Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

Stunning @BelladiMamma

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

No from me -

I don’t think there was a massive connection or interest either end tbh and if I’m having a friend for coffee or lunches probably easier to find someone local who isn’t a train journey away?[/quote]
Oops sorry meant that HE had no manners. Not you, clearly ♥️🤣

@StartingAgain6369 @SpringlikeBunk I think we need a whole thread devoted to dating fashion 🤣

Had a massive wobble before leaving the comfort of home and dogs. Literally trembling from head to toe. Not that 'running out the door to see my guy' vibe that I was hoping for. More a 'can I please go back to bed and read my book and not ever ever go on a date ever again'.

However I'm grateful that I'm not hosting. I was finding that a real energy suck with other situations. Think 'bloke telling you to get an all house water filter or replant your garden or get your car valeted more often'. Guys that were only ever supposed to be casual / FWB thinking they get to tell you how to manage your house.

LOL I’m a hypocrite haha!

No tbf I did reply to his (very late) message last night saying to let me know what train time he was getting in - and just no reply 🤷‍♀️ so seems too much effort really!

It would have taken fifteen seconds to send a message saying “I’ll aim for the X train”.

Gym and scones and chill time here I think. Along with many nose swabs before I go away.

@Languidleopard sorry this is happening!. It's really confusing when your told one thing but then their actions tell you another. I hope you're having an easy calm day and treating yourself. I really like what @Onesmallstep67 said. You deserve someone so much better than him!
@SpringlikeBunk any update for today from your potential date?

I ran this morning but after prosecco drinking was not my best effort! Enjoying the peace and quiet now before the place fills up with DS's friends getting dressed up for Halloween! It's really my least favourite holiday this one, i'm so easily spooked!

Hope everyone's having a nice Sunday!

@Naimee87

I made a CovExcuse as I got a short confirmation message last night then no update when I asked him to let me know what time he was getting in.

I don’t think either of us are that enthusiastic and it just felt like too much effort? Especially as we’re a train journey away.

So I’ll be having a run like you and buying random food

Good luck @BelladiMamma like @Onesmallstep67 said just enjoy the current connection it all goes by so fast!

@BelladiMamma that outfit sounds fantastic. I need to update my wardrobe. Currently still dressing the same as I did when I was 17... possibly lovong in hoodies and converse may be part of the reason I am still single. I found since splitting with my ex my entire life has reverted back to being 17/18 the only difference being I own the house the parties take place in and no longer need to apologise to my mum for the mess

@Languidleopard gutted for you but guess it's better to find out now

The one I asked about if it were time to forget has messaged a bit this week, so I decided to give it one final chance (as he is the only one I've actually been bothered about and the excuses would have to be bad luck but could happen) and asked if he want to meet next weekend. He asked why he had to wait so long so I called him out on the previous attempts and He replied that was fair. There will be no other chance after this for him, will call home MrSmile

I do have a date zero on wed with a man I've been chatting to so not putting all my eggs in the other basket. Mr IT felt like he was checking if he could get a bit spicy in his messages and I cleared that up straight away. Not gonna have with some others and never ended up meeting so trying a no from now on. Happy with how it went after that and we clarified clearly what we wanted do that was good.

[quote JustAnother0ldMan]@PurpleStripyScarf. Thanks

Re Hotels, I tend to stick with Premier Inn, you know what you are getting, Standard Room on semi-flex is normally about £40/£60, if you book in advance, bit cheaper is if you go for the Standard rate, £9 for breakfast is not worth it in London, if you go for a standard twin room on Standard rate you can do if for 30quid a night.

I’m in a P Inn this weekend in one of the upgraded rooms, which is okay, not sure it’s worth the extra 10 quid over standard What can I say, Match of The Day on a big telly and a BJ, must be in dirty weekend away heaven![/quote]
They're far more than that in London, double.

I've booked one for Brum end Nov, £90 and no parking, and one for Mancs next July £70 no parking.

I don't think they are a cheap option.

@pinkfondu

Yeh agree it’s often tricky working out how long to chat for - I’m a big fan of an ok amount of screening then get the meet in ASAP

or it just seems to drag on for ages and I end up with a phone full of pen pals or guys who want to randomly sext flirt

Like the date zero I cancelled today seemed ok over text but (fault on both our sides) dragging texting for a few weeks just seems to have made us both lose enthusiasm completely?

This sounds cynical but I also worry about guys who aren’t happy meeting sooner that they have something to hide or aren’t that attractive IRL so want to “build a virtual connection” first?

I know I look as good as my photos and am who I say I am and am socially available tend to get ok feedback from first meets so I’m confident about moving to the in-person stage.

@BelladiMamma @SpringlikeBunk
I have a big weakness for jumpsuits (blame Anneka Rice teenage years and Ms YM1) and lounge wear (blame Ms YM1) hope that helps !

[quote StartingAgain6369]**@BelladiMamma* @SpringlikeBunk*
I have a big weakness for jumpsuits (blame Anneka Rice teenage years and Ms YM1) and lounge wear (blame Ms YM1) hope that helps ![/quote]
Do you have the same weakness for jumpsuits on, say, Kathy Burke, or Jo Brand?

I mean, what you're probably saying is that you like to be able to see (slim) women's bodies, no?

