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BelladiMamma · 2021-10-26T21:22:25+00:00

Hi everyone Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

VanGoghsDog · 01/11/2021 11:23

I have a Honda Civic and it is a bit of a pain how low it is, especially if I need to take my mum somewhere, she does struggle getting in and out.

Cars for me are entirely functional. Mine currently has two warning lights on, I suppose at some point I ought to get it looked at. And it's not been washed for two years :)

Naimee87 · 01/11/2021 11:23

@JustAnother0ldMan 6ft is a great height! Well done for getting there! And wow you've been a very good son to your parents with all their hospital trips! I hope their doing OK now?
Definitely don't get rid of your car if it's fun, comfy and you can afford it. I'm in need of a new car but cannot decide what to go for... i'm also really old-school and reluctant to switch to automatic... (yet)

VanGoghsDog · 01/11/2021 11:30

How I bought my current car - I posted on an anonymous chat website, where I did know/had met a few people irl. Said I need a car, preferably red, four door hatchback, reliable. Have £x to spend, what do people recommend?

And lots of answers, one guy said "don't you live near x? Here's a red Honda Civic that matches your requirements", so I went and bought the red Honda Civic. The salesman was very amused when I just said "can I buy that one please" and wasn't interested in others, or in test driving etc.
I then had to go through a stupid process while he tried to sell me loads of other stuff but I held out and got the car and they took my old one away to live life on a farm (having done 220k miles).

JustAnother0ldMan · 01/11/2021 11:41

@Naimee87
My dad died of Cancer in 2018 unfortunately,
I was visiting my Mum just before lockdown 1 in 2020 and making she had enough food, toilet roll etc etc, I had only just left hers when she called my and she had fallen in her house (she was 80), so went back and got her up of the floor and call out the ambulance, they thought she had broken her other hip (already had one replaced), so they carted her of to A&E and turned out it was a fractured pelvis, which they couldn’t do anything for other then really strong painkillers while it heals, I went home got my laptop and a load of clothes and moved in her house for 8 weeks, had to move a bed downstairs for her, and we looked after each other during lockdown.
She had cancer this year, so I was driving her around again to loads of hospital appointments, so having a ‘big’ car has certainly helped as she can ‘step’ into it.

JustAnother0ldMan · 01/11/2021 11:46

I then had to go through a stupid process while he tried to sell me loads of other stuff but I held out

I hate it when dealers try and up sell the deal by selling you financial products you don’t need / want,
Do you want tyre insurance or gap insurance or some other product?

No, just let me buy the bloody car !

Isitreallyme177 · 01/11/2021 12:13

So I've got a day off and nothing planned until later, day time tv is really really dire. This Morning is car crash TV these days.

I'm beginning to think I should have gone underwear shopping for all those non dates that I keep having with Mr Cricket after all.

Naimee87 · 01/11/2021 12:30

@JustAnother0ldMan how heavy have the past few years been for you! My GOSH! I'm really hoping you find a nice laydeee that you enjoy relaxing and spending time with you truly deserve to be rewarded by the universe.

MrE knew everything there is to know about cars, definitely one reason i should have bought a car early on when i was getting to know him before all the amber-flags turned to GIANT BLINDING red ones. He'd have got me a good deal! Shame he was a nutcase!

Original poster

BelladiMamma · 01/11/2021 12:34

Good morning threaders.

I'll take about a week processing my last 18 hours and then fill y'all in.

Hope you're all doing well ♥️

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VanGoghsDog · 01/11/2021 12:36

@JustAnother0ldMan

I then had to go through a stupid process while he tried to sell me loads of other stuff but I held out

I hate it when dealers try and up sell the deal by selling you financial products you don’t need / want,
Do you want tyre insurance or gap insurance or some other product?

No, just let me buy the bloody car !

The finance sales pitch went like this:

(Bearing in mind I was paying by direct bank transfer)

Him: you could buy it on finance
Me: why, I've got the money?
Him: but you could invest the money
Me: what's the interest rate on the finance?
Him: 27.5%
Me: so, if you can find me an investment that returns more than that, I'm in!
Him: you could just save it?
Me: I have saved it, that's why I've got it
Him: well, you could use the money for something else
Me: like what?
Him: you could spend it, treat yourself
Me: I AM spending it. Well, I'm TRYING to!

