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Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

328 replies

Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 10:56

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

OP posts:
Tal45 · 16/09/2021 12:13

Can you check it on online banking? I really hope there turns out to be some innocent explanation x

Candleinthebreeze · 16/09/2021 12:13

£150 is not expensive jewellery, a ring and bracelet do that combined value is little more than costume jewellery, any woman he might be having an affair with would likely swiftly end the affair on receipt of jewellery of that value!

If trying to impress/seduce a woman he’s gonna need deeper pockets

friendlymummy · 16/09/2021 12:14

Ignore my comment. Just seen PPs had similar thoughts.

Biddie191 · 16/09/2021 12:14

If you've never had any suspicions before, I wouldn't get too worried yet. Check the receipt against the card number, but it really could be something simple.
Hope it all turns out to be a misunderstanding xx

sundaydayisnotmyfundayday · 16/09/2021 12:14

seems to me you have a conversation you need to have with your fella. Whether he is cheating or not, you clearly think he is and have some stuff to iron out between you.

If you leave it be and he gives you a Joni Mitchell CD for Xmas though please punch him in the face*

Wink

*lighthearted. Am not an advocate of DV

LukeEvansWife · 16/09/2021 12:15

@FortunesFave That’s my point, either the OP trusts him and accepts his answer or she doesn’t trust him, in which case, why snoop around for evidence?

Suspicions alone are a completely legit reason for splitting up. Actually so is snooping.

shesellsseacats · 16/09/2021 12:15

Do you have any devices at home that are logged into his Google account?

If you open Chrome and it's logged into his profile, you can then go to timeline.google.com/maps/timeline and unless he's turned location off, it will show the history of where he's been, so you can look at the night in question and see where he was.

(Or, at least, where his phone was).

If you have a phone / use Google, we're pretty much all being tracked all the time these days and it's often pretty easy to get the data (scary stuff!)

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LukeEvansWife · 16/09/2021 12:16

And if you are reduced to tracking him, is it really worth it?

rougemouse · 16/09/2021 12:16

Could it be for his PA? Any other women in his life he may be grateful to? It's around the value of a nice work gift I'd say

LakeShoreD · 16/09/2021 12:16

£150 isn’t what I’d call expensive jewellery tbh. I know it’s a lot of money for some people but it’s not outside of the realm of affordability for a car washer and it’s not too expensive to be a work gift if a few people contributed (I agree a ring would be a highly unusual choice though). Also do you have teens as if it’s Pandora or similar it could be one of their friends? I would start by checking the last 4 digits of the card. I’d also ask your friend that you gave the lift to if she’s ever bought anything from there as you’re thinking of making a purchase. Fingers crossed the card digits won’t match and your friend will say she got a new set from there recently. It’s easy to jump to worst case scenario but I really hope that there’s an innocent explanation. Good luck.

rougemouse · 16/09/2021 12:16

@friendlymummy

Might it be possible he was going out with friends for someone's birthday/work leaving do, and he bought the gift on behalf of everyone?
Ooh yes this
IntermittentParps · 16/09/2021 12:17

@Candleinthebreeze

£150 is not expensive jewellery, a ring and bracelet do that combined value is little more than costume jewellery, any woman he might be having an affair with would likely swiftly end the affair on receipt of jewellery of that value!

If trying to impress/seduce a woman he’s gonna need deeper pockets

We clearly move in different circles. I have no problem with 'costume jewellery' and think £150 is a not insignificant amount of money.
girlmom21 · 16/09/2021 12:17

@Candleinthebreeze

£150 is not expensive jewellery, a ring and bracelet do that combined value is little more than costume jewellery, any woman he might be having an affair with would likely swiftly end the affair on receipt of jewellery of that value!

If trying to impress/seduce a woman he’s gonna need deeper pockets

£150 is a lot of money for a lot of people. £150 on jewellery when your wife doesn't wear jewellery is £150 too much.
SunnySideDownBriefly · 16/09/2021 12:17

You need to ask your friend ASAP.

Ariela · 16/09/2021 12:18

Sounds to me as though he (or you) have given someone a lift and the receipt has got dropped in the back. If I buy anything when driving I tend to lob it in the passenger footwell / glove box, don't open the back doors.

abiabib123 · 16/09/2021 12:21

Hi OP, i just wanted to say I really do hope it is completely innocent, i'll be thinking of you throughout the day. x

SafeMove · 16/09/2021 12:21

What kind of woman would decide 'Actually this affair isn't for me' on the basis of £150 @Candleinthebreeze. What a weird way of looking at things!

OP - I would ask about the shop name like you suggested and gauge his reaction. If he looks shifty, check his phone. You will be told its a breach of privacy blah blah on here but if he is having sex with you and someone else outside your marriage, your own privacy is being breached and you deserve to know for sure.

Candleinthebreeze · 16/09/2021 12:23

@SafeMove

What kind of woman would decide 'Actually this affair isn't for me' on the basis of £150 *@Candleinthebreeze*. What a weird way of looking at things!

OP - I would ask about the shop name like you suggested and gauge his reaction. If he looks shifty, check his phone. You will be told its a breach of privacy blah blah on here but if he is having sex with you and someone else outside your marriage, your own privacy is being breached and you deserve to know for sure.

If I was trying to impress/seduce any of the women I know, £150 on two items of jewellery wouldn’t cut it.
Flowers500 · 16/09/2021 12:24

If it's £150 that's a bit different to your OP, it could belong to a carwasher, one of your kids, could be for a work present, could be anything like that. It sounds like it's Pandora? Do you have any daughters, that would be my first thought?

Original poster
Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 12:24

@shesellsseacats he used to have his iPad connected to his phone! Until… he went on holiday and I could see he was talking to a girl through i message . I confronted him
About this when he got back and he said it was his younger brother (single) using his phone, which at the time was believable because there was some sort of issue with the signal while he was abroad. I didn’t think nothing of it- especially because he was calling / texting me right through the holiday. Even felt guilty for doubting him! This is what I mean though he is very smart and I feel he would have an answer for everything. He even wanted me to ring his brother there and then and ask.

This was a holiday with his brothers/ friends a couple years ago.

OP posts:
Eddielzzard · 16/09/2021 12:26

Try not to jump to the worst conclusion straight off. Ask friend, check card numbers, leave slightly tucked out the way. Then review situation.

But also don't let on you're aware should the worst case be true. Never show your cards before you have to.

I really hope it just belongs to your friend Flowers

LindyLou2020 · 16/09/2021 12:26

[quote HollowTalk]@Bluntness100 not a horrible post at all.[/quote]
@HollowTalk
Totally agree. The only horrible post is from Bluntness100.

squee123 · 16/09/2021 12:26

Doesn't look great. But equally I'd he did go out with friends that night might he have given one a lift home and they then dropped it in the car, having bought the jewellery earlier that evening?

Wagsandclaws · 16/09/2021 12:27

I hope it's not what you suspect, if he's never given you cause to believe he has cheated before why now? Either way good luck OP - I genuinely hope it's an innocent explanation.

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