I've got a family room in a a Premier Inn for £90 in February half term. By the London Eye. So a room for one in term time - albeit a weekend - somewhere slightly less fancy must be less, I'd like to think...?

[quote Dazedandconfused10]@BelladiMamma that outfit sounds fantastic. I need to update my wardrobe. Currently still dressing the same as I did when I was 17... possibly lovong in hoodies and converse may be part of the reason I am still single. I found since splitting with my ex my entire life has reverted back to being 17/18 the only difference being I own the house the parties take place in and no longer need to apologise to my mum for the mess [/quote]
@Dazedandconfused10 I think I am too, I like living in mini skirts and biker boots. Or jeans, puma suedes and a biker jacket(I have 3 of them). When I hit 40 I had a little wobble and thought is this the time I should start wearing grown up clothes and thought nope I'm not ready for that yet and in fact I found my own style again after splitting up at 40.

@VanGoghsDog
I’m booked 2 rooms right by Tower Bridge in Jan next year for my sister’s birthday and iit was just over £70 a night when I booked it,there is no parking, but it’s the middle of London.
I think they are good value, but you have to book ahead.

I’ve booked on for Bristol in Dec it’s only £54, and that’s the “upgraded” room price

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@pinkfondu

Yeh agree it’s often tricky working out how long to chat for - I’m a big fan of an ok amount of screening then get the meet in ASAP

or it just seems to drag on for ages and I end up with a phone full of pen pals or guys who want to randomly sext flirt

Like the date zero I cancelled today seemed ok over text but (fault on both our sides) dragging texting for a few weeks just seems to have made us both lose enthusiasm completely?

This sounds cynical but I also worry about guys who aren’t happy meeting sooner that they have something to hide or aren’t that attractive IRL so want to “build a virtual connection” first?

I know I look as good as my photos and am who I say I am and am socially available tend to get ok feedback from first meets so I’m confident about moving to the in-person stage.[/quote]
Yes absolutely have had a couple ghost the night before and one stand me up, partly why I felt the need to join here for some support.

Luckily MrIT mentioned he was picking up new specs today so was able to say send us a picwithout it seeming like I'm checking up. And with MeSmile we've had a couple of video calls so know that's all ok.

I like living in mini skirts and biker boots. Or jeans, puma suedes and a biker jacket(I have 3 of them). When I hit 40 I had a little wobble and thought is this the time I should start wearing grown up clothes and thought nope I'm not ready for that yet and in fact I found my own style again after splitting up at 40.

I wear biker jackets and boots, but I ride bikes, not sure about the mini skirts thou

@Isitreallyme177 can't go wrong with any of those combos! I love a cute dress and biker boots. In fact, that is what I will wear to my next date which I hope happens mid week.

I like clothes - overall I'd say style has got a lot more casual/comfortable over the last few years with lockdown etc and "atheleisure".

I used to be a right little bobby-dazzler in a fitted body-con red dress and big hair and Faux Cils bambi eyes and wedges for first dates but those days are (reluctantly) behind me now!

That said I do think there's more flattering versions of casual which I prefer to wear on a first meet - so say a baggy sweater and a miniskirt with dark tights and flat boots is good for a date?

@pinkfondu fair play to give one last chance as seems you have set your boundaries so he can't keep messing you about. Hope it works out well! And good to have another date lined up.

@BelladiMamma very swish sounding outfit! I definitely picture you as a Monica Bellucci type! Im sure it will have the desired effect on your lucky date. Am contrasting your look with what I'm currently wearing (and had on for date zero with MrBank) - oversized shirt, jeans, Nike Air force and a leather jacket 😅
@Isitreallyme177 I'm 40 next year and, from dating men in their 40s, have become aware that my style, taste in music and TV, and probably outlook skews a little young. But I feel like if I tried to be more sophisticated and grown up, it wouldn't work. I guess what looks good on us is what we feel good in. Your style sounds fab to me.

Date zero was a non event for me. No chemistry or spark. Comparing it with my last two dates who were tactile and complimentary, he was not at all like that. But who knows, maybe that's where I'm going wrong and should give him a chance. Will see.
I've been so bloody tempted to call MrBody out on his slow fading, shady, fuckboy shenanigans. Have been told firmly by mates to ignore him and leave the ball in his court. I'm so bad at being cool and unbothered though 😑 ugh!

@VanGoghsDog

Kathy Burke, or Jo Brand? No, Dawn French yes

@JustAnother0ldMan not sure a mini skirt would work on a bike, might ride up a bit 🤦‍♀️🤣

@Dazedandconfused10 dress and biker boots sound nice for a date. Now I'm getting ideas for my cinema date next week.

@MizK I love pencil skirts and heels and wear them a lot for work so I can do the grown up and sophisticated but out of work is another thing. I love Kate Moss's style too.

Didn’t hear from last nights Mr talkabouthimself not even a thanks for the drink.
I’m now sat in Starbucks waiting for date. I don’t like late comers so I hope he gets here soon.

good luck @Cocopogo and all the daters out there tonight!

Just scarfed down a giant greasy bowl of pasta after a run done just how I like it, dressed like a big teletubby, ready to watch a film on YouTube.

ooh.