Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

@BelladiMamma

I guess only time will tell on this situation - I’d enjoy your Sunday and the fizzling chemistry and take things one contact at a time.

Is he in a good position to date someone exclusively in terms of life/living/hosting situation etc?

Have tentatively suggested a meet with the “last man standing” I haven’t met from bumble - just a coffee tomorrow so will be ok to fit in and not drink. Just thought As I am going away very soon it would be a bit weird having to keep in touch with someone without having met

@SpringlikeBunk

Have tentatively suggested a meet with the “last man standing” I haven’t met from bumble - just a coffee tomorrow so will be ok to fit in and not drink. Just thought As I am going away very soon it would be a bit weird having to keep in touch with someone without having met

I was going to ask you why you weren't doing coffees and just drinks. It's a great way of not getting exhausted or spending too much money 💰 on date zero's

Yes he's got his own place. But it's hundreds of miles away 🤣

He has a great place in London that's sort of come through work. That's not his from end of November

The fact is I may never see him again after this weekend because his next free weekend he's going to see his DC

That’s a very good point @BelladiMamma - I’ve had evening meets so often if the guy is leading/suggesting it ends up drinks but I could ask for coffee.

It’s a body size thing as well - 1-2 drinks for a six foot bloke will barely register but for me it’s “strongly tipsy” stage.

I pulled two all-nighters last week 😑 so the thought of a boozy late one any time soon is 🤦🏽‍♀️

Was talking with colleagues about “how much money would someone have to give you to go out to a party tonight” and we all would pick a quiet night over anything!

But I do want to date so I’ll muddle along for now - progress not perfection.

@SpringlikeBunk

That’s a very good point *@BelladiMamma* - I’ve had evening meets so often if the guy is leading/suggesting it ends up drinks but I could ask for coffee.

It’s a body size thing as well - 1-2 drinks for a six foot bloke will barely register but for me it’s “strongly tipsy” stage.

It's harder to do daytime meets because it always has to fit around work and other responsibilities but it is easier on the exhaustion levels and the bank account. I also prefer it because it's immediately downgraded from a romantic meet and you can weigh up what sort of person you're meeting without Prosecco goggles 😀

You’re right @BelladiMamma - I’ve got criticism in the past socially for being teetotal but actually it’s my schedule and my waistline so I can definitely improve on being more assertive there!

Its annoying but also not worth my time thinking about. I'm going to have a nap, go for a nice afternoon walk and have a chilled evening in doing some pampering which is just what I need right now.

I'm also not counting on the date 0's happening next weekend so if I haven't heard by mid week I will alternative plans.

[quote MizK]@BelladiMamma well it certainly sounds like you have amazing mutual chemistry with Mr Actor.. I really hope that you can just continue to enjoy your connection with him! I sometimes wish the brain would bugger off when there's something good going and allow us to experience without overthinking!

@JustAnother0ldMan sounds like your weekend is going extremely well, congrats!

@Dancerinthemoonlight what a dickhead. At least you didn't waste an outfit on him as I'm sure he would have been a dead end if he's rude enough to vanish like that.

Hope all enjoy the meet up!

I've deleted MrBody's number so I can't message him...he seems to still want to see me but I've definitely done enough chasing up now. Will leave it with the universe!
Got a coffee date zero tomorrow afternoon with MrBank, he's similarly new to dating, has kids, finds the whole online dating thing draining too I think. Seems handsome and intelligent from pics and chats, will see.
Now going to put my phone in a drawer so I don't keep pathetically checking to see if MrBody has messaged 😬 and go and have a productive afternoon![/quote]
Thanks a lot, I will be “shagged out”,by the end of this weekend, turns out Ms Wales likes sex a lot and likes a lot of sex !
Will go home and sleep for a week, it’s all much for an old man 👴

Lol @Dancerinthemoonlight

Yeh I must admit although I’m trying to keep my hand in dating I’m really needing the home/doing nowt/chill time as well

I feel pretty fed up, on the train home already, had some food then my mate said she couldn’t manage anything else, guess it’s nice to get home when you’ve got your child and partner at home waiting for you. So much for the cocktails and giggles I was so looking forward to..

@Shayelle2009 oh that's pretty shit, I've just got back from lunch with my parents and now watching the rugby contemplating doing some housework. That's how exciting my Saturday is (no offence to my parents as it was lovely of them to treat me to lunch). I'm out tomorrow but not feeling a big one so will drive.

Did you make it out yesterday @Isitreallyme177? I feel really short changed, thought we’d be out for a good few hours ☹️ Sigh..

@Shayelle2009 sorry your plans didn't go as expected 🙁 hope you can enjoy the rest of your day - spoil yourself with takeaway, bath and funny film maybe

Yeah… I guess no ones really up for partying these days… apart from me lol

I'm just home after my night and day with Mr M. We went into city and did cocktails and dinner before theatre and then a quick drink after before home to here. He stayed over and the we went into town to do some shopping and grabbed lunch out. My head is hurting from cocktails (I'm a lightweight) so I need to get rid of headache as now heading out tonight with best mate for drinks and live music

Congrats @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards too on qualifying 🥳

@SpringlikeBunk really? That's crap. I've been everything with drinking from too much to none at all and people who can't deal with that can do one ...!

@Shayelle2009 oh bugger that's such a shame. I hope you didn't get caught in the rain as well

@Isitreallyme177 that sounds like a lovely chill day ♥️

@Shayelle2009 oh that's rubbish, I can imagine you were looking forward to a proper night out. Is there anyone else you could maybe catch up with last minute?

Im really annoyed as there were drinks last night loads of my mates went to but I didn't go as wanted to be fresh for today. Should have gone 😣😣

Hope everyone is well

Having a quiet weekend after a busy week of work drama, dating and family stuff.

Us introverts, who aren't necessarily shy or anti social, need to take the time to recharge our batteries.

@Shayelle2009 nope didn't make it out last night, by 4pm I'd kind of written it off anyway then she messaged at 5pm to say she'd spent all day in bed and was really sorry. My ex came over as he said I shouldn't be on my own on my birthday. We just watched crap TV. But I do feel slightly pissed off as she said she has been ill all week so should have cancelled before 5pm yesterday.

@BelladiMamma it's actually been nice especially as I didn't get to sleep until gone 2am but I'm slightly fuzzy now as the lack of sleep is catching up with me and I know if I sit on the sofa too long I'll fall asleep and have the same problem tomorrow.

I’d be really upset about that too @Isitreallyme177. Sorry your mate did that to you on your birthday. Bloody rude.

@Shayelle2009 she didn't even wish me happy birthday which just topped it off.

Oh my god @Isitreallyme177 did she completely forget? I would feel absolutely mortified treating a friend like that on their birthday. Even if you are bed stricken with flu you can send a text first thing. I feel bad for you its really shabby behaviour.

@Isitreallyme177 sorry that's crap. Time to deprioritise that friend I think? But happy birthday again!! Let me know next time and I'll pop over!!

@TobyEsterhase I hear you! OLD is basically spending time with strangers and it can be exhausting