Things you hate about Online Dating....

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Just for a laugh, I thought I'd start a thread about the bad and the ugly of OLD...

Here's mine:

1. When men have a picture of a then holding a child on their profile, and then say 'oh, by the way, it's not mine, I promise.' Why include it if it's someone else's?

1. When men say 'if you want to know anything, just ask.' I'm sorry, ask what? You haven't given me anything to ask about!

1. When men just write their social media details on their profile with the words 'add me' and nothing else. No thank you. I'm not a love island contestant.

Looking forward to hearing everyone else's

@DrSbaitso

(So you like your women to have hair then. That's a good start.)

Possibly. Did he say where?

@DrSbaitso no, he didn't, worse luck! 😂😂🤣

Send him a picture of yourself in a female Bigfoot costume.

He might find it funny and you might hit it off.

@DrSbaitso

Send him a picture of yourself in a female Bigfoot costume.

He might find it funny and you might hit it off.

@DrSbaitso 🙂😂😂

'Do you love being in being in your feminine?' (No idea what this means)

Me neither but we need to appropriate a meaning for it 😂

I signed up to one of the so called ‘better’ ones on Saturday , I admit I’d had a glass or two. . Sorry, it’s not for me. I’m sure there are some perfectly nice people on there but I cannot imagine striking up any sort of chat , much less anything else. Looks like I’m going to have to get used to being alone.....

@stopblowingyournose

'Do you love being in being in your feminine?' (No idea what this means)

Me neither but we need to appropriate a meaning for it 😂

@stopblowingyournose you're on! 😂🤣🤣

@Tempnamelady

I signed up to one of the so called ‘better’ ones on Saturday , I admit I’d had a glass or two. . Sorry, it’s not for me. I’m sure there are some perfectly nice people on there but I cannot imagine striking up any sort of chat , much less anything else. Looks like I’m going to have to get used to being alone.....

@Tempnamelady don't think like that. You just have to find the app to suit you.

I find that The smaller more 'intimate' apps are much better 🙂

• Photo of them looking like they are trying to solve an equation
• tongue stuck out
• in full motorcycle attire complete with helmet
• oh look I have found myself in a duvet cover snap
• dirty mirror selfie
• double chin or forehead as profile pic
• messaging demanding a date

@Nahnahnah

- Photo of them looking like they are trying to solve an equation

• tongue stuck out
• in full motorcycle attire complete with helmet
• oh look I have found myself in a duvet cover snap
• dirty mirror selfie
• double chin or forehead as profile pic
• messaging demanding a date

@Nahnahnah fully agree with all the things on your list 👍🏻

I had someone demanding a date after a day of talking once. Needless to say I was put straight off 🙄

Non vanilla please? Yes some guys just tried to match with me with that statement. I mean I'm lost for words? What does that mean? Am I am assuming he only wants to meet women who conform with his idea of what sex should be? Is it me?

@FooFooFloofyFoof - Since when is a size 12/14 fat? What a twat!

I don't like it when they try and make insights into my personality after just looking at my profile. I had a message along the lines of "You look like you've got hidden depths and are alluring". I suppose I mustn't grumble at a compliment though.

"I'm 50 but I don't look or act it". I'm sure you don't act it but as for looking 50, I hate to break it to you buddy but ya do.

[quote ilurvesweets]@FooFooFloofyFoof - Since when is a size 12/14 fat? What a twat![/quote]
Charming eh?!

Having a short conversation telling you absolutely nothing about themselves and demand your number and when you say "I don't give my number out in a first conversation" they say "now you've replied it counts as the second one." So the first conversation is simply about getting your number, not finding out if you actually like each other?

@FooFooFloofyFoof

Having a short conversation telling you absolutely nothing about themselves and demand your number and when you say "I don't give my number out in a first conversation" they say "now you've replied it counts as the second one." So the first conversation is simply about getting your number, not finding out if you actually like each other?

To be honest I hate all the back and forth via message. If someone isn't up for meeting or giving me their number I move on. I've wasted too much time aimlessly texting men back and forth over the years so I'm more hard lined when it comes to that now. I don't think you can get any real idea on what someone is like until you meet them or at the very least talk to one another on the phone.

Every one is different though when it comes to this which is why what someone finds irritating or disrespectful the next person likes.

@welliesarefuntowear

Non vanilla please? Yes some guys just tried to match with me with that statement. I mean I'm lost for words? What does that mean? Am I am assuming he only wants to meet women who conform with his idea of what sex should be? Is it me?

There are websites and real life clubs and scenes dedicated to people looking for that. Why don't they look there?

I wonder if it's because such scenes are very very hot on consent and mutual pleasure and anyone who doesn't like that won't last long...

The biggest issue for me was women who just seemed to want on line penpals, chatting is okay, bit I actually want to meet them, if someone couldn’t commit to a meet within say 10 days, I used to suspect they were married and just looking for a bit of light hearted fun in an evening.

And blank bios and terrible terrible pictures,

@DrSbaitso Thanks for info. It's just not something I know anything about and my settings are on age group 45 to 55. I am expecting divorced and jaded and happy to meet up for a coffee and see where it goes. I feel so naive and I don't think I'm a prude at all.

Ew ew ewww! Just stumbled across a profile, the style of which might have been mentioned (I haven't RTFT since my last post 🤭):

Of the 10 pictures on his profile, 1 is of his doggo (cute n'all, but still), 4 are of him and a cute 20-something woman (his daughter?), one is JUST his [daughter] perkily popping up out of the roof of a sports car.

Like, what am I meant to think? Is he whoring out his daughter? Or is he subtlely telling me I've got cute, young competition?

The mind boggles...

When women claim :

"Oh my friend forced me to join this site and wrote my profile for me".

@ErrmWTAF - bizarre how people have photos of their kids on dating sites. Some men have pics of them and, I assume, their grown up daughters.

Negative profiles really annoy me. We've all had bad dating experiences, no need to complain on the profile. I read one unbelievably negative profile about how women on the site were crazy and how crazy women had contacted him to tell him how negative he was. Why is he still on there?

There was a mans profile discussed on here a few years ago, wish I could find it but it was just awful! So passive aggressive with a list along the lines of you won't be this and you won't do that and you will do this and my kids will be my priority blah blah!

Ha! I suspect we're happier assuming they're grown-up daughters, loadsacake . >cringe<

I got fiesty with a previous one. I'm pretty sure he'd captioned the pics saying that was his daughter, so, no confusion there at least, but I PMed him enquiring concernedly, didn't his daughter have her own dating profile, that she needs to use his? He just snarled something back at me. A real charmer. 😁

@TobyEsterhase

When women claim :

"Oh my friend forced me to join this site and wrote my profile for me".

Indeed - I had a first meet this weekend with someone who bore almost no resemblance to her written profile. Halfway through the walk she admitted her friend wrote it and she really wasn't that person.... A shame, as her photo's were spot on. 😍