Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

[Forumqueen]

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

[MumDad1958]

Please just stay calm & speak to your husband when he comes home. It may be a surprise for you.

[SteppedOnBloodyLego]

Also, I didn't think the post by @HollowTalk was offensive and judgy and snobbish at all... confused . Many people who do car valeting/cleaning are not very well paid, and struggle to get people to let them clean their cars..

Same here; it wasn’t offensive, it was very realistic post. Many of these people are illegal immigrants on below the NMW, living in awful conditions, or, worse, trafficked.

I guess PPs live very sheltered life and never heard of modern slavery etc.

[Forumqueen]

I have a toddler that’s it! - I asked the car washer about the receipt. It was not his .And it’s £150 for ring £150 for bracelet. It might not be a lot of money to some, but he just wouldn’t spend money like that without telling me.

[ReginaaPhalange]

@friendlymummy

Might it be possible he was going out with friends for someone's birthday/work leaving do, and he bought the gift on behalf of everyone?

This is what I think personally.... if he's not a permanent member of staff, he may be going out his way to go above and beyond and may have said he would go pick up the gift.

Check the card details though! Ive done it before where Ive phoned up a local Pandora shop and said "I can't get to you today due to meetings at work, but if I pay over the phone now, can my colleague (name) come and collect on my behalf?" This was allowed then so it might be the case here.

[MissVanji]

I'm really sorry OP, I have been in a similar situation and remember the feeling when finding the jewellery and immediately thinking inwas going to throw up the whole day like a rock was on my chest. Please keep us updated and try find all thr information you can so you are ready for any stories he may try and spin you.

[Itonlymakesyoustronger]

seems odd, but if the bank details match the receipt what happens then?

[Flowers500]

@Forumqueen

I have a toddler that’s it! - I asked the car washer about the receipt. It was not his .And it’s £150 for ring £150 for bracelet. It might not be a lot of money to some, but he just wouldn’t spend money like that without telling me.

ahhhhhh ok sorry I thought it was 150 for both, which put this in the sort of pandora, affordable range--this is more in the luxury end then, and for daughter is not an option.

Ok then I would be more suspicious. Have you found pictures of the jewellery online yet? might give a clue?

[sadie9]

It'll be pretty simple if it's one of his cards then it was him.
Have you any receipts he used for groceries etc lying around or any of his cards saved onto your computer that automatically come up when you go to an online check out?

[Boombadoom]

I hope you get to the bottom of it OP.

It feels very careless of him to leave an important thing like that in the car though if he’s that smart.

[EvilPea]

If you have amazon, eBay etc he may have his credit card linked to that where you can see the last 4 digits.

[sloutside]

I think I'd have to do some more digging first.
There could be an innocent explanation for it of course.

[oakleaffy]

@Forumqueen
Please, please trust your gut instinct.
It is never wrong in my experience.

Sorry this has happened.

[SpeakingFranglais]

Is There is a possibility that it was a leaving present for someone at work and he was tasked with picking up the item and paying for it and the whip round went into his account. I’ve done this very recently although it was for a John Lewis voucher! And then he went to the work leaving do after?

[Plumtree391]

I am sure there is a harmless explanation. However all you have to do i confront him with it, quite out of the blue, and then watch how he reacts.

[DoubleEx]

[quote Forumqueen]@shesellsseacats he used to have his iPad connected to his phone! Until… he went on holiday and I could see he was talking to a girl through i message . I confronted him
About this when he got back and he said it was his younger brother (single) using his phone, which at the time was believable because there was some sort of issue with the signal while he was abroad. I didn’t think nothing of it- especially because he was calling / texting me right through the holiday. Even felt guilty for doubting him! This is what I mean though he is very smart and I feel he would have an answer for everything. He even wanted me to ring his brother there and then and ask.

This was a holiday with his brothers/ friends a couple years ago.[/quote]
Hmmm.

I would call that 'form'.

Not looking good OP, sorry.

