Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

[Forumqueen]

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

[Crikeyalmighty]

with regards to last 4 digits on a card if it doesn't match what you think is his card -one reason could be that if you use ApplePay or AndroidPay it decodes into a different card number on payment. If you find an old receipt for something he paid for using apple pay/android paythat same number will come up. other possibility is he has a card you don't know about-- it doesn't sound good sadly. I wouldn't rule anything out because cards don't match

[MyPatronusIsACat]

I agree @Forumqueen you need to double check the receipt has his debit card number on it - (well it should have the last 4 digits on anyway.)

And keep a copy of it. (photograph it.) In case he tries to destroy it.

Remember though, this item COULD be for you.

Also, I didn't think the post by @HollowTalk was offensive and judgy and snobbish at all... . Many people who do car valeting/cleaning are not very well paid, and struggle to get people to let them clean their cars..

Every time I go to the big shopping centre a few miles from my village, I get them coming up to me in the car park, asking me if I want my car washed...

And the woman who runs it was having a right go at 3 or 4 of the guys the other week, telling them they'd get no bloody pay this week if they didn't get a few more people in for car washing.

People really do love to make something out of nothing on here... Hollowtalk does not deserve the pile-on that they are getting on this thread.

[Gwlondon]

I am so sorry. I hope it is for you. But he went out with it.

[shangelawasrobbed]

Do you have any big occasions coming up? A big birthday or wedding anniversary? I know you said you're not generally into jewellery, but he might not have had any other present ideas. If there are any occasions coming up then I'd wait and see if you get given the jewellery.

[Ughmaybenot]

@MrsSkylerWhite

Why don’t you just ask him?

I’m always baffled by people who post this. Is it not completely obvious that if he was up to anything untoward, he would lie, and then use the warning to completely cover his tracks? And don’t start with the naive ‘I’d know if he was lying’…

[FortunesFave]

If you're unsure how to get more proof of him cheating, look for a hidden mobile phone or access his current one and read the messages.

If that's not possible, check all bank statements...

More extreme, follow him the next time he says he's seeing a friend after work. I would.

[ScatteredMama82]

When one of my colleagues left, she had been with us a very long time and we got a big collection of money together for her gift. We did buy her a necklace and earrings from an expensive jewelry designer we knew she liked. It could be something like that and he was the one who went to collect it and pay for it.

[sixcatsandcounting]

I would say "oh god I'm so sorry I've ruined my Christmas present, found this receipt when the car was cleaned" and see what his reaction is

[NotRainingToday]

I would take a photo of the receipt, then put it back where you found it.

[Forumqueen]

Yes I have given people
Lifts. The receipt was left in the back seat of the car behind the drivers seat by the cleaner so I suspect it was found somewhere at the back.



I have given a lift to a friend recently , I will ask if it’s hers as she does have quite expensive taste.

[MrsSkylerWhite]

Again, why all the drama and potential scenarios?

Why don’t you just ask him?

[Crabwoman]

Just a thought, could it be a leaving gift for somebody at work? We recently did a collection for a retirement and got quite a sizable sum which went towards a watch picked out by the team.

I used my credit card to pay for the purchase for payment protection.

[ufucoffee]

Waiting for you to post if it's his card or not. If it is, I'd say nothing for the moment and keep my cards close to my chest if his poker face is that good and he'll have a story ready. I'd start looking for other evidence.

[JSL52]

@Forumqueen

If I get confirmation that it was his card…I was think of telling him that I really want to buy some Jewellry from …..(name the store in question) and ask if he’s even been there before. That will probably scare him and make him paranoid but not enough to truly suspect I know anything.
And then if there is a reasonable explanation he will just say he’s been there recently and why(highly doubtful)

That will give him a chance to make up a story.
Just hand him the receipt and say 'this was in the car' and wait.

[NotRainingToday]

Not especially relevant, but how much did the items cost?

[lillypopdaisyduke]

I would have thought the friend you gave the lift to would have missed the receipt - It's really a mystery - hope you get to the bottom of it OP

[LukeEvansWife]

Just ask him, rather than trying to find out in secret. If his reply is not adequate, then you can make your decision then.

If you go down the route of snooping for information, then that says that the relationship is over anyway.

[FortunesFave]

@MrsSkylerWhite

Again, why all the drama and potential scenarios?

Why don’t you just ask him?

Because he'll make some shit up...and hide any other evidence and then OP won't know the truth, people who have affairs lie all the time...bare-faced. Brazen...they say they promise and swear....and they deny, deny, deny.

[FortunesFave]

@LukeEvansWife

Just ask him, rather than trying to find out in secret. If his reply is not adequate, then you can make your decision then.

If you go down the route of snooping for information, then that says that the relationship is over anyway.

What's adequate? Him swearing he hasn't been having an affair?

FFS that's what people who have affairs DO!

[summersolstice43]

Would he be buying a present for someone at work who is leaving or birthday as a joint gift? Sometimes where I work someone is nominated to pop into the shops on their way home to pick up a gift for a birthday or leaving and we all contribute. Also could have fallen out of someones bag / pocket who you've given a lift to.

[FortunesFave]

@ufucoffee

Waiting for you to post if it's his card or not. If it is, I'd say nothing for the moment and keep my cards close to my chest if his poker face is that good and he'll have a story ready. I'd start looking for other evidence.

She already said it was.

[givinglessfucksdaily]

@HollowTalk judgemental or what ?
No need for that at all

[TeaStory]

@FortunesFave “she already said it was.”

No, she hasn’t.

[ufucoffee]

@FortunesFave no she hasn't.

[SomeoneInTheLaaaaaounge]

OP - I’m sorry to say this but DONT GIVE AMYTHUNG AWAY. Do not ask him, or your friend. Make preparations, but do it just in case. Do you work? Do you have your own money? Just make some modest preparations at least know where all your finances are. But don’t give anything away, just in case it’s the worst. If it’s innocent -fantastic! But if it isn’t you won’t be vulnerable.