Dumped, but want him back. Should I reach out?

[easyonme]

A few days ago, my boyfriend dumped me. I am devastated. His reason was that he felt something was missing in our relationship. He’d thought about it a lot but thinks that I am the perfect girlfriend, but not the perfect girlfriend for him.

I am confused, hurt, and shocked. He was the perfect man for me.

I really miss him. I just want a cuddle from him.

I’ve written him a letter explaining how I feel that he’s made a mistake and that we shouldn’t throw away our relationship for an unknown.

Sorry about the errors… far too long… I mean you get my point. I’m on my mobile and rushed :)

@JustKittenAround
Wise words

he’s text me three times this evening with various things

I thought you had blocked him. Blocking is what you need to do. And tell all your friends not to tell you anything about him. He's very manipulative.

This happened to me once OP. I was devastated when he dumped me. Gave me the same reasons yours gave you. He said he could never marry or have children with me. Didn’t like me enough.

He was my first relationship. I was so upset but as much as I desperately wanted him, I never once asked for him to take me back.

After nearly three years of pretending I didn’t care about him, he tried for months to win me back. We’re married now, with a child, despite what he said all those years ago.

One thing he said to me after we got back together was interesting. He was disappointed that I never begged him to take me back. He actually said that to me. I can guarantee however, that if I had done that, we wouldn’t be together now.

You’re doing the right thing! If you want to write that letter, do it, but keep it for your eyes only.

@PyongyangKipperbang

I always felt that "Waity Katy" was unfair. She moved on, just not with anyone important enough to be papped!

How about "Beggin' BIll" for him when he was desperate to get her back?!

Yeah, and she's been cheating on by him ever since

So sorry but he’s told you he has thought a lot about ending it. It’s not a whim he means it. Do not send the letter!!! X

Well done you for saying you want no contact. You have your head held high!! You are in co trol of your destiny. Find someone who really loves you. You sound like really nice person . Onwards and upwards xxx

Well done OP for not contacting him. I think you should keep it that way permanently.

He claims to have given ending your relationship a lot of thought but he doesn't seem to want to lose contact altogether, he can't have his cake and eat it. You respected his boundaries but he's shown no such restraint when it comes to yours. Perhaps he regrets his decision already or is disappointed you didn't pester him for a reconciliation, either way he doesn't seem to know his own feelings and is happy to play with yours whilst he works it all out. Let him go and get on with your life.

Enjoy your holiday.

What an idiot. You sound like you are better off out of it. Bit I know that hurts when you love someone so much.

If he does come crawling back I think it will take you time to trust him again, personally I think you deserve better but good luck in whatever happens. Keep us posted.

OP, how are you getting on now?