Dating thread 213 - falling into Autumn leaves

[BelladiMamma]

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MrTattoo sounds lovely, apart from the 3 eyes......

Update. . Just got back home... sneaking back in my empty house like a naughty teenager...
Had a wonderful time ... sad that he will be hundreds of miles away back home by the weekend but happy that the last few weeks have happened

@thisisworsethananticpated I didn't see his lack of contact as a rejection but as a sign that he is not good at communicating. A simple message of "Hey I am feeling overwhelmed atm, will message you in a few days" would be sufficient to me. I don't want someone who shuts themselves away and optout when there are hard times, had enough of that xx

@dropdeadfred2 😍

@isitreallyme177 there seems to be a dymamic there which makes u feel like this. Some imbalance perhaps? Or I might be talking nonsense!

Summerdress
You are right and you have far better boundaries than me

So I am pissed off !

My overseas obsession , we’ve been sexting on and off for two months now
I asked him what he wanted to see ,he replied and I obliged duly
On the one hand it’s fun
I’m exercising again , taking care of myself and feeling sexual
I’m doing my hair , wearing make up and nice underwear
This is all good 👍

I sent said photos at lunchtime yesterday , and if I say so myself they were hot

He hasn’t replied , like fuck off

How busy is he?
I know he is single dad and runs a business but seriously ?

I’m trying to not be annoyed
And failing

@Summerdress I'm just a worrier, even when meeting friends I worry that they won't turn up. I don't feel good enough in general (not just with him) but I'm working on that. He has not once done or said anything to make me feel like this, he has always turned up and is always lovely.

@isitreallyme177 I understand, noone likes to be rejected! But you have much to bring to the table and in this case to offer this man, focus on your strengths and the 'date' will go fine x

@VanGoghsDog

MrTattoo sounds lovely, apart from the 3 eyes......

Thanks ... I think 🤔

The fact he doesn't drive ... maybe isn't an amber flag it's a potential spanner in the works though!

To drive to see each other would be 45 minutes max. To rely on public transport ... a complete PITA. He's very fit and cycles everywhere so maybe not such a problem as he could take the 3 different branch lines that separate us and then cycle the last bit, if he really wanted to.

My DS does it all the time. But then again my DS has lots of free time and zero responsibilities except for his three white mice.

That, along with our respective living arrangements could mean that we get very little time together. Let's see how it goes though, he's really lovely and is much more the sort of person I'd like to be spending time with these days

@Thisisworsethananticpated

So I am pissed off !

My overseas obsession , we’ve been sexting on and off for two months now
I asked him what he wanted to see ,he replied and I obliged duly
On the one hand it’s fun
I’m exercising again , taking care of myself and feeling sexual
I’m doing my hair , wearing make up and nice underwear
This is all good 👍

I sent said photos at lunchtime yesterday , and if I say so myself they were hot

He hasn’t replied , like fuck off

How busy is he?
I know he is single dad and runs a business but seriously ?

I’m trying to not be annoyed
And failing

That would really annoy me too. Sexting only works for me on a very immediate basis and both parties involved and present. No bloody late replies or hanging around waiting for the next compliment / request etc

Just tell him what you want out of it and see how he responds.

Just one thing - do you want him to have all these photos after / if you cool off?I've seen that WhatsApp has a new function where you can send the photos to view once. Obviously people can screenshot and keep them but it just makes the whole thing more of a mission.

[quote Earlgrey19]@BelladiMamma wow, sounds like a really nice date, and promising. Love that ‘not driving’ is an amber flag [/quote]
I know I'm really looking for all the reasons not to, aren't I? 😁

@Dropdeadfred2

Update. . Just got back home... sneaking back in my empty house like a naughty teenager... Had a wonderful time ... sad that he will be hundreds of miles away back home by the weekend but happy that the last few weeks have happened

Just found your update amongst all the interesting messages we got overnight 🙊

Bittersweet evening then ... but lovely to have had such a nice time together ♥️

@Earlgrey19 I hear you re wanting to pin down dates or move on. I’ve been finding this frustrating post Covid as I now have very specific days in London and it’s as though this is making me feel more pressured to get plans made around those dates.