Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

[quote Isitreallyme177]@Heartbeats0708 nothing yet but he is training today and tomorrow so I'm not stressing too much as he is probably revising(I know I would be), and we have the cinema date in for next week. I bought some new boots to wear today. Good luck with getting back into work. How long was your break for?

@BelladiMamma it's the next step for me but I've never really thought managing a team is my thing. It closed today so I'll find out if I've got an interview in a couple of days.[/quote]
Is it a job where you already work?

Yes different department but same place. I also know the person who would be my boss (she gave me interview help about 5 years ago now).

@Isitreallyme177

Yes different department but same place. I also know the person who would be my boss (she gave me interview help about 5 years ago now).

Good luck 🤞🏽 with it

Really bitchy message back from MrPizza, who has another number stored on his WhatsApp with a picture of another woman 🤷🏻‍♀️

Spare a thought, please, @anotheroldman, for those of us on the thread who are older than you. You make me feel like a museum piece when you go on about your age. It really is but a number.

Good luck @isitreallyme!!

Hi all,
Thought I'd delete and say hi.
Lots and lots of lovely updates. I still follow the threads but don't feel like I can update as I'm still seeing Mr P after 20 months.
Although I'm not sure for how much longer for lots of reasons.
Lots of really lovely advice and positive stuff on this thread though. It's all so helpful.

Delurk!! Not delete. Jeez I post for the first time in months and fuck it up !!

Good riddance to Mr Pizza, Bella. Focus on dreamy Mr A (who's obviously been promoted to an initial!)😊

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Good riddance to Mr Pizza, Bella. Focus on dreamy Mr A (who's obviously been promoted to an initial!)😊

So dreamy that in between texting me utter filth, which I adore, we are planning to visit my granny's old house where I used to live, just down the road from where his place is 😁♥️😁

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Spare a thought, please, *@anotheroldman*, for those of us on the thread who are older than you. You make me feel like a museum piece when you go on about your age. It really is but a number.

I agree! I'm the same age as you @JustAnother0ldMan and I definitely don't share your approach to being over 50. I'm sexier than I've ever been and way more fabulous 😉

Oh wow, lots to catch up on.

Just popped on to say my tinder guy asked me out for a walk and a coffee or just a walk- whatever I wanted.

Feels very lacklustre so I’ve said no thanks and he’s asked what do I want to do then?

Whatever happened to.
All the heros.

@FourPostBed

Oh wow, lots to catch up on.

Just popped on to say my tinder guy asked me out for a walk and a coffee or just a walk- whatever I wanted.

Feels very lacklustre so I’ve said no thanks and he’s asked what do I want to do then?

Whatever happened to.
All the heros.

What kind of thing were you hoping for? Have you had some dates with him already or is this date zero? If date zero, walk and/or coffee seems like a good place to start...? (But obviously not if you're not feeling it)

Date zero.

I just don’t want to walk and talk on our first meeting I suppose. Meeting for a drink or coffee would be good.

Since when has a walk been a date? I do enough of that day to day 😂

@FourPostBed

Date zero.

I just don’t want to walk and talk on our first meeting I suppose. Meeting for a drink or coffee would be good.

Since when has a walk been a date? I do enough of that day to day 😂

Oh I think a walk became very popular as a date option (or certainly a date zero option) during lockdown - and actually it works really well so I suspect lots of people have stick with it. The good thing is that it's not at all intense - the fact that you're mostly side-by-side rather than staring into each other's faces takes the pressure off and you can just enjoy chatting and walking. Somehow there's less urgency to fill any silences/pauses too. I'm a big fan as you can probably tell!

But if you prefer coffee/drink, then just suggest that!

