Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

[Forumqueen]

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

[pinkyredrose]

Has he previously given you reason not to trust him?

[ethelredonagoodday]

Oh blimey OP. Doesn't sounds great. Is he normally fairly open with you?

[Houseofvelour]

That doesn't sound great 😬 check his card and if the numbers match, try and get to his phone.

[satci]

@HollowTalk What a snobby post. I know a man near me who cleans cars. He works hard and is on far more per day that I am. I wear fairly expensive jewellery.

[Ughmaybenot]

Ah. I’m sorry but this isn’t looking too sharp OP. My first priority would be checking his card(s) against the receipt, like you already plan to do, and then I would be getting my hands on his phone somehow.
The fact you know he wouldn’t usually buy jewellery for friends/relatives without asking your opinion is also relevant imo.

[Bluesheep8]

I doubt someone cleaning cars for a living can afford expensive jewellery and just happens to have the receipt with them

Yep, horrible.

[MeanMrMustardSeed]

There is no way I’d show him that receipt. The bottom line is that it’s made you question whether he’s cheating and you need to know. If he’s been careless with this, the last thing you need is him to smarten up his act, and make sure you can’t find our the truth.

[Forumqueen]

No- never cheated before (that I know of) and is actually a great husband and father. To be honest the thought has never really crossed my mind in the 17 years we have been together . We are very happy. He’s attentive and loving.
It’s just very odd finding a receipt like this. I know him very well, he’s very intelligent. Perhaps he won’t have a story ready…as he probably would never think he’d get caught. I’ll decide wether to confront him after I see the evidence of the card details!

[MrsSkylerWhite]

Why don’t you just ask him?

[Forumqueen]

The receipt didn’t even look like a receipt at first it’s in a very posh envelope. With a receipt enclosed. Looked like a wedding invitation!

[Theimpossiblegirl]

It doesn't look great.
I'm sorry, op.

From a practical perspective you might want to get some records of finances etc. just in case this is it. It's amazing how quickly a loving, reasonable man can turn into a complete self serving arse hole, especially with money, in a split.
Use your anger to motivate you.
The old adage of getting your ducks in a row is your motto now.

I do hope I'm wrong though.

[RogueV]

Hope you get to the bottom of it op, but it doesn’t sound good

[Bluesheep8]

Whereabouts in the car was it?
Have either of you given anyone a lift?

[thestarvingcaterpillar]

Could you call the jewellers under the pretence that your husband maybe lost something when he was there? Descrbe him and see if anybody remembers him?

[BoredZelda]

I doubt someone cleaning cars for a living can afford expensive jewellery and just happens to have the receipt with them

I don’t think you can make such a sweeping statement based solely on what someone does for a living.

[Forumqueen]

If I get confirmation that it was his card…I was think of telling him that I really want to buy some Jewellry from …..(name the store in question) and ask if he’s even been there before. That will probably scare him and make him paranoid but not enough to truly suspect I know anything.
And then if there is a reasonable explanation he will just say he’s been there recently and why(highly doubtful)

[HollowTalk]

What about leaving it in the car and seeing if he takes it next time he uses it?

[Bluesheep8]

The last 4 digits of the card number are there thanks for those who suggested it- he’s at work today I will check his card when he is back.

No need to call the jewellers and describe him....

[FortunesFave]

@Forumqueen

If I get confirmation that it was his card…I was think of telling him that I really want to buy some Jewellry from …..(name the store in question) and ask if he’s even been there before. That will probably scare him and make him paranoid but not enough to truly suspect I know anything.
And then if there is a reasonable explanation he will just say he’s been there recently and why(highly doubtful)

I wouldn't do that. He'll know you know then. You have two choices, one...do more digging and get solid evidence so he can't lie to your face.

Two, just tell him you know he's having an affair and your marriage is over.

[unsure111]

L

[ScatteredMama82]

Is there a receipt in the house for anything else he's bought by card recently? That should also have the last 4 digits on and you can check if they match?

[TakeYourFinalPosition]

@VaricoseVera Did you use contactless/Apple Pay? Apple Pay creates a virtual card - so the card numbers don't match your physical one. That could be the reason for the difference?

[girlmom21]

@thestarvingcaterpillar

Could you call the jewellers under the pretence that your husband maybe lost something when he was there? Descrbe him and see if anybody remembers him?

This is a bonkers suggestion. If you were phoning because he'd lost something you'd just tell them what he'd lost...

[NotRainingToday]

If it's a credit card, the card number will be on any statement (you don't need to see the actual card)

[JSL52]

[quote VaricoseVera]@HollowTalk yeah it was a shitty, judgmental post.

OP I'd also wait and check the 4 digits on the card. However, I paid for a meal a few weeks ago and for some reason that I've not been able to figure out, the 4 digits on the receipt are not the same 4 digits that are on my card, even though the money has been debited from my account 🤷🏼‍♀️[/quote]
If you pay with Apple Pay the number is different. Explained to me when I took something back to a shop.