Dating Thread 211 - heading into to Autumn fueled by possibilities

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Morning all. Still bleeding but feeling less anxious at least. And had contact with Mr runner. @Naimee87 I feel like I've taken over the thread too! (have sent a pm).

Lovely to hear of success stories. I've definitely decided online dating really doesn't work for me!

@Misty9

Morning all. Still bleeding but feeling less anxious at least. And had contact with Mr runner. *@Naimee87* I feel like I've taken over the thread too! (have sent a pm).

Lovely to hear of success stories. I've definitely decided online dating really doesn't work for me!

Hoping it settles down and you're not in too much pain

@Misty9

Morning all. Still bleeding but feeling less anxious at least. And had contact with Mr runner. *@Naimee87* I feel like I've taken over the thread too! (have sent a pm).

Lovely to hear of success stories. I've definitely decided online dating really doesn't work for me!

Glad to hear you're feeling slightly better!

I've also decided online dating doesn't work, I've had enough of it.

[quote MayEye]@TheWanderingTeaDrinker message them all. One won’t reply, one will go down the overtly sex talk route or some other weirdness and One might be normal if you’re lucky

Had a lovely call with Mr Lumberjack this evening. We are going to spend next weekend together- the whole weekend. No one has ever wanted to spend the whole weekend with me before - I’m very excited 😊[/quote]
My hit rate always seems a lot lower, lucky to get a reply 50% of the time (depends on the app though).

Congrats, that sounds great🤞

@TheWanderingTeaDrinker

By hit rate I mean replies from sent messages obviously😂

Morning. Update from me.
I've been swiping again after my recent disappointment...now completely forgotten. And I've been busy!

Bumble coffee date on Sat. Had a lovely time chatting. But he was one that thinks 5ft 6 is actually 5ft 8. I felt like I towered over him. Neither of us felt the spark but nice way to spend a couple of hours.

Fab meet last night. Someone I met for a coffee before. It's taken us a long time to take it any further.

Tinder date yesterday was cancelled. Sounds legit but who knows.

Bumble coffee date this afternoon.
And Bumble dinner tonight with someone I met a couple of years ago & circumstances meant we didn't meet again.

Tried POF as well but just got messages from men 50+ miles away. Never understand that.

In 6yrs I've never had dates from Bumble, now have 3. It's always worth trying more than one app. And chatting to more than one.

Glad to hear you're slightly brighter today @Misty9 I hope Mr Runner was sympathetic.
Lovely updates @MayEye and @Dirtyduck! Long may it continue!
That seems an awfully long time to wait @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards why so long? Date zero needn't be anything time consuming or that needs tonnes of planning, quick coffee on a Saturday morning just to put a face to a name.
Recovering from a slightly crazy weekend with friends/family/MrD. Is it bedtime 😴

@Heartbeats0708

Glad to hear you're slightly brighter today *@Misty9* I hope Mr Runner was sympathetic. Lovely updates *@MayEye and @Dirtyduck*! Long may it continue! That seems an awfully long time to wait *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* why so long? Date zero needn't be anything time consuming or that needs tonnes of planning, quick coffee on a Saturday morning just to put a face to a name. Recovering from a slightly crazy weekend with friends/family/MrD. Is it bedtime 😴

@Heartbeats0708 he hasn't actually said that. That's me hazarding a guess. It will probably be that long, unfortunately, As we've both got prior commitments with work and college.

My ex was a teacher as well, so I know what to expect. I would never want to interfere with Mr Gambit's work. I really value what he does ❤️

@Heartbeats at least it'll give me time to psyche myself up. I know I'm not probably what all his friends, family etc is expecting as a potential girlfriend, (no job, and still living with parents etc) but he accepts me for who I am, and always treats me like an adult ❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards has he not suggested a quick meet up time/date? Did the past weekend date get cancelled by him? I really would try to meet as soon as possible, otherwise it's so easy to both overinvest and also build a false impression and intimacy over messaging...

I’m with you @ActonSquirrel and @Misty9. Hate the apps. I’m not missing them at all tight now but I know at some point ill be feeling a bit bored and will pop back on to have a look.

RIGHT now 😅

@Misty9 we never met up this weekend. I think some posters may have misunderstood my post from the other day. I don't remember saying we were going on a date at the weekend?🤔

We haven't met up because he's been isolating and he has to prepare to go back to work. I can't really interfere with that. I would rather meet with him when he's finished all his work and we can talk freely without the prospect of lesson planning/ CIPD assignments hanging over our heads.

As long as I know he's still with me, that's all that matters ❤️

It's not that I don't want to meet with him. I do. It's just i obviously can't when he's not available. ❤️

Feeling the bluest I've felt in ages.

Have messaged all the irons to say I'm deleting Bumble for a while

Ugh. In an utter blue funk. Off to contemplate my navel for a while

@BelladiMamma

Feeling the bluest I've felt in ages.

Have messaged all the irons to say I'm deleting Bumble for a while

Ugh. In an utter blue funk. Off to contemplate my navel for a while

@BelladiMamma 😘😘😘

Hi 👋🏻
Update from my lunch date with Mr Forklift.....it's a no from me! We chatted easily for 4 hrs but I just didn't fancy him at all.....I sound really shallow but he looked different from all the hundreds of pics he'd sent me....I got home and had already received 3 msgs from him so I let him down politely.

Back on the apps, Tinder, POF and FB dating.....no matches at all on Tinder and POF but 3 on fb dating. I've messaged them all but no responses yet......

@BelladiMamma sorry to hear that :( is there something absorbing you can do irl to get off your phone for a bit? (pot kettle black...)

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards have you ever met up?

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Is he still isolating? When do his classes start back?

It's August, I can't imagine anyone doesn't have a spare hour between now and mid October to meet for a coffee.

Remember, if they wanted to they would.

@dancemom he does want to. he's the one who suggested going for a coffee in the first place. Why would he do that if he didn't want to meet? If he didn't want anything to do with me, He would have just blocked me from Tinder in the first instance.

@Misty9 no, we started talking last year. He caught COVID during this time, so obviously couldn't do anything then. Then we started taking again. We did have a break from January where we stopped talking (that was my fault)

It's not just him who's got things to do. I'm going to be busy too with college. ❤️

@dancemom he's got a couple of staff training days at the beginning of September, then all the students start back, and then obviously it'll be all hands on deck. ❤️

I haven't really had my mind on dating anyone before me and Mr. Gambit got back in touch, I suffer from a lot of pain due to my CP and I have a lot of anxiety around dating, after what happened with my ex. Me and Mr Gambit are already familiar with each other, so hopefully it'll be a bit better ❤️

I'm off the apps too, I'm glad the two I met were nice but I'm done with them once and for all I think. Moody hot gym guy was in again this morning and as I was leaving (a hot sweaty mess, with barely any make up on) I was walking past the boxing area when another guy stopped what he was doing and wished me a good morning. Why can't I see these men when I'm not hot and sweaty and when I've done my make up. 🤣