[imonlyhooman]

I'd play it cool and leave the receipt in the car and see how he reacts.

[cuppycakey]

With the update about messaging a girl, I would be really suspicious.

Obviously if it's his card number then you know it was him. Do you really want to know who it was for? Or would you prefer to quietly get your ducks in a row? When I found out XH was cheating I didn't let on, but spent time organising a new place for myself, squirrelling away money etc. Then I told him I didn't love him any more and was leaving.

His ego was so bruised and I never let on that I knew all about her. He moved her in within a few weeks of me leaving!!

[Xiaoxiong]

I think it is just as likely to be your friend with expensive tastes to whom you gave the lift, actually - especially if it was in the back seat. Hope you get to the bottom of it! Horrible feeling

[HeartvsBrain]

@Candleinthebreeze

£150 is not expensive jewellery, a ring and bracelet do that combined value is little more than costume jewellery, any woman he might be having an affair with would likely swiftly end the affair on receipt of jewellery of that value!

If trying to impress/seduce a woman he’s gonna need deeper pockets

Candleinthebreeze - Your (pay) slip is showing! People in your circle might not think that £150 is a lot of money, you are right that you couldn't even buy a quality diamond for that, but people in my neck of the woods would think that £150 was a lot of money to spend on jewellery, apart from MAYBE an engagement ring.

However, no matter what the cost/value/affordability of anything might be, the important thing here is the reason for the the purchase, and particularly who it was bought for. But please try to think if your snobbishness is showing, especially if it might lead to someone feeling belittled. Hopefully OP isn't upset by your post, but I certainly feel a bit tainted by it. I am not sure how your post was supposed to add to the OP's predicament?

[2catsandhappy]

Any change of habits in the last 3 months?
New clothes. New charges on credit card. Gym membership. Phone being put down when you walk in the room. Walking away to make phone calls. Over explaining why.
I assumed an innocent explanation for changes until it was obvious it was not innocent.
I hope it is all explainable and not even his receipt.

[Bluesheep8]

I guess PPs live very sheltered life and never heard of modern slavery etc.

No sheltered life here, I just questioned a sweeping judgemental statement

[CleopatrasBeautifulNose]

Dont tell him you are considering going to the shop and has he ever been there! That's totally transparent, you might as well just show him the receipt. Personally if he is super smart, good at thinking on his feet and has a great poker face I would check facts (card number, expensive tastes friend etc) and then consider next move. Do nothing in haste, always sleep on it. The jury is still out.

[MotherofTerriers]

OP, I would take care to avoid letting him know you are suspicious, he will just be much more careful.
Wait and watch, his phone may show where he has been, bank statements what he has been spending.
You can take further steps like leaving a phone in his car so you can see where he goes.
I know people will say that if you don't trust him its over, but I can understand wanting to know for sure, particularly as he is very unlikely to admit it unless you have cast iron evidence

[UniversalAunt]

So the plot thickens.

You have called him out on something recently & his response was quick, including the suggestion/ dare that you ring his brother. You have some doubt.

You said that he has given you no cause for concern before.

Ideally, the receipt in the car is a set of circumstantial errors, e.g. someone else’s receipt etc. But then wouldn’t they keep receipt for insurance records etc?

However, it could be that he just got careless.

Receipt in a nifty gift envelope is hardly Argos. Have you checked out the jewellers’s website? Is the shop at a location close to home or work? Take a look at rings & bracelets close to the spend, would you choose any of them for yourself? Would your husband choose them as his taste or as gift for someone close? If it all looks horrid by yours or his taste, it’s less likely to be his spending.

[minatrina]

OP; I'm sorry but the iPad story is ringing huge alarm bells to me. I'd have been very suspicious

Unrelated but I can't help myself - I just want to add that £150 could get you some very lovely second hand/antique fine jewellery. I'd take that over some branded tat any day, even the more expensive branded stuff! But then I am somewhat snobby about jewellery