So my husband has spent since Thursday giving me the silent treatment being extremely nasty when he has spoken and decided that today is the day hes leaving me there is no marriage so save blah this all started because I was in to much pain and too tired to make his tea we have a 1 and a half year old who is very active and literally never stops until he goes to bed and I have severe osteoarthritis in my knee which is causing me serious pain at the minute so our house is definitely not any where near as clean as it should be, when I ask him for a little help even just moving his own stuff all i get is he works all week anyway I feel really really sad for our little boy who is now losing his family and essentially his daddy for a little while until he gets sorted but I'm actually relieved it's over like i feel my life will now get better is this awful?
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@BookFiend4Life
This is so true.
Symptoms are always exacerbated by stress.
We have made some progress today I did let him come see the baby and we were civil he has already left his brothers house which I think gas made him change his attitude a bit and is moving into somewhere renting a room tomorrow he has sorted everything for the baby to sleep so I'm going out with my friends and I'm really looking forward to it 
Well done in moving forward as a single person.
You will continue to feel better as the days go on.
@Laurapb88
Lovely OP......this comment you made stood out to me and i just wanted to share with you my experience....
My ex H walked out on myself and our then 9 Yr old dc as he didn't want to be married to someone disabled and wanted a 'normal' wife - I know, what a charmer
Like you, I was relieved he'd gone but did think who on earth would want a 42 year old with a walking stick and 9 yr old. Fast forward 18 months to now. Im divorced...yay ....and I've been seeing the loveliest most caring man for the last 7 months. Still very early days, not met each others children yet but planning that for early next year all going well BUT I want you to see that there is someone out there, if you want to find them!
My DC and I are the happiest we've been in years since ex H left. I'm relieved every day that he took the decision I wasn't brave enough to do.
Take care and good luck xx
Thank you so much that's made me feel better, it's taken a nasty turn really he has told me he doesn't love me anymore and doenst find me attractive which in its self is fine but when I asked why he was still having sex with he said because it was there he made me feel utterly used and worthless but made me more determined that in a few weeks when he decides he wants his family back which he will that it's a resounding no I have no idea why he is trying to hurt me so much but tonight I am baby free and getting ready to meet friends and just enjoy my self but at least I am fully determined there is no way back 
@ManifestingJoy..agree
OP, it's YOUR fault he said these nasty things, you didn't throw yourself at his feet wailing "don't go, don't leave me" and prostrate yourself in front of him sufficiently🙄, so he has had to rachet up the nastiness a notch.
View his ugliness as a gift that has helped move you on.
Hope you have a great night with the girls.
Well it got worse he brought the baby home at quarter to 12 he didn't even have him for 24 hours he brought him home without him having a nap so he was sobbing for the first 20 minutes only he didn't bring his teddy that he sleeps with and can't sleep without it then refused to bring it back so I could put him down for a nap and would give me his address so my mum could go get it 
so I've told him now it's set hours and if he doesn't like it we will go to court I did have a great night tho catching up with all my friends I can guess he brought him home to try make me suffer with a hangover a tired baby that he knew wouldn't nap but my mum and dad took him out for the afternoon he had a really good time and slept all night for the first time since Sunday thanks for all your messages you are keeping me strong ❤
What a waster.
Prepared to deny his child sleep so the baby would be overtired and fractious upon return.
That is abusive IMO.
Make a detailed note of it OP, in case you need it later.
What an absolute waster.
Glad you had a good night out.
You are well rid.
Please get your DS a couple of new comforters and keep them at yours his Dad can keep the current one. It will be difficult for your DS to get used to the new ones at first but he will.
What a cruel man
He brought them in the end he actually threw the bag at me haha, but I wont be sending them again he can buy some for his house we have only communicated through text so I have it all written down, he definitely thought he was making me suffer knowing I would have a hangover, but the baby is in a lovely mood today and I feel very positive too then only way is up now
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