SpringlikeBunk · 01/11/2021 12:40

That sounds a good plan @BelladiMamma, taking time to process stuff and see how you feel about things (after you've got some sleep and "come down" a bit!).

JustAnother0ldMan · 01/11/2021 12:45

@VanGoghsDog
I hate that kinda thing, my Kuga was 20k, part was my p/x, part was my money and part was a personal loan, but effectively I was cash buyer, but the dealer still tried to sell me a finance deal, & gap insurance & some other nonsense,
I don’t think dealers really like cash buyers as they don’t make as much money as selling finance

Dazedandconfused10 · 01/11/2021 15:42

I'm feeling very needy today and I need to stop. I want to suggest another date with my iron but he's not replied to my message from this morning. Argh. I'm being pathetic.

Moopyhereagain · 01/11/2021 15:54

@dazedandconfused can strongly relate. Have just messaged my iron in a needy way. Let’s step away from WhatsApp…

Isitreallyme177 · 01/11/2021 15:57

@Dazedandconfused10 he's possibly working and will most likely reply later. I know when I'm at work it isn't always easy to reply.

I've not messaged Mr Cricket since Saturday but may crack and check in with him later.

Dazedandconfused10 · 01/11/2021 16:01

Thanks both! I think it's because this is around the time I get ghosted. So I guess I'm expecting that to happen. I'm not going to text though. I will try to stay strong

JustAnother0ldMan · 01/11/2021 16:03

Ladies & Gents,
I need some subjective advice / opinions.

The weekend away with Ms Wales was great fun, but I thought it was just going to be fun, but today I have been invited to hers (she lives in another part of the country from me ), for a a ‘repeat’, as she puts it, which I appreciate will be v nice, but I suspect she is a bit lonely (recently divorced), and looking for some company, so that is that.(could she be lining me up as her FWB ? )

But strangely enough Ms Business has been in contact today, with some somewhat suggestive messages…, and I really liked Ms Business, but wasn’t really sure liked me, so in a bit of a quandary now, as she seems to blow hot and cold..

As someone up thread said, bit like London Busses, nothing for ages then 2 comes along at once..

Thoughts from a grown up please

Moopyhereagain · 01/11/2021 16:07

@Dazedandconfused10 I just got a peeled banana emoji back from my needy text. Which I’m now over interpreting instead of rolling eyes and binning

Dazedandconfused10 · 01/11/2021 16:11

Ohhh I would definitely would be over analysing that.

I just got a response! Phewww (now to play it cool and not immediately reply)

Moopyhereagain · 01/11/2021 16:13

@Dazedandconfused10 leave it 67 minutes to reply

Isitreallyme177 · 01/11/2021 16:14

I've just had to Google what a peeled banana emoji means. I'm so not down with emojis.

Moopyhereagain · 01/11/2021 16:16

cf champagne bottle, rocket ship

Dazedandconfused10 · 01/11/2021 16:16

@Moopyhereagain I managed a whole 10 mins

Moopyhereagain · 01/11/2021 16:19

@Dazedandconfused10 well at least it wasn’t instantly coz your phone was in your hand what’s app open waiting…The reason I’m here as distraction and I should really be working!

VanGoghsDog · 01/11/2021 17:04

@JustAnother0ldMan

Ladies & Gents, I need some subjective advice / opinions.

The weekend away with Ms Wales was great fun, but I thought it was just going to be fun, but today I have been invited to hers (she lives in another part of the country from me ), for a a ‘repeat’, as she puts it, which I appreciate will be v nice, but I suspect she is a bit lonely (recently divorced), and looking for some company, so that is that.(could she be lining me up as her FWB ? )

But strangely enough Ms Business has been in contact today, with some somewhat suggestive messages…, and I really liked Ms Business, but wasn’t really sure liked me, so in a bit of a quandary now, as she seems to blow hot and cold..

As someone up thread said, bit like London Busses, nothing for ages then 2 comes along at once..

Thoughts from a grown up please

What's the question?

See them both until you agree one is exclusive. But don't be dishonest if they ask. Ms Wales not a good option if it's a long way, but good infill until Ms Business is sorted one way or another.

Mind you, if she's blowing hot and cold she's not a good option either. Though she might not know she is doing it. I tend to think people get stuck in their heads when they are busy and think a nano second has passed since they texted when in fact it's six weeks.

Dazedandconfused10 · 01/11/2021 17:09

Asked him about another date and so now we wait.