Dating thread 212 - more milk tray, less flakes

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Hope you feel better soon @Misty9

Oh dear to all the ill people

Sending you a hand hold too @Misty9 ❤

@Hehx3 Not a good chat up line is it 😂 ‘Are you on detox?’. I know what you mean. Haven’t tried POF, though.

I’m another one on here learning. So, how often do you message when an OLD chat gets going? Every day or less? (I know it’s good not to prolong this phase).

Thanks all. I don't really know what to do, if anything. I felt very poorly on Thursday evening and almost called 111, but then turned a corner yesterday evening finally but worse today. I can't breathe without coughing and my chest feels tight and heavy and sort of warm. Strange. Have been coughing up green stuff though (sorry) so assumed chest infection.

Tinder is distracting me at any rate

@Earlgrey19 He was a real charmer! 🤪 I don't like too much texting but I am also very stubborn: I told myself Im not asking men to meet and now Im pinning for them to do it! How clever! Isn't it?
Well especially one I'm keen on but he seems to be undecided 😭 silly as now all the rest seems meh! What is your strategy💂‍♀️?

Mr Slow Texter replied this eve. He would like to meet again, but is out of town visiting family at the moment. He asked how I'm fixed for dates so I've sent him a few.

He's not exactly bowling me over with his enthusiasm, but his communication via text has been like this from the start.

I'm going to leave the ball in his court now and see how it plays out.

@Isitreallyme177 so happy to hear about your non coffee date have fun! ❤️

Get well soon @Misty9 ❤️

@Misty9

Thanks all. I don't really know what to do, if anything. I felt very poorly on Thursday evening and almost called 111, but then turned a corner yesterday evening finally but worse today. I can't breathe without coughing and my chest feels tight and heavy and sort of warm. Strange. Have been coughing up green stuff though (sorry) so assumed chest infection.

Tinder is distracting me at any rate

Call the GP in the morning and explain you're experiencing breathlessness etc and think it's getting worse. I now call them and self diagnose I've had pneumonia so often and they are great. But tell them you need a call back straightaway that day and ask for antibiotics. Do you have a peak flow monitor at home? Or one of those oxygen meters? Always helpful to monitor if you can x

Hope you feel better soon @Misty16 and that your daughter is ok, @BelladiMamma. I know how horrible it is to have to sit it out waiting to see how bad it gets with kids’ respiratory infections (though mine were little, so presents differently, I guess). Fingers crossed she is turning a corner xx

@Misty9, sorry, not 16!

@Misty9

Thanks all. I don't really know what to do, if anything. I felt very poorly on Thursday evening and almost called 111, but then turned a corner yesterday evening finally but worse today. I can't breathe without coughing and my chest feels tight and heavy and sort of warm. Strange. Have been coughing up green stuff though (sorry) so assumed chest infection.

Tinder is distracting me at any rate

You can call 111 just to get advice and put your mind at rest.

It's really worth having an oximeter with Covid around.

So, MrAdultFun - I replied saying "oh no, I only like childish fun, seems like we're not compatible" and he unmatched me. Spoilsport.

MrGP, "naughty girl" - I said "a 'true gent' indeed" (as that's what his profile said) and he replied "we could have some fun tonight, I'm a sexy guy". Reader, I can confirm he is not "sexy" judging by his photos! Anyway, he's persistent I'll give him that.

@VanGoghsDog

So, MrAdultFun - I replied saying "oh no, I only like childish fun, seems like we're not compatible" and he unmatched me. Spoilsport.

MrGP, "naughty girl" - I said "a 'true gent' indeed" (as that's what his profile said) and he replied "we could have some fun tonight, I'm a sexy guy". Reader, I can confirm he is not "sexy" judging by his photos! Anyway, he's persistent I'll give him that.

OMG 😳

However much I complain I have got off lightly!

Just enabled my Tinder 'Discovery' section for something to do, and found Mr Fit on there, who I encountered on Bumble earlier this year.

For all those who like magic on here, he's a talented magician:

Here's a list of his best tricks:

Trick 1.suggest a date and then deny that you've suggested one. Just to make the person you're talking to think they've gone completely nuts. Abracadabra! 🪄

1. Tell the person you're talking to that you've had a 'naughty dream' about them the previous evening, then unmatch them when they have the audacity to ask you about it. Wow! How amazing is that? 🪄

1. Accuse the woman of being too 'full on' when you've been making jokes about marriage. Ala Kazam! 🪄

Needless to say. I didn't swipe right 🤣😂

Well, I've just got off WhatsApp with Mr Gambit. We've both thought about it and we've come to a decision that things aren't going to pan out romantically for us so we've decided to be friends.

Honestly, I'm feeling fine about it. feels like I'm not waiting in limbo for him to suggest a date and I can begin to think about my next moves clearly, and can move on dating wise when I feel able to.

I'm going to still keep in contact with him, as it took a lot for us to get back in contact, and he hasn't seriously hurt me. I wouldn't want to just cut him off.

