Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

Checking in, saw my iron last night, he stayed over and then we went on a little day trip today. Hoping there is another date. Made it to a 4th which is now a record! But also trying to not get ahead of myself

I'd be totally up for a London meetup, with an overnight stay as it's a good 3 hours from where I am.

Crazy thought but how about Jan/Feb rather than Christmas as people tend to get booked up and restaurants/hotels will be busy and possibly more expensive? A dinner somewhere conducive to chatting, with an optional pub/bar beforehand for those who can get there? And a Sunday morning walk/brunch if anyone's interested, before heading back?

I think I'm getting a bit carried away...

Bless her @Isitreallyme177 that is heartbreaking about her missing her sister. Would you get another one? I’d quite like to but mine is so possessive over me I think she’d be murderous to any intruders into our little partnership.

@WeWantTheFinestWines that’s a really lovely idea 💗

@Shayelle2009 I think she could do with the company and it would probably stop her being so clingy but not sure how she would take to another cat. I want a dog but that is another thing entirely. She doesn't mind the neighbour's staffie, mind you they only see each other briefly. Maybe when Mr Cricket gets his I could see how she gets along with it.

Shall I’ll diarise to post on December 1st and we can start a WhatsApp group to do a roll call and see if we can do a London meet? 🤔 I’m up for whatever option but probably prefer to stay the night and potter round London if we’re there.

+1 for London please

@SpringlikeBunk

Shall I’ll diarise to post on December 1st and we can start a WhatsApp group to do a roll call and see if we can do a London meet? 🤔 I’m up for whatever option but probably prefer to stay the night and potter round London if we’re there.

Thanks Bunk

Another one (possibly) bites the dust.

Checked in with the date zero for tomorrow and he replied back straight away but then when I mentioned setting a time no reply.

So I’ll give him tonight, then if nothing back I’m not taking my burner phone out with me tomorrow so that’s a dud.

After a lot of app experience I’m now not staying in touch with anyone who can’t compose and write a quick “sorry I might be tied up, can I let you know in the morning?” message.

@SpringlikeBunk

Shall I’ll diarise to post on December 1st and we can start a WhatsApp group to do a roll call and see if we can do a London meet? 🤔 I’m up for whatever option but probably prefer to stay the night and potter round London if we’re there.

Yes please 👍🏻 and for @WeWantTheFinestWines idea

@SpringlikeBunk

Another one (possibly) bites the dust.

Checked in with the date zero for tomorrow and he replied back straight away but then when I mentioned setting a time no reply.

So I’ll give him tonight, then if nothing back I’m not taking my burner phone out with me tomorrow so that’s a dud.

After a lot of app experience I’m now not staying in touch with anyone who can’t compose and write a quick “sorry I might be tied up, can I let you know in the morning?” message.

Good rules there! Well done ♥️ I would have myself so much heartache if I'd done the same

@BelladiMamma

Yes and I know that I myself don’t leave people hanging so it’s just wanting someone similar?

He provisionally agreed by chat on Friday (having instigated a lot of messages) and I imagine he’s considering a better offer or doesn’t fancy it now.

Which is 100% fine, but then just shoot a brief message back saying you have to work or something?

I got a message from someone I’d had a good date zero with asking me to the cinema when I was waiting on MrHedgehog confirming.

So I just sent a polite one back straight away saying “thanks and would have loved to but have work prep”.

No drama and it allows the other party to sort out their schedule.

Toilet update, I’m out on a date. Was in two minds as still think about ex but he pissed me off royally today so I thought sod him I’m doing this. Seems a nice enough chap but my god he doesn’t shut up about himself, I think I’m going to have to make my excuses and leave, he clearly has no interest in me whatsoever as he’s just talking about himself so much, maybe nerves.

@Dazedandconfused10 sounds like a good start but very early days

@WeWantTheFinestWines

I'd be totally up for a London meetup, with an overnight stay as it's a good 3 hours from where I am.

Crazy thought but how about Jan/Feb rather than Christmas as people tend to get booked up and restaurants/hotels will be busy and possibly more expensive? A dinner somewhere conducive to chatting, with an optional pub/bar beforehand for those who can get there? And a Sunday morning walk/brunch if anyone's interested, before heading back?

I think I'm getting a bit carried away...

Totally this! Sounds lovely. And thanks @SpringlikeBunk for diarising.

@JustAnother0ldMan yes of course you should be there!

Yeh everyone will get busy close to Xmas so like the jan idea plus I will be less broke then.

If some people are staying overnight option for anyone in London to join for the evening drink or coffee in the morning.

I want a nice London weekend anyway - I came back through London on a work trip but it’s not the same when you’re in work mode.

@SpringlikeBunk

Maybe talk about a thread london xmas night out closer to time, also if anyone wants to split cost of "basic hotel room to crash in" as I don't want to commute home pissed and am just a bit too old for hostels (and would like to do the galleries the next day)

I'd be up for London early next year, might stay over.

Check out Point A hotels for cheap.

Oh ffs my date zero has reconfirmed and said "perfect".

He only had 15 minutes to go as well!

Now I can't wear my loungewear all day tomorrow.

"Now I can't wear my loungewear all day tomorrow."

Reading that back, I can see why I'm single -

potential man of my dreams and love of my life
vs
innate ambition to live like Waynetta Slob.

@SpringlikeBunk

"Now I can't wear my loungewear all day tomorrow."

Reading that back, I can see why I'm single -

potential man of my dreams and love of my life
vs
innate ambition to live like Waynetta Slob.

You need a man who wants to help you choose the loungewear of your dreams, positively encourages you to wear it, and even buys a matching set for himself. That is surely what dreams are made of 😁

Just back from a good evening at a gig. Town was mental, absolutely mobbed, the car parks were closed and it took me bloody hours to get home.

Went with a recently single bi friend of friend who I thought I might enjoy meeting. She's certainly very stylish and also loves music which is a plus. However she didn't stop telling me all about her ex and how they were a narcissist and she was an empath and ... etc etc to be fair it sounds like an awful relationship but I don't think she asked me one question about myself. Even in friendships this is now a no no. So biii possible new bi friend. Damn. I really wanted it work out so we could be gig buddies or something

@BelladiMamma

LOL I'm like "but I tidied my place and my nether regions last Sunday for MrHedgehog, now I need to dress "smart-cute-casual-attractive but not too much of a hoe" this Sunday.

Too much mental load!

Definitely going to swipe on one of them heroic military or navy types next round, they have the decency to be away lots so I can be a hairy dirty grinch at home!

Looking forward to London cultured weekend pissup with you and everyone

Wow at busyness @BelladiMamma

Definitely get the same vibe where I am.

Hope this doesn't mean a massive surge in cases and another lockdown

I went to the theatre tonight, it was half empty, no parking problems.

I went to the cinema Thu to see a streamed live show. Probably less than twenty people in the cinema.

So it's not busy everywhere.

@SpringlikeBunk

"Now I can't wear my loungewear all day tomorrow."

Reading that back, I can see why I'm single -

potential man of my dreams and love of my life
vs
innate ambition to live like Waynetta Slob.

Meet him in your lounge wear. He may as well get to know the real you. He could bring his slippers?

Thanks for hotel tip @VanGoghsDog

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Tempted!

I'm going a lot more casual on first meets but still like something reasonably form-fitting and "looks ok if it gets extended to dinner".

The whole "dressing for a lockdown walk date" thing was something really interesting, we'll all be looking back with nostalgia and laughing at the "coffee walk" thing!