him. I suffered relentless abuse after because of me allowing the line to be crossed. Please leave lovely.

Logged back on this morning to see how you are. So glad the police have intervened. Its going to be a hard , long road but this is the first step and use your Dad to change the locks on "your" home.

OK, so how did he find the thread ? did he simply snatch the phone from your hand? If not he has access to your phone/compuer &/or cloud.so now CHANGE ALL YOUR PASSWORDS, dis- activate your joint cloud, & your phone location.
He wont be held for long.
Tell landlord immediately he has been removed for DV.
Sign up for UC, & any help you can get.
Tell everyone, He needs to be shamed,
Do not let him pour any poison in your ears.. He will promise to change etc
He will threaten to take the kids
He will say you are unfit.
Ignore it. Its the textbook script for abusive men.

Also, do you have a joint bank account? Savings ?
Open a new bank account in your name & remove any money that is yours

@Essexmummy88

I wish I could, I don't work though so have no money, we have three children, I literally cannot get out.

Throw him out. Be strong be firm. Get a male friend or family member to back you up. Chuck him out.

I’m so sorry that happened to you @Seeleyboo . That sounds horrific, he should have been prosecuted.

I hope things are better for you now.

can someone message me please

@essexmummy1988

can someone message me please

what do you need?

Check your messages OP x

How are you op x

Hope you are ok

I’ve read the whole thread op
There are lots of us who’ve been through similar - we are here. Holding your hand

I hope you’re ok.

Has anyone heard from her? Bit worried x

@lardass88

Has anyone heard from her? Bit worried x

The police removed him. He'd already found the thread so it wouldn't be in her best interests to come back to this thread or to carry on using her previous username or even email address really.

Resurrecting my sort of zombie thread - is anyone around to chat please?

Are you ok?

How have things been?

I'm here. It's been worrying, I really know what you've been through, I was in a very similar situation albeit 22 years ago.

How are you? Please let us know xx

Hi @Woneringfree and @redastherose thanks for replying, things are the same, im just going through the motions and getting by. So fed up if it, just felt i needed to reach out to other normal people i gueuss.

Did you tell your dad and ask him for help moving out? You know that's what you need to do.

No because next time it could be boiling water so I really wouldn’t forgive this. He could fuck off