[quote Walkingalot]@BelladiMamma - Oh, did you get it off your DD in the end? Or having to isolate because she has it?
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - I think the issue here is that you've joined a thread of experienced/older posters who have been there and done that. No one means any harm. A lot of us have issues.
I'll share mine - I'm profoundly deaf. I've had CBT through my work place in the past, which was the best thing I ever did. I had become agoraphobic and weirdly it has been an on and off thing all my life. I also have balance issues, have dyspraxia and verbal dyslexia.
It's only through time/age that I've managed/come to terms with these issues. I think what I'm trying to say is that you have chosen to come on this thread so you are obviously trying to reach out for support. You will get it, in spades, it just might not be in the style you are expecting. No one is perfect or without issues. No one knows our full life story. Share what you are prepared to, no more, no less.[/quote]
@Walkingalot the age of posters on these threads is irrelevant to me. As I have mentioned previously, some of my closest friends IRL are older women. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. I also happen to know that a few posters here are in my age range, so not everyone here is older than me!
I've always got on well with older people better than people my own age.
I know that that people on here don't mean me any harm. If I thought that they did, I would have stopped going on these threads altogether.
I've shared some really personal things about myself on these particular threads, so that should show you that I'm comfortable with you all.
I think I just get frustrated with the questions and comments about me meeting up with irons and going on dates etc.
I'm being totally honest, this does put pressure on me and then I start thinking about all the things that could go wrong, and will it be like what happened last time with my ex, etc. Then I just get worried and scared about it all over again.
Just to set the record straight, I honestly haven't dated anyone since my breakup with my ex, and when I do, I want things to be special and different. I don't want to be constantly worrying and fretting all the time.
And when I do get into a relationship, I don't want to be worrying that the other person will cheat on me, lie to me, get bored of me, or go off with someone else, because that's been my experience with men and dating so far.
I have had CBT before, many years ago. It didn't work for me at all. It consisted of a tick sheet, where you had to tick how you are feeling on a particular week. As I felt better some weeks more than others, it just didn't work for me as a method.
I've had counselling too, that didn't work either.
I've also had mentoring (this is going back to when I was at school) which was awful.
I'm on Peroxatine now, which does do the trick. It doesn't completely erase the anxiety, but makes it easier to manage. I know that a lot of my anxiety and depression is down to my CP, which of course no amount of therapy and counselling can fix. ❤️