Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

@Priddypuddycat

Hello wise ladies, if I am being messaged from WhatsApp business it’s a scammer isn’t it ?

I don't think it necessarily is a scammer? I have a couple of girlfriends who have WhatsApp business accounts

@pinkfondu

Hi all

I'm new to all this and hoping to get some tips!

Welcome 🤗

@Dumpee

Evening. So I've contracted covid and let Mr dumper know, earlier. I guess I didn't have to, but as the incubation period can be up to two weeks..

I was doing just fine. Now I feel ill and vulnerable. On a side note, my kids and friends have been an absolute godsend 💕

Oh no poor you!!

Well I guess the only silver lining other than great friends and kids, is that you don't need to worry about dating at the moment 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Naimee87 I've got a couple of toys just cos I figured they might be stop me from starting really really unsuitable relationships 🤪 but honestly, nothing beats the real thing. I find the climaxing is nothing like when you're with someone you fancy ... or who is skilled in bed. The climax I get from a toy is more like a sneeze 🤧 compared to being with someone

@Isitreallyme177 happy birthday 🎂 and what a lovely thing of your colleague to do

I'm on a low texting couple of days, now I've got my kicks from BeardFlake and my date with MrSardinia Friday (might cancel as due on my period) and my 24 hour shagathon with MrActor Sunday (he might cancel as only day off in about 2 weeks, this is me projecting).

@Naimee87 I’ve not got any toys, they don’t appeal to me. When I’m on my own I don’t watch porn or anything like that either, I’d rather read or do one of my hobbies.

Catching up on this thread is practically a full time job!

I want to crawl through the screen to those who have lovely irons, who things are going well with but who are worried that things are too good to be true, and say "please just enjoy this unicorn you've found and which we're all looking for!" Yes you could get hurt and your living situations may put the kibosh on the whole thing, but worrying isn't going to make that less likely. You are so lucky to have found good people - please, for the sake of those of us who can't even get a date, enjoy your good fortune, which you completely deserve - MayEye, Heartbeats 😍

hotdogs why are you waiting for them to suggest a date? I don't get this - I have never asked someone out irl and would be mortified if an actual person found out I liked them, but suggesting to some pixels that we grab a coffee is so different. I don't want to waste my time, or theirs, with idle chit chat but find out if there's a spark of any kind as soon as possible. Why not just say "We should meet up - fancy a walk or a coffee at the weekend?". If they disappear or make excuses, you know they have no intention of ever meeting.

I have also wondered about sti testing. My local clap clinic is next door to my work so not massively keen on that option... Haven't used condoms for years though - coil or menopause - but have also only had two sexual partners since splitting with father of children. A decent selection of toys helps with my poor shag-rate...

@WeWantTheFinestWines I use shl as so easy, test arrives pronto, results in a few days and you can email/share results with whomever.

[quote Eesha]@WeWantTheFinestWines I use shl as so easy, test arrives pronto, results in a few days and you can email/share results with whomever.[/quote]
Thank you, really good to know if I ever have sex again

@WeWantTheFinestWines I needed to hear that! I am going to enjoy my lovely unicorn 🦄

I fainted the one and only time I did a home STI test. Who knew so much blood could come out of one finger?

[quote MayEye]@WeWantTheFinestWines I needed to hear that! I am going to enjoy my lovely unicorn 🦄 [/quote]
😊

@JustThisLastLittleBit

I fainted the one and only time I did a home STI test. Who knew so much blood could come out of one finger?

Oh crap. Probably safest not to have sex again ever.

@JustAnother0ldMan

Oh dear

We're sorry...
There doesn't seem to be any SH.UK services available in the middle of fucking nowhere at this time. If you have any concerns or if you would like to discuss your testing options please contact your local sexual health clinic.

Just Google sexual health and your area, it probably has its own, my area does, it's not that SH one, it's a different one but same concept.

I did mine summer last year.

MrWG I'm assuming would have been tested when he had his snip last winter. I really should ask him!

@JustThisLastLittleBit

I fainted the one and only time I did a home STI test. Who knew so much blood could come out of one finger?

To be fair, I had to lie down because the blood made me woozy, then I had to hold my arm up because the blood was dripping on the carpet, then by the time I was OK to move again the blood was too coagulated and wouldn't go in the little tube. So they only got the other tests, there wasn't enough blood for a reading. But my risk of the blood caried diseases is really low anyway and I'd had the tests done a couple of years before successfully.

@WeWantTheFinestWines good point! I think I've been too indirect previously - saying ' we should meet up' which previous iron agreed with, but didn't then make a plan...

I will be brave and grasp the nettle! I'll let you know how it goes

@VanGoghsDog
Yeah, found one in the Vale, it’s going to be rubbers for the weekend, but will get a test sorted out

[quote BelladiMamma]@Isitreallyme177 happy birthday 🎂 and what a lovely thing of your colleague to do [/quote]
Thanks @BelladiMamma

@BelladiMamma that made me giggle like a sneeze ... @Stayingstrongish thank god you're the same, haven't met anyone IRL that doesn't think i'm odd, never watched porn either. Guess we're all different. I like the real deal and i'm a patient person when i know it's worth the wait.
@Dancerinthemoonlight what line of work are you in? I'm thinking a lot of companies are struggling at the moment. Mine seems to think that by using the word 'transformation' we won't realise people are being let go and positions are being sent to different countries. Next year will be very different that's for sure. Hopefully i'll be trucking goods around the country by then... away from the 'corporate' world of suits and bottomless inboxes! Hope you find something soon! Doesn't do your mood any good when works a pain.

@Naimee87 I’m just like you :) And it’s not that I have a low sex drive, I have a big one, but only with a partner.

@naimee87 event management so it's still not back to normal after lockdowns. I know I'm lucky to have a job that I could do during the lockdown but it really does effect my mood when work isnt a nice place to work

[quote Naimee87]**@BelladiMamma* that made me giggle like a sneeze ... @Stayingstrongish* thank god you're the same, haven't met anyone IRL that doesn't think i'm odd, never watched porn either. Guess we're all different. I like the real deal and i'm a patient person when i know it's worth the wait.
@Dancerinthemoonlight what line of work are you in? I'm thinking a lot of companies are struggling at the moment. Mine seems to think that by using the word 'transformation' we won't realise people are being let go and positions are being sent to different countries. Next year will be very different that's for sure. Hopefully i'll be trucking goods around the country by then... away from the 'corporate' world of suits and bottomless inboxes! Hope you find something soon! Doesn't do your mood any good when works a pain.[/quote]
That's such a strange attitude from other people. I'm exactly the same, never watch porn, hardly self pleasure, much prefer waiting for the time you're with someone. And all the chat and the messages and getting close. I love it 🥰

@Naimee87

OK so this has been on my mind a while, given how explicit some of the posts have been also on previous threads too so i'm just going to ask (finally!) And seeing as we are on this topic i've been wondering whether everyone has toys and enjoys pleasuring themselves. As you can probably tell by my wording this isn't something i do or have ever done and i'm wondering how odd this is. My best friend thinks this is insane and she can't quite get her head round it. Is it really that uncommon? I'm so curious to hear what you all think?

Scratches an itch, but for me bit like being with a man who will only do missionary 😂

So as a newbie when do you cut your losses with someone you've not been able to meet yet in RL? Had a couple of meets cancelled by him, now texts have slowed down so I leave it. He's the one I've been most interested in which makes me doubt it