@Lobelia123
@moofolk and @ToffeeNotCoffee get it completely. The OP thinks she's some kind of hero for revealing the shittiness of the boyfriend and his cheating. And he probably deserves to be exposed. But the way she's done it is almost certainly increasing the girlfriends pain and confusion. That's a really shit thing to do. Congratulations for doing something in a sneaky way that's adding to the general horribleness of the situation. If you feel so strongly about her needing to know, then you should have had the guts to own up to it so she could put a face to the name. So please don't congratulate yourself that you are some kind of moral crusader. You're actually a bit of a shit.
Thanks.
It's just the 'I know something you don't' of it. The playground gossip. Dropping someone in it for no other reason than, because you can.
I cannot bear the, 'she had a right to know' 'he had a right to know' attitude. Like the person could care less about rights. They just wanted to poke their oar in and go mouthing off.
No personal cost to them but it's an opportunity to drop some guano into someone else's life.
Somehow, maybe in a different circumstance, the same will happen to the OP. They she'll know what it's like to be looking over their shoulder, always wondering who.
I've never been in the situation of cheating as a married person or with a married person. However, as a family we once got burgled many many years ago. I've also had my work bag taken from my car many years ago.
Looking at total strangers in your street/neighbourhood/college/school/work/the shops etc etc etc wondering if it was them or do they know anything about it is not nice.