@WeWantTheFinestWines @BelladiMamma
Apologies, must just be a me thing, I definitely do not feel sexy or fabulous, I feel like a middle aged failure who’s life is shitty and pointless

@Isitreallyme177
I moved a management role about 2 years ago, I have 4 people who report to me and spend more time dealing with their issues then doing my own job, people and perform management takes up so much time and energy it’s unreal and demanding

When I say during lockdown, I'm thinking particularly of earlier this year when 1:1 walking was basically the only thing allowed. A walking date zero was quite a good way of deciding whether this was someone you wanted to break the rules for/with

Ah, I can see the positives when you out it like that.
I’ll think it over - I mean yeah in summertime but it’s November and a walk in the (probable) cold/damp doesn’t scream romance or put me at my best 😂

Thanks @PurpleStripyScarf

[quote JustAnother0ldMan]**@WeWantTheFinestWines* @BelladiMamma*
Apologies, must just be a me thing, I definitely do not feel sexy or fabulous, I feel like a middle aged failure who’s life is shitty and pointless

@Isitreallyme177
I moved a management role about 2 years ago, I have 4 people who report to me and spend more time dealing with their issues then doing my own job, people and perform management takes up so much time and energy it’s unreal and demanding[/quote]
Hugs to you. What would your friends/family say about you? I bet they think you're fabulous. What could you do (eg what small change could you make), to make your life feel a bit better?

@PurpleStripyScarf

When I say during lockdown, I'm thinking particularly of earlier this year when 1:1 walking was basically the only thing allowed. A walking date zero was quite a good way of deciding whether this was someone you wanted to break the rules for/with

🤣😉

[quote JustAnother0ldMan]**@WeWantTheFinestWines* @BelladiMamma*
Apologies, must just be a me thing, I definitely do not feel sexy or fabulous, I feel like a middle aged failure who’s life is shitty and pointless

@Isitreallyme177
I moved a management role about 2 years ago, I have 4 people who report to me and spend more time dealing with their issues then doing my own job, people and perform management takes up so much time and energy it’s unreal and demanding[/quote]
Hey, I totally get that. I’m a manager too and especially right now it’s brutal.

I have had some “I feel crap moments” but I try to take some time to nurture myself - feed my body or mind. And spend time with people who make me feel good.

You’re not a failure. You’re just feeling a bit down. What could you do tomorrow that would make you feel better or be a step towards a goal you have?

@FourPostBed

Ah, I can see the positives when you out it like that. I’ll think it over - I mean yeah in summertime but it’s November and a walk in the (probable) cold/damp doesn’t scream romance or put me at my best 😂

Thanks @PurpleStripyScarf

Ha! I think in a way, the fact that it doesn't scream Romance is part of the appeal. A nice neutral platonic environment so you can decide whether you then want to move towards romance or not. (Whereas if you went out for a romantic dinner the first time you met, you'd maybe feel under more pressure for it to be all wonderfully romantic, and/or it might feel like more of a let-down if the other person didn't want to pursue the romance thing...?) With the walk (or indeed coffee) option there's been no romantic expectation set at the start - and therefore no pressure or let-down if nothing much blossoms.

But yes, obviously just do whatever you feel comfortable with. Good luck!

Justanother I'm sorry you feel thay way. Yet, you have Ms Wales wanting more fun with you and Ms Business who could be a potential iron - so there's clearly something about you that attracts people. Well, women, I don't know about other people...😅 Try not to focus on where you think you should be a particular number of years after you were born and instead really think about the positive things in your life. They're definitely there...

@FourPostBed I can see your point as its lovely to do something really nice like dinner and drinks etc but like pp have said, it can also be rather lovely just floating around. It's difficult as I've had dates both ways and I just find if there's chemistry, it doesn't matter what you do. I would take the lead back and suggest a walk to meet him at least.

@JustAnother0ldMan I guess you were only recently on a low yet from the outside it looks like you do have irons who are interested. Try and focus on the positives, and I would certainly change the name!

@Clovertoast Nice to see you back, I've been wondering how you are getting on.
Sorry to see there are still issues with Mr P.
I hope you are in a better place and have a fulfilling life when you aren't with him and that you'll be able to make the break soon.