Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

I think couples who manage to stay friends post split are usually quite sensible and mature about the whole thing. And it's usually a sign that they drifted apart rather than some dramatic affair or something.

My ex was an alcoholic so it took a while but we are friends now. I'm respectful in that he has a partner now too and we only just chat over the children stuff. I wouldn't socialise with him though. I often wonder how things would be had I got a partner but I've always been on my own whereas he met someone weeks after we split and is still with her

Thank you all for your advice it's greatly appreciated. I wasn't sure if I should have taken them as an obvious red flag. We both have our own children and I am on good terms with my ex but I don't post photos of us with our arms around each other or a cheek to cheek pic snuggled up on the sofa together during a quiet night in. I wasn't sure how to take them after the warnings and horror stories of OLD. He isn't active on his account and all the posting is done by her. He seems so lovely and attentive so i suppose this is maybe how he treats his ex. It was good to hear views from the other perspective too so thanks for the input too.
I will keep the plans for the date and see how it goes. X

@Nahnahnah wait - are those recent photos one of them have posted? Snuggled up/arms round each other would be weird for me!

Hi everyone. Just placemarking. I'm away from home for a week .. I'll catch up later

Wow @Eesha about your indirect boss buying a house with her partner of 3 months. Just goes to show though it can happen.
I moved in with a boyfriend after 2 weeks many years ago. We got engaged and he was a lovely guy and we both just ‘knew’. Sadly though he was an alcoholic so I didn’t end up marrying him. It was very sad, his drinking.

@Stayingstrongish yes they are all quite recent so it made me even think was he still married, but her profile says single. The latest was for their daughters birthday a few months ago both clinking glasses and her behind him with her arms over the tops of his shoulders. Even the month after they spilt it was all happy family photos and people's comments saying 'beautiful family'. If I didn't know I would have thought they were a happily married couple. It's left me really confused.

@Nahnahnah

Again that would make me very uncomfortable and I'd just not want to get involved?

The issue with this situation is often the guy says "oh, you're just "jealous" of my female friends/ex" and tries to triangulate the women and imagine you're "fighting his ex for him".

It's just sloppy boundaries though for me?

I'm not hugely interested in what a prospect does when they're not with me, I have male friends and expect men have female friends, it's just the "setting up of a potential drama triangle" that seems uncomfortable.

There's a type of guy who is "nice" but also 100% at the beck-and-call of his ex, or every attractive female he's been on a date with who has turned him down and that's just really unattractive for me.

Can I ask, if I delete blocked numbers on WhatsApp do they stay blocked?

I hadn't realised I'd chatted to that many weirdos but apparently I have 11 numbers blocked.

@Nahnahnah, have you met him in person yet ? I think that I would do that first and see how he speaks about his family situation- if that comes up. We’ve had lots of different variations of this that posters on the thread have encountered and for some it worked out, for others it felt too difficult to navigate. Or there may be other reasons why it’s a no go after your date zero.

@Isitreallyme177, I think you’d have to keep them as blocked. 🤔

@Isitreallyme177 I’m never sure about this. You’d like to think they are but I don’t know for sure. I blocked Mr Trades then deleted all trace of him out my phone but I dont know if they can still get through if you delete them out the blocked contacts list.
Happy birthday-eve 🎂🥂🎈

Have got dinner date agreed in principle with Ms DropDeadGorgeous subject to arranging a baby sitter.

Might have fallen head-over-heels in lust which didn't expect at 52.

2 major relationships post divorce were both with serious/sensible ladies so attracted to someone whose OLD profile says she doesn't take life too seriously. Runs her own business so has clearly got brains.

Thanks both I will leave them blocked. Don't want some weirdo contacting me. Or worse Mr Racing the twat who said I was cold and hard work because I didn't appreciate the picture of his dick🤮🤢 .

@Shayelle2009 thank you. I'd pour myself some gin but I have a pt session at 8am tomorrow🤦‍♀️🤣

@Isitreallyme177

Can I ask, if I delete blocked numbers on WhatsApp do they stay blocked?

I hadn't realised I'd chatted to that many weirdos but apparently I have 11 numbers blocked.

They do.

[quote Shayelle2009]@Isitreallyme177 I’m never sure about this. You’d like to think they are but I don’t know for sure. I blocked Mr Trades then deleted all trace of him out my phone but I dont know if they can still get through if you delete them out the blocked contacts list.
Happy birthday-eve 🎂🥂🎈[/quote]
No, they stay blocked. Even if you change your phone.

@VanGoghsDog That's good to know as I have to clear my phone at some point so it can be sent off to be fixed.

@TobyEsterhase

Have got dinner date agreed in principle with Ms DropDeadGorgeous subject to arranging a baby sitter.

Might have fallen head-over-heels in lust which didn't expect at 52.

2 major relationships post divorce were both with serious/sensible ladies so attracted to someone whose OLD profile says she doesn't take life too seriously. Runs her own business so has clearly got brains.

Wow 🤩 that sounds really positive.

Hope it all goes swimmingly and enjoy it ❤️

@Isitreallyme177

Thanks both I will leave them blocked. Don't want some weirdo contacting me. Or worse Mr Racing the twat who said I was cold and hard work because I didn't appreciate the picture of his dick🤮🤢 .

@Shayelle2009 thank you. I'd pour myself some gin but I have a pt session at 8am tomorrow🤦‍♀️🤣

Ugh I'd forgotten about MrRacing. He was a proper twat

the twat who said I was cold and hard work because I didn't appreciate the picture of his dick🤮🤢

Gosh sometimes the world seems like a really bleak place. You dodged a bullet there!

Ha ha Bella your sneeze really made me laugh! 😆

I've had another lovely day full of family and friends. Yes, itching to reach for my phone at times but not desperate.

Saw two of my exes (I'm friends with them and it works but we never had a bitter divorce 🤣) and remembered what good taste I had before I met my exh. Both of them are so delightful and respectful and great with my daughter.

Got DD her French passport, so come the apocalypse she can at least fight the zombies 🧟‍♂️ whilst eating baguette 🥖, went to Foyles, the theatre and squeezed in seeing my two fabulous exes.

I've got ten people blocked, can only recall who one of them is. I don't like zombies so if a thing ends I block to ensure no zombie pop ups.

@Eesha it's at draft stage and she's writing it in support of assisted dying, it's a terrible, gut wrenching story of her husband's death and their love story. She's previously written a novel but I can honestly say this is better by miles.

@Eesha it's at draft stage and she's writing it in support of assisted dying, it's a terrible, gut wrenching story of her husband's death and their love story. She's previously written a novel but I can honestly say this is better by miles.

[quote BelladiMamma]@Eesha it's at draft stage and she's writing it in support of assisted dying, it's a terrible, gut wrenching story of her husband's death and their love story. She's previously written a novel but I can honestly say this is better by miles. [/quote]
No idea why that posted twice.

Also it was in answer to @WeWantTheFinestWines so it's all gone a bit Pete Tong 🤣