Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

@SpringlikeBunk great, hopefully we get organised and can make it happen. I'll tie it in with seeing relatives in Manchester too i think. It'd be a shame not to see them if i'm the UK after so long. Travelling will be strange, i've really not been anywhere since ages, even before COVID happened. I'm hoping things will have eased a bit by then but who know's... there could be another 1000 different variants out by then.

@Naimee87

I’ll start doing roll call and set up a WA group on December 1st as reckon it’s probably best to keep practical organising details off a public forum x

I'd be up for a meet up! Count me in

@SpringlikeBunk happy we have someone like you whose good with 'organising the masses' !! Exciting!!!!

@Signalstation

Does anyone know what the best dating app is for me to find a man who'll take me down his allotment?

Have you tried hanging out at the local allotments?

Wipe a bit of soil over your forehead, chew a piece of straw, lean on a hoe...... they'll be all over you!

@SpringlikeBunk I'm happy to help organise.

I have definitely been ghosted by 1 of my date 0's for this weekend and I haven't heard back from the other date 0 in over 24 hours So it's highly likely that one won't be happening either

@Signalstation

Does anyone know what the best dating app is for me to find a man who'll take me down his allotment?

Is this another euphemism that the younger generation are using that completely gone over head.

—> 👨🏻‍🦳 (old man)

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Naimee87

Yes if we make it in February I’ll personally probably budget a couple nights of it, and hugely enjoy meeting everyone and having that social time?

and also take advantage of the situation to do a little bit of London solo as well! There’s so many amazing places and galleries for free so I’d just stroll around like a yokel and enjoy the ambience.[/quote]
I'm in ^

Thanks @Dancerinthemoonlight eg recent local knowledge of London places to go would be so very helpful as I’m so out of touch!

Reckon if we can agree to just “save some dates” in advance then the “further people” can book their transport and hopefully it will all come together

I myself just need to hop on a train or coach and no childcare - I’m working like a demon this forum is my social contact most days but flexible.

@Languidleopard thanks for checking in. It sounds like you might just be relieved / it was the right decision to make. That's also the benefit of having an argument sometimes, you finally get to hear what the other person is really thinking ...

@theworldsastage maybe just send a funny meme which illustrates your anxiety but can provide you both with a laugh ... I'm sure he's probably thinking the same thing

@JustAnother0ldMan you really don't need to make any decisions either way. I'd try to see them both again and figure out how you feel?

@pinkfondu that all sounds promising

Thankfully I have my period so even though the messaging still goes on, I'm not feeling like I'm about to die if I don't see him soon. Maybe this is what the menopause will be like? I've always had quite a high sex drive and to be honest sometimes it's nice to have a break from it 🤣

Okay mortifying moment, ground swallow me up type of thing.

I was in the middle of writing a message to Mr Cricket as I applied for a job today at work and I'm nervous as it is a big move for me but would be amazing if I got it. So I was being all dramatic (in a good way) and really just needed some calm reassurance that I'm doing the right thing. I wasn't sure whether to send it as I was being dramatic. When up he pops online so I had to send it as he would have seen 'typing' next to my name on WhatsApp and it would have looked weird if I didn't send anything as he would have been expecting something. 🤣🙈🤦‍♀️

@Isitreallyme177 how much do I hate those moments 🤣 ... it's fine. You can soften it a bit by sending a meme of emoji afterwards to indicate embarrassment or wtf type vibe.

I need to cull MrSardinia and MrPizza (don't think I've mentioned MrPizza). They're just not sparking joy.

What's the best white lie dear threaders? Am thinking I'll send the message, check they've received then disconnect on Feeld and also after a few days block on WhatsApp as I'm not a fan of zombies .... whaddya all think?

The worst thing is @BelladiMamma he read it straight away, he's probably thinking of a polite reply and wondering why I'm being so melodramatic about a job application.

As for a lie could you say you're moving away or going on holiday?!

@BelladiMamma

Dear X,

It’s been/was great chatting with you/meeting you.

Due to some new life circumstances unfortunately I won’t be able to stay in touch any more.

All the best for the future/your Y project/job.

Bella

@Languidleopard

Haha love @SpringlikeBunk’s formal ‘thanks but no thanks’ message of dismissal 😂 @BelladiMamma. That would definitely work though I’m sure!

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

Dear X,

It’s been/was great chatting with you/meeting you.

Due to some new life circumstances unfortunately I won’t be able to stay in touch any more.

All the best for the future/your Y project/job.

Bella[/quote]
Wow 🤩 that's proper straight up.

Ok, I'll Bella-ify it and send 😁

In other news, I'm also on tenterhooks as MrA and I have had a few back and forth messages about the distance and the future. I've just said that 'I'm in for as long as you are as I'm having too much fun'

Am seriously hoping he's not gearing up for the 'it's too far' conversation. Am now feeling sick.

@Isitreallyme177

The worst thing is *@BelladiMamma* he read it straight away, he's probably thinking of a polite reply and wondering why I'm being so melodramatic about a job application.

As for a lie could you say you're moving away or going on holiday?!

That is way too big a lie 🤣 but I could say I've had a change of job and I'm not going to be around ...? Or just 'things have changed'...?

I'm sure that MrCricket can understand job stresses. If not he'd be a robot 🤖 and they're no fun

Newsflash! He's invited me up to his after the show ends! Omg it's not just me then. He really does want to take things further.

Now need to go lie down ...

I'm so scarred by the whole BeardFlake desastre that I'm now expecting him to rescind the invite at any moment.

😭😭😭

I'm not even in love, I'm just in lust and I'm killing myself over these arrangements because I've been so burnt. This sort of thing never used to faze me half as much.

@BelladiMamma you're right he isn't a robot so he probably will understand my nerves. It's a massive step for me and takes me into management territory. I'm not sure I'm ready for it but they don't come up very often so I had to go for it. I had to pull on my voluntary work as well. I sound pretty good on paper.

As for Mr Actor take each day as it comes and just enjoy it for what it is. Good luck with it.❤

Sounds like things are moving along nicely @BelladiMamma sit tight with the anxiety, Mr Actor isn't giving any signals he'll turn into a flake from what you've said here!
Any word back from Mr C @Isitreallyme177? Best of luck with the job, I've recently gone back to work and I forgot how bloody knackering it is.
Glad to hear you'll still be lurking @Languidleopard but enjoy the step back and self care
Smitten with Mr D but still in my little worried bubble of overthinking the long term.

@Isitreallyme177 that sounds like a worthwhile move. However scary it feels it's also great to believe in yourself ♥️

@Heartbeats0708 I love your description of your anxiety bubble. I can relate. ♥️

@Heartbeats0708 nothing yet but he is training today and tomorrow so I'm not stressing too much as he is probably revising(I know I would be), and we have the cinema date in for next week. I bought some new boots to wear today. Good luck with getting back into work. How long was your break for?

@BelladiMamma it's the next step for me but I've never really thought managing a team is my thing. It closed today so I'll find out if I've got an interview in a couple of days.

@SpringlikeBunk I did the Bella version of the djsmissal note and sent to Pizza and Sardinia.

Un matched them both from Feeld. Let's see how it pans out. Neither of them seemed like a nutter ...