When to have The Talk

[ToastOnCheese]

Hi,

I've been dating someone now for three months, it's all going brilliantly in my opinion. We have a lot of fun together.

We've both said we are open to seeing where things go, however we haven't discussed anything beyond that.

I have deleted the dating apps and I am not interested in dating or seeing anyone else, I dont know his opinion on this.

Is three months too early to ask this? Too late? If he was really interested would he have already asked me?

Thank you

Bloody hell op thanks for the ride. I spent the first half of this thread thinking guy #1 was dead!

Guy #4 sounds delish, rooting for you 😁

@Allmyfavouritepeople
Haha I appreciate you reading it all, must have taken an age!!
Thank you, I feel so lucky to have met him.

It was compelling! Wrong emoji there obviously I meant 🥰

@Advicer
What did you say that got deleted?

Thought I'd update to say that guy 4 continues to be amazing and we are getting along very, very well. It is just easy, I feel so lucky and so does he!

Such happy news OP.

Hi Toast, not messaged on this thread for a while, but so glad to catch up and see things are going oh so well with Guy #4 - still keep us posted!

Do you call him Guy 4 to his face?

This is happy news, OP! I'm so glad it's all going so well.

@beastlyslumber
Haha imagine!

@ToastOnCheese

Thought I'd update to say that guy 4 continues to be amazing and we are getting along very, very well. It is just easy, I feel so lucky and so does he!

I've also been watching this thread but haven't posted for a while.

Sooooooo glad that you have finally found happiness! I do remember saying to you that when the right man/relationship comes along, it becomes so effortless! I hate to say this but I TOLD YOU SO!!

Keep us posted OP! Wishing you and Guy 4 a happy future, look forward to my wedding invite hehe! X

@Snoozeee
Thank you! And I'm very glad you told me so because you were absolutely right

@ToastOnCheese - how is it going with lovely Guy 4?

@NorthFaceofthelaundrypile
Its all going well, thank you! We had a lovely night away last night and we are now officially boyfriend and girlfriend. He is so lovely, I still can't fault him! Thank you for asking

Aw thank you for the update @ToastOnCheese. So chuffed for you ☺️☺️. So how long has it been now? You’ve met his friends (possibly family) haven’t you? Xx

@DancinOnTheCeiling
Its only been 2 months! Yes, I have met a couple of his friends, he's met a couple of mine too. This one is all above board, I even know his surname

Hahaha, I laughed at the surname comment @ToastOnCheese. Great you’ve met a couple of his friends and he a couple of yours. What’s your friends’ verdict?

I’ve been wondering whether guys 1-3 have been in touch again, in particular guy 1
(I know you’re not interested) - you know how they ‘smell’ when you’re no longer available? This has happened to me many times, and only ever when I didn’t care anymore!

@DancinOnTheCeiling
My friends who have met him all really like him! They've said he seems lovely and kind and genuine. It was my birthday last week and he got me some beautiful horseshoe earrings (I have horses) which I thought was so thoughtful.

They haven't, no! My WhatsApp photo is of me and guy 4 which possibly has stopped them? But I never thought guy 1 would contact me. I did block guy 2 as he was messaging quite a bit, even after id told him i wasnt interested. Its funny how like you said, they only want you when you no longer want them!

I just wish I could get back all of those hours I spent moping over stupid boys who never even mattered!

Aww but if you hadn't been through all that frog-kissing you might never have met Guy4! Glad it's all going so well

@ToastOnCheese I agree with @beastlyslumber - you needed to have those experiences to be able to appreciate a good guy! He sounds so lovely, how thoughtful about the earrings and glad your friends really like him!

How annoying of guy 2 - too little too late!

Keep us posted 😊

How are things going?

@noradelphine
So well, thank you for asking! I'm currently away with my friends for almost 2 weeks, it is weird as I usually see him very regularly, but we have a 2 night trip away booked for when I return so I'm excited for that. We've been officially boyfriend and girlfriend for exactly 6 weeks today, so still very early days!

I feel really lucky. I do have moments of "how is this happening for me" given all the shite I've been through with previous males, but he makes me feel safe and secure everyday.

Most probably it won't work out long-term, few OLD relationships do

I hadn't seen your thread for awhile but so happy to read all that has happened since dud 1 and that you've found someone truly nice.

I think your thread is inspiration on how to date. Throw the wishy washy ones back fast and keep dating.
He was keen without being pushy. Took the lead in dating and never made you doubt his intentions.
Made a good effort for valentine's and birthday.
Everything was easy and made sense just like you said.

All the best with your relationship!

@Musttryharder2021
Nice bit of encouragement on a Sunday morning! The worst relationship I've ever had was someone I met "organically" so I'll take my chances!

@RantyAunty
Thank you so much! If I have to date again I've certainly learned a lot so would feel much more confident doing it again. I hope I don't have to anytime soon though!