cherp you have to talk to him. First you have to work out how you feel about his suggestion. Honestly feel, not 'what should I want' or 'what's respectable or acceptable' or 'what would the thread think' but what you genuinely want/don't want. You may not be sure. Maybe you won't know until hours into the date. Whatever is in your head, you should tell him. "I'd love to spend more time with you, but I'm not comfortable moving this fast" or "let's go for it, it would be a great opportunity to get to know each other better, but I need to know we can sleep separately if that's how I'm most comfortable." Or whatever. But not in writing, on the phone/in a video call. If he's a good guy, you'll have an open chat and he'll totally get where you're coming from. If he's not, he won't. And then you'll know.
I think we're all guilty of thinking and pondering and discussing and debating with everyone but the person involved. Meanwhile, we want great comms from them. We want to know what they're thinking, but often we don't tell them what we're thinking. Can't remember which rule it is, but the one about if you are worried about bringing something up because of their reaction then they're not right for you. If I had been braver in the past and brought stuff up, when my gut told me something was wrong, I would have saved myself some drawn-out heartache. It's like the whole waiting around for them to suggest a date. If you want to go on a date, suggest a date. If they want to meet you they'll say yes, if they don't they won't. What have you lost?
That turned into a completely different rant! But it's what I think every time someone wonders when the faceless texting iron will suggest a date. Why are you waiting around and giving them all the power? Ask them! They're faceless. They don't even know you. If they say no, they're saying no to some words and pictures, not a real life flesh and blood person. So it doesn't count as rejection, just establishing whether you're wasting your time or not.
And that's my Thought For The Day.