Dating thread 214 - the no rules one!

[BelladiMamma]

Here are the only rules what matter!

As for anything else OLD not listed here - make your own ❤️

@Earlgrey19 hard to say as he's right in the middle of things. Plus I'd be wary that he went back anyway. I would say a few months. Apologies to the men on this thread but often feels like the man will rush into something new to avoid being alone. If you want to give it a go, you need to watch him stand on his own two feet for a while.

@SortingItOut thanks, yes, a good few months.
I do think the divorce sounds final. I might be wrong. Yes, how he copes re. missing his son remains to be seen. He’s managed to negotiate 50:50 shared care. We’ve known each other a few years and had a relationship for about 5 months before we broke up last Christmas. I don’t really doubt his feelings. But I do need to be careful, I think re timing.

Thanks Bella & Eesha. I agree Yes, neutral, public place if we meet. Good point that face to face gives more information/ is more real.

Earl I’d give him a chance but protect yourself highly , manage boundaries etc x

He's still not replied 🤦‍♀️ which might be a good thing as it means it's definitely not tonight and probably not tomorrow). I look like shit as I've not been sleeping well, hopefully I sleep well tonight and get rid of these bags under my eyes so I don't look like a panda when I do see him 😬.

@Isitreallyme177

He's still not replied 🤦‍♀️ which might be a good thing as it means it's definitely not tonight and probably not tomorrow). I look like shit as I've not been sleeping well, hopefully I sleep well tonight and get rid of these bags under my eyes so I don't look like a panda when I do see him 😬.

I hope he doesn't leave you hanging too long. It's such a 🤯

Thanks @BelladiMamma I know he does stuff to do with the divorce(he mentioned mediation last time I saw him) and sees his daughter on Tuesday but the wait is killing me 🤣.

@Isitreallyme177 hope you hear soon and it feels ok for you. It’s hard waiting. I’m exactly like you with poor sleep and panda eyes atm! Concealer concealer! It does help a bit! Sleep best remedy, though —hope you get some tonight.

@Earlgrey19 I'm normally pretty good waiting for his messages but not today 😬. Must remember to keep my feet firmly on the floor for now.

isit I'm sorry you haven't heard from Mr Cricket yet. Would you feel this way if you hadn't heard from a friend? Or does it feel like he sees your connection as something more than friends now? Is he dating? Of he were, how would that make you feel?

I hope something wonderful comes of this as you seem completely lovely and deserve happiness!

@WeWantTheFinestWines aww thank you😊 I would probably have been fine had my friend not messaged and asked to meet up this week, it's because I have her waiting on me to come back with a day that I'm getting twitchy. I hate being that person that leaves people hanging. When I saw him last we did briefly talk about dating and that was when he told me he had been on a couple but they were a disaster, maybe he's realised what's in front of him 😬🤣. But something changed that day I could feel it (the hug at the end lasted a rather long time🙈) then he agreed to dinner, then the messages whilst I was away and he was away. Who knows.

@Isitreallyme177 I do hope he's had a change of heart and realises he would be a fool to let you go. While you wait to find out, please look after yourself and try to manage your expectations because that's really easy

Hmmmmm....

Random technical question.

Is a guy saying his name is "Dom" on the apps shorthand for being dominating? I've just seen it too many times on apps/

I'm a bit late to reply but thank you for the responses to my post regarding MrTree and the red flags.
I was aware of clares law but had assumed it was for those in an established relationship, but I have today emailed the relevant police force to start the process if I can. I don't think it will come back with anything as he has a firearms license and from what I have read, if he had any convictions and especially anything related to dv then he would have those removed.

I saw him again today and had a really nice time with him, but there were a few more red flags so I'm going to give it some thought whether I see him again- there are many positives about him but I think that any red flag at this stage should perhaps mean the end.

So tonight after a week of me deciding he would never call i got a call from my guy. Very general chat.. just friendly stuff... I'm not sure it's good for me but i can't seem to summon up the will power to not take his calls ...

@SpringlikeBunk

Hmmmmm....

Random technical question.

Is a guy saying his name is "Dom" on the apps shorthand for being dominating? I've just seen it too many times on apps/

Hmmm. If it's in the profile yes - but name, hard to tell. Am thinking probably but that's awkward for all the real life Dominic's shortened to Dom ...

@anniewilkes21

I'm a bit late to reply but thank you for the responses to my post regarding MrTree and the red flags. I was aware of clares law but had assumed it was for those in an established relationship, but I have today emailed the relevant police force to start the process if I can. I don't think it will come back with anything as he has a firearms license and from what I have read, if he had any convictions and especially anything related to dv then he would have those removed.

I saw him again today and had a really nice time with him, but there were a few more red flags so I'm going to give it some thought whether I see him again- there are many positives about him but I think that any red flag at this stage should perhaps mean the end.

Sadly that's not the case with shotgun licences. I went through this last year when I was stalked and assaulted. The guy had a shotgun but I was told 'different agencies' so no join up. Yes, I was also astonished.

I have done my Bumble duty for the day and worked through all the potatoes.

One replier and saw he's a smoker so a no-no.

Shit - I sent a first message in German to an attractive german guy and he's replied back in german and seems think I'm German too.

Do I chance it with Google Translate just to get some dick?

@SpringlikeBunk

Shit - I sent a first message in German to an attractive german guy and he's replied back in german and seems think I'm German too.

Do I chance it with Google Translate just to get some dick?

This made me laugh ... answer in German and tell him your English in that message 😄

[quote WeWantTheFinestWines]@Isitreallyme177 I do hope he's had a change of heart and realises he would be a fool to let you go. While you wait to find out, please look after yourself and try to manage your expectations because that's really easy [/quote]
@WeWantTheFinestWines I'm trying my hardest not to get my hopes up. At least then I'm not disappointed who am I kidding if I'm completely off the mark.

@Sugaspunsista

I answered in English...sadly the messages I received back are "nein"

I think I've just accepted matches on Bumble have a very, very low chance of "taking" so not going to try too hard with the chats - if someone likes the look of my profile and wants to make the social effort they will do, but I'm not going to "chat anyone up", or agree to last minute meets and compromise.

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Sugaspunsista

I answered in English...sadly the messages I received back are "nein"

I think I've just accepted matches on Bumble have a very, very low chance of "taking" so not going to try too hard with the chats - if someone likes the look of my profile and wants to make the social effort they will do, but I'm not going to "chat anyone up", or agree to last minute meets and compromise.[/quote]
How long will you give yourself on Bumble? I used to find the flakiness and lack of proper chat maddening but then again I'm impatient. Harvested my worst flakes from that app 🤣

What about the speed dating? Are you giving up on that or will you try again?

I think I have enough matches to last till Christmas at the moment. It's slightly ridiculous

@SpringlikeBunk i agree with that entirely. I do think the whole matching and then not talking properly is annoying....
I still can't get over your surgeon from last night!!

Someone just unmatched from on Feeld because I cracked a joke about the ratio of men vs women ... all very light, nothing personal at all ... just made what I thought was a hilarious maths 🧮 based joke. I managed to offend him ... maybe this is a good way to filter. See if people can cope with numbers based humour ... 🤷🏻‍♀️