Things you hate about Online Dating....

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

Just for a laugh, I thought I'd start a thread about the bad and the ugly of OLD...

Here's mine:

1. When men have a picture of a then holding a child on their profile, and then say 'oh, by the way, it's not mine, I promise.' Why include it if it's someone else's?

1. When men say 'if you want to know anything, just ask.' I'm sorry, ask what? You haven't given me anything to ask about!

1. When men just write their social media details on their profile with the words 'add me' and nothing else. No thank you. I'm not a love island contestant.

Looking forward to hearing everyone else's

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I think he meant like any kind of trauma.

[quote stopblowingyournose]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I think he meant like any kind of trauma. [/quote]
@stopblowingyournose why even say that on a dating profile? It would just show them up to be an uncaring twat 😒

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards oh yeh I know - but I saw that profile over several years and it was there every time.

No bunny boilers I saw loads of times too

[quote stopblowingyournose]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards oh yeh I know - but I saw that profile over several years and it was there every time.

No bunny boilers I saw loads of times too[/quote]
@stopblowingyournose good grief. They really outdo themselves these days 🙄

I found the look at me travel
Pics really off putting too

Own hair and teeth. Do they really think my bar is that low?

@Ozberry

Own hair and teeth. Do they really think my bar is that low?

@Ozberry 😂😂🤣

@stopblowingyournose

I found the look at me travel Pics really off putting too

@stopblowingyournose completely With you on that one 👍🏻

@RiojaRose

When I was on OLD sites I used to see a lot of “You will not be bigger than a size 12. I look after myself and I expect my partner to do the same.” These men would message me, despite my photos showing quite clearly that I was bigger than a size 12. What’s that about?

I once had a date with someone who said he preferred women who "look after themselves" (I'm a size 12/14 at 5'7" and at the time did at least 4 hour long intense gym classes a week so very fit) and when I walked towards him he grimaced, clutched his face and said "I'm sorry I said I don't like fat women." I just walked off. He was at least 3 inches shorter than his profile said too!

Men who don't even bother with a profile (incl the "just ask" contingent) - to me that screams "I'm a sociopath who will make up whatever I think you want to hear". Or, at very least, a total lazy asshole who can't be bothered.

Men who get all shitty if I PM first, on the grounds that the only women who do are whores or bots or whore-bots.

YY to the laundry list of things they don't like, or "nobody wants to date a guy like me" whiners.

Red sunburnt face like Phil Mitchell with a beer in hand.

What offended me the most was 'not interested in pot noodle families' ie add a man and complete. Really irritated me.

What I don't like generally is the sweet shop mentality, so many blah looking men but so many women looking so essentially they always think they can do better. Definitely put me off!

@Eesha

What offended me the most was 'not interested in pot noodle families' ie add a man and complete. Really irritated me.

What I don't like generally is the sweet shop mentality, so many blah looking men but so many women looking so essentially they always think they can do better. Definitely put me off!

Pot noodle family???

The most un nerving old experiences for me were chatting you men in the midst of life crisis - pregnant ex was common, another man had gone through a relationship breakdown in the last couple of months following a still birth. Dreadful events but what possesses them to start pitching up on tinder straight away??

Chatted to a guy this week who had apparently just come out of a long term relationship. He wouldn't stop going on about how lonely he was.

Why do they come back in straight away, like a bit of OLD will magically solve all their issues?

Go on Meetup and find a hobby, will you? 😒

@stopblowingyournose it's a distasteful comment insinuating women with children desperately want a man to complete their existing family, like a pot noodle when you add water...

@ErrmWTAF I hate the 'just Askers' too. I mean, what do they want us to ask them? They don't exactly bother giving us something to get the conversation going! 🙄

@stopblowingyournose

The most un nerving old experiences for me were chatting you men in the midst of life crisis - pregnant ex was common, another man had gone through a relationship breakdown in the last couple of months following a still birth. Dreadful events but what possesses them to start pitching up on tinder straight away??

Because men can't be alone. And for many of them, their only real confidante is a woman. It looks awful to us, and in many cases it is, but many of them also just don't have the network of emotional support that women do, and they get more comfort from women than men anyway.

[quote Eesha]@stopblowingyournose it's a distasteful comment insinuating women with children desperately want a man to complete their existing family, like a pot noodle when you add water...[/quote]
I'm confused as to who says it? Is it them men who say it?

I challenged a guy with a pregnant ex once with 'wtf are you doing trying to date??' He was quite candid he said 'I don't really know, my mates told me I had to'

@stopblowingyournose men say they don't want a pot noodle family ie they don't want women with children (thinking we are trying to trap them)

“I’m new here be gentle with me” annoys the hell out of me as does “my kids are my world and no-one else will come close!”
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Also “just looking” and the pics where they’re taking a swig from a pint so you can’t see their actual face.

Why bother…?

There’s also a guy who copied my bio!! I’ve updated mine but he’s used some of my phrases and even liked me 🙄 weird.

Seriously though, where are all the normal guys?? 😉

@stopblowingyournose

The most un nerving old experiences for me were chatting you men in the midst of life crisis - pregnant ex was common, another man had gone through a relationship breakdown in the last couple of months following a still birth. Dreadful events but what possesses them to start pitching up on tinder straight away??

For many men, talking honestly to male friends ends in an embarrassed silence or attempts to shut down the conversation. So they look for a woman who hopefully will listen and might understand. Not appropriate on Tinder obviously. Attempting to put their life back together with a partner (rather than fix themselves first) or simply a cry for help perhaps.

Oh my god! Am just on Bumble and have just come across one of the most pretentious profiles I've ever read. here's my favourite bits:

'Looking for someone who looks at me and thinks 'this guys a 10/10. ' He is very average looking).

Do you love taking care of yourself and go to the gym regularly?' (Translation: 'is your ego the size of mine?')

'Do you love being in being in your feminine?' (No idea what this means)

'I love blonde hair, brown hair, black hair, any colour.' (So you like your women to have hair then. That's a good start.)

Good grief. Some of these men just make me 🙄

(So you like your women to have hair then. That's a good start.)

Possibly. Did he say where?