And hey, at least I can still get great book recommendations going forward! ❤️😊

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Well, I've just got off WhatsApp with Mr Gambit. We've both thought about it and we've come to a decision that things aren't going to pan out romantically for us so we've decided to be friends.

Honestly, I'm feeling fine about it. feels like I'm not waiting in limbo for him to suggest a date and I can begin to think about my next moves clearly, and can move on dating wise when I feel able to.

I'm going to still keep in contact with him, as it took a lot for us to get back in contact, and he hasn't seriously hurt me. I wouldn't want to just cut him off.

And hey, at least I can still get great book recommendations going forward! ❤️😊

I hope you're okay with this?? It's a shame after all the build up... bit at least, as you day, you now know where you stand

@Onwards oh, that's a big update. I also hope you're ok. You were really strong in deciding to raise the subject directly, and as you say there are positives in being able to move on.

(Also - hysterical update re Mr Fit/Magician. He certainly knows all the tricks... but you've proper busted him now 👏)

@Dropdeadfred2 I honestly feel okay about it.

I think, as you say, it was the 'build up' element that upset me. It was a bit of a pain that he couldn't tell me this earlier.

I ended up messaging him on WhatsApp because I thought 'you know what? This isn't fair, I can't just sit around waiting for him to give a simple answer.' So I just sent a message just saying 'if you're no longer interested in pursuing anything, that's fine. I'd appreciate it if you let me know one way or another, so we can both move on.'

He sent me a apologetic message back saying he had been with friends this weekend, that he thought what I said was fair enough. He said that things had probably run it's course with us, and told me to look after myself.

I told him if he ever needed a friend, that I would always be there for him. And that I hoped I would have more book recommendations from him going forward!

So that's how it's been left for now ❤️

I told him if

[quote FireandBrimstone]@Onwards oh, that's a big update. I also hope you're ok. You were really strong in deciding to raise the subject directly, and as you say there are positives in being able to move on.

(Also - hysterical update re Mr Fit/Magician. He certainly knows all the tricks... but you've proper busted him now 👏)[/quote]
@FireandBrimstone absolutely 😂❤️

[quote OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]**@Dropdeadfred2 I honestly feel okay about it.

I think, as you say, it was the 'build up' element that upset me. It was a bit of a pain that he couldn't tell me this earlier.

I ended up messaging him on WhatsApp because I thought 'you know what? This isn't fair, I can't just sit around waiting for him to give a simple answer.' So I just sent a message just saying 'if you're no longer interested in pursuing anything, that's fine. I'd appreciate it if you let me know one way or another, so we can both move on.'

He sent me a apologetic message back saying he had been with friends this weekend, that he thought what I said was fair enough. He said that things had probably run it's course with us, and told me to look after myself.

I told him if he ever needed a friend, that I would always be there for him. And that I hoped I would have more book recommendations from him going forward!

So that's how it's been left for now ❤️

I told him if [/quote]
@Dropdeadfred2 ignore final bit of message. I obviously forgot to delete a paragraph! 😂❤️

Party was fantastic! Kids everywhere, giant party balloons and cake, last ‘party-party’ i guess my DS will want me at. I invited a few friends as well and my family visited so was a really nice afternoon. MrE came later on in the afternoon and stayed for a drink, had a present for my son. He then helped my dad dismantle the tent we had setup.. yep! i know… what did i do that for??? Introducing them is now only making things more confusing! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 well done ME!
@BelladiMamma so sorry about your daughter, hope she’s OK soon. Seems you’ve a fair few irons/date ‘0’s on the cards! It does amaze me how many you are able juggle in one go!
@VanGoghsDog ewww dodgy sexty texts from strangers. What IS that about. I can’t recall your irons name is it MrTG? But are you wanting to be more than you are with him? It sounded like a very very couply day you had together? Does this not happen all too frequently? Perhaps i muddled a bit?
@Isitreallyme177 i love your posts and your crisps/harrypotter evening sounds just like something i’d do. You seeing MrCricket later today?
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards i’ve been a little quiet but wanted to say that all the advice on here is always meant with the best intentions. For all the downs/issues you get a ton of support and sometimes tough to hear but ultimately what you need to hear. But whats also amazing is successes are celebrated as well. Everyone on here is really ‘rooting’ (sorry for the americanism) for everyone to get what they want/deserve!

So day 1 of NO entertaining magnet-man IF he gets in touch.

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That sounds like an amazing party @Naimee87! Well done for doing that whole thing!

Can i join the sick boat?? Been struggling all weekend with a suspected tooth abscess, its agony. Got two huge days at work that I definitely cant miss. Didnt realise how dangerous a tooth abscess can be til I started googling last night now I’m freaking out about septicaemia/infection travelling into the brain etc… got to call the dentist on the way to the two day work event that is 100 miles away and try and get there 😞 oh the timing’s perfect! I feel quite panicky!! 😓

Good luck to everyone who’s struggling 😢🍀 I feel like im gonna need it the next couple of days 💗