Short Men Experiences

[TryingHarderToday]

Just curious about your experiences with dating short men, or knowing short men and the issues they’ve had with dating.

I’ve been developing this thing with a guy during the pandemic, and we are meeting up soon. He’s around 5ft 6 and I’m almost 5ft 8. I wouldn’t have thought much about it tbh but he clearly has had issues all of his life so he made light of his height and that sort of stuck.

I’m not concerned in the least but I want to be emphatic so I’m curious as to how others have had experiences dating shorter guys in terms of other people’s comments or whatever.

I'm 5' 8 and my ex was 5' 6. For all his faults (and there were many) the height difference never bothered either of us at the time. I think it was due to his confidence and indifference about it. If he had been sensitive about it it would have been a different issue.

One of my exes was 5ft 6" it was nice not to have to reach up to kiss him. In bed it was great, I remember it was a nice change to rub our feet together. ( it was cute honest )
We broke up for totally different reasons.

5'6 isn't particularly short and I have met some lovely men of this height!

I think 5'2 or 5'4 is a bit too short for my liking.

I'm nearly six feet and two of my exes have been under 5"8. Didn't bother me or them. I can't remember anyone else ever commenting

Mmmm does he say he's 5,6 ? In my experience he will probably be 5,4! Had so many men either lie ( or don't really know how tall They really are) it's usually around 3 inches smaller than they say!

Went out for many years with a chap who was the same height as me: 5ft 7”. He was quite mad and I’m glad to not have ended up with him for the rest of my life, but in his defence, none of that was anything to do with his height.

Dh is 5 6, same height as me. It doesn't occur to me he's short, it's just a non issue and never had been an issue for him and previous girlfriends.

My Bf of 15 years is 5'2.
He's a totally normal person.

@blablablafoghorn I did wonder about that because he’s given a couple of slightly different heights. But I addressed it with him and his answer seemed legit.

@ISpyCobraKai I would expect so! Have you found any issues from other people?

Well it was over 15 years ago now but I dated a short guy for a few months, about 5ft 7 possibly under.

He was obsessed with the gym and getting mussels, taking protein powder and all of that. Was covered in tattoos and had a few piercings including his tongue. I got the feeling he wanted to make sure he looked very masculine at all times and a bit unusual so that his hight wasn't the main thing people saw?! He was quite insecure that my head would be turned. We ended because he has mood swings which I put down to the stuff he was taking (powders and pills) for the gym. I liked him but not enough to work through these issues.

The next man I dated was 6ft 6 but that was purely coincidental.

My dad was 5'4" at his peak. He married my 5'6" mum and they're happy as clams. I was asking him about it as my DS is also going to be short, and he replied smugly, "well, it never did me any harm". Apparently he was very popular with women in the early '60s, though it's probably because he looked a lot like a shorter Elvis. Height doesn't bother me. My ex is about 5'5" and it has never done him any harm either. Height would really be the least of my worries - is he funny? Kind? Attractive? Smart? Has a job? Honest? They're all WAY more important.

don't focus on it I'd say. He doubtless wants to be more than a height chart in what people think of him, and I can't think how any attention in that direction is going to be helpful whether he is sensitive or not. So just talk and think about something else.

I'm very tall, DH is a few inches shorter and more than a few inches shorter if I'm in my heels.
I've never dated anyone taller than me, in fact all the tall guys I know took up with petite women - no idea if that is a thing?
But it's never been an issue. I don't think we've ever even discussed it, I can't remember anyone else mentioning it either.

Ex husband was short. I found he also had a few shortcomings as well lol. I never really felt feminine with him tbh but could have been my own hang ups. When we got married someone said ‘you’ve broken the unwritten rule. You don’t marry a guy shorter than you’,

@SusannaM That’s great to hear. He does bring it up from time to time so it’s clearly an issue for him. Not in relation to me, but for himself. I’ve never dated a shorter guy (just a coincidence) so I’ve never really thought about it.

@TryingHarderToday
Not recently that that I've overheard, but I don't doubt it's said, it certainly used to be.
It doesn't bother me, or him at all.
People loudly commenting, or sniggering.
Whatevs, they don't have to date him, in fact I'd rather they didn't since I am!

@SarahBellam He ticks all the boxes and then some! He’s also the most masculine guy I’ve been with, and we have a really great connection so far. So I’m excited to see where it may go.

And no, it doesn't mean small penis if that's what people think!

I dated two - one was fine but the other was a nightmare. Regaled me with tales of his mountaineering exploits, kayaking, strength, etc. Only problem was, he bailed out of these - he backed out of an Everest base camp trek because he had a cold, and the highest mountain he climbed was Catbells, despite having a house full of Rab and Northface clothes and a stack of wild camping kit (but he’d only ever camped in a YHA garden). Fancied himself as a Bear Grylls but he just had shockingly bad small man syndrome and had a massive chip on his shoulder about his height. Never again.

@ISpyCobraKai Yup. That’s allllll fiiiiine.

My partner is 5ft 2ish. I'm probably 1/2 " taller. He's the shortest person that Ive been out with & tbh it was a bit of a shock when we first met (OLD). We've been together 2 years now & I have to say it's the best relationship I have ever had. Maybe it's because he hasn't got a huge ego & is simply the nicest guy out there. I love how we fit together too . The only problem is that he prefers me not to wear heels, which to be honest is a relief. Don't think I'd cope after nearly 2 years of not going out because of lockdown.
If you like someone & get on I don't think you'd notice, or care about the height difference.

My husband is 5'6".

When I was single, my boyfriend was 6'1". When we were walking along, he would lean on my shoulder when he had his arm around me. That got annoying.

It's so nice to be able to kiss my husband face to face. To get a cuddle from him without my face being slammed into his chest.

I had a very short FIL and he had stereotypical small man syndrome - I used to call him the Little Lancashire Tyrant.

@ToffeeNotCoffee How tall are you?