Are (seemingly a lot of but not all) men really put off by intelligent women?

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Is this a thing?

Generally speaking I think I probably would get on best dating someone of a similar level of education/intelligence. I'm just finishing a PhD; I don't think of myself as especially clever but I am intelligent and I am well-educated.

I don't want to limit my options when dating too far so I'm open to people who haven't gone to university or who don't value education in the same way, if I think we share other values that are important.

However, increasingly I am finding that as soon as a guy finds out I'm doing a PhD I get raised eyebrows, a 'wow, you must be clever', then some self-deprecating comment and they lose interest.

I always thought the idea of men being threatened by intelligence was just a myth. Obviously I need a man who isn't ... but is being threatened by intelligence actually a thing?

I personally think men can be put off by a lot of things and those are the ones women need to avoid.

I met my DH when I started uni and he had just finished his apprenticeship. I have always studied and pushed my self. He has always 100% had my back and goes over and above doing more that his share of house work and children so i can work.

I don't think anything about the fact he's not gone to uni as he's an amazing man, dad. He's intelligent and we share the same values which makes us the couple we are. We both work ridiculously hard for our family and to pay for holidays and stuff we want. I know he's proud of me and my job and career.

Definitely a thing. I often find men are impressed initially but then they can't stand being challenged or corrected. I genuinely think most of them want to be the smarter one and can't stand a woman actually holding her own.

The last person I dated tried to explain something to be about the German language, having read it in a book. They'd misunderstood it a bit so I tried to tell them that and they insisted they were right. I have an A Level in German and continued learning it after school. Have also lived in Switzerland. This man thought they knew better than me despite just reading a paragraph in a book. This sort of thing is extremely, extremely common. Instead of deferring to me given that I have much more knowledge on a subject, they double down and keep insisting they're right. I find it infuriating.

I'm perfectly open to someone who's not 'book smart' or 'academic smart' - if they share my values, respect that education matters to me and can hold their own in conversations on a range of topics, it's all good.

I do n’t think men are put off by intelligence, all of the doctors and lawyers I know are in long term relationships.

However a Ph.D might well put off men, and women. It suggests to mean eternal student whose gaining a qualification that’s of limited use in the jobs market.

Depends on what the person values in the other with whom they wish to pursue a relationship and build a life.
We all have different wants and needs.

Not initially in my experience. Initially they love to show off that their new girlfriend is clever and capable etc etc...

Then a few months down the line they realise new girlfriend is showing them up by being smarter than them and can out earn them, and that's when they go off you a bit.