So my husband has spent since Thursday giving me the silent treatment being extremely nasty when he has spoken and decided that today is the day hes leaving me there is no marriage so save blah this all started because I was in to much pain and too tired to make his tea we have a 1 and a half year old who is very active and literally never stops until he goes to bed and I have severe osteoarthritis in my knee which is causing me serious pain at the minute so our house is definitely not any where near as clean as it should be, when I ask him for a little help even just moving his own stuff all i get is he works all week anyway I feel really really sad for our little boy who is now losing his family and essentially his daddy for a little while until he gets sorted but I'm actually relieved it's over like i feel my life will now get better is this awful?
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Please ignore the voice in your head that says you should try to make it work for your child.
It's natural after a long time with someone to have such doubts, especially if you have a child together, but that doesn't mean you should pay any heed to them. Everything you've told us shows that he thinks very little of you, and you are better off - and happier - without him. Which in turn will be better for your child.
You have done the hardest bit - made the decision and got through the first few days. Stay strong. It won't always be an easy ride - but then it wouldn't have been an easy ride with him either would it?
And if you falter. read through what you've told us here.
You deserve better. A much calmer and happier life awaits.
Thank you every one I really do feel happier and stronger today than I have done, he has really treated me badly over the years and I've bent over backwards to make him happy not that it ever worked I think he thought I would beg him to come back for the baby sake I stopped doing that when he left when I was pregnant it took him months to talk me round and let him move back in i wish I had stayed strong and saved us all of this but never mind I'll look into buying something that he can take to his dads but it wont be this week unfortunately he has other teddies in his cot that he could maybe take that will remind him of home it's his dads birthday tomorrow and I said he could come round and spend some time with him but unless he takes him out I don't want him here its time to stop allowing him all the control and put my foot down 
OP,
You are feeling relief that the endless drama is not in your home.
Do not allow him visit the baby in your home.
He needs to make his own arrangements.
Do not start facilitating his visits at your home.
You will quickly regret it.
He needs to collect the baby and go elsewhere.
Do not budge on this point.
I am so up and down its causing me so much confusion yesterday I was strong and feeling happier today I'm feeling fed up I know it's only been a week and I've cut all contact that isn't about our son so why today am I finding it all very hard is it because he will be here in a minute to take him out for tea, that I still made the effort to send his birthday card and present from the baby and not received even a thank you or because people are using our wedding pictures to wish him a happy birthday it's all just so hard today 
Of course it is hard.
You have tried for so long to make it work.
It's hard not to feel sad and regretful.
Perhaps write a list of his awful behaviour and read over it when you feel low.
You have made a brave decision to help yourself have a better future.
Its not easy at all to do this.
It's very brave.
One day at a time.
Him not responding is just more ignorance on his behalf.
Go off social media and be kind to yourself.
I do struggle when I'm down and honestly I don't know what I do to feel better, my son hit me in the face and sobbed when he got dropped off again today he can't understand why his dad isn't coming in with him and its hurting me more than I can put into words it's like he hates me and thinks it's all my fault I know hes only one and doesn't but god its hurting me, I've taken him off all my social media tonight I cant see him feeling sorry for him self and my friends comforting him when they haven't once asked how I am god this is all such a mess 
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Thank you I'm doing my best his dad asked for him today and I said yes but for some reason he is in a terrible mood and the baby has picked up on it so he didn't settle at all and just cried so he brought him home which I'm glad for he is now asleep in his own bed it's the first time his dad brought him to the door and he came without a paddy and said by and made love you sign at his dad so he must have really missed me but I'll get him through and we will get a routine going this thread is really keeping me going
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