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TryingHarderToday · 2021-08-20T20:45:48+00:00

Just curious about your experiences with dating short men, or knowing short men and the issues they’ve had with dating. I’ve been developing this thing with a guy during the pandemic, and we are meeting up soon. He’s around 5ft 6 and I’m almost 5ft 8. I wouldn’t have thought much about it tbh but he clearly has had issues all of his life so he made light of his height and that sort of stuck. I’m not concerned in the least but I want to be emphatic so I’m curious as to how others have had experiences dating shorter guys in terms of other people’s comments or whatever.

Pastryapronsucks · 24/08/2021 22:53

My ex husband was 5'4, I am 5'3. When we first got together I didn't give his height a second thought, he was very handsome and appered extremely confident and extrovert. However, as time went by it was clear his confidence was an act and he was very insecure and cruel. Handsome is as handsome does.

dougledog · 25/08/2021 12:07

I think @AliBye sums up dating preferences well.

I wouldn't mind feeling Amazonian if I was a well paid athlete but I am a tired middle aged woman

This debate could go on and on. Good luck to OP and I hope she finds happiness with her dating.

NannyAndJohn · 25/08/2021 12:15

@altmember

I'm 5'7" and never considered myself as a short arse. Never thought anything of it, until I started using online dating. The number of women who openly state on their profiles that they won't date anyone shorter than X height (typically 6ft) came as a bit of a surprise. I guess there's many more that think the same and are just polite enough to not say it explicitly in their profile.

In two years of OLD, I had about 3 'coffee dates' and that was it. Maybe it was something to do with my height. Not excusing it, but it's no surprise that men exaggerate their height. Especially when women tell each other to take 3" off whatever height a man says he is. I've even seen women state that they wouldn't feel safe dating a man shorter than 6ft, because they want a man who will protect them!

Never been in a relationship with anyone taller than me (wouldn't bother me if they were), current partner is 3 or 4" shorter, don't think that was a factor in us getting together.

Based upon this post, it isn't your height that's the problem, it's your personality.

nuro · 25/08/2021 12:19

I dated a short guy for very a decade.
He was so angry and defensive about his height.
It didn't help that all his friends rubbed him about it.
I am now dating a guy well over 6ft. It's so lovely! But he has terrible back pain and posture from being so tall.

noblegreenk · 25/08/2021 12:31

I dated someone for 5yrs who was 5ft 7 and I'm 5ft 6. He was lovely and he didn't have any issues with his height. It didn't bother me either, but I often had comments from other people about how short he was. I just used to tell them it didn't bother me as he treated me well and I loved him. Our similar heights worked well together in the bedroom and I liked not having to reach up to kiss him. If I wasn't married I certainly wouldn't rule out dating another short man.

again2020 · 25/08/2021 13:08

I don't get this thing that men always have to be tall.
My best relationship was with a man that was 5'7 (I'm 5'6). He was gorgeous! (and not lacking in the trouser department!). Sometimes I think short men try to 'make up' for their height by being well groomed/well dressed. This was the case with my ex.
My mother is taller than my father (she's 5'7 and he is 5'5) and they've been married 40 years.

The only case with me is that they have to be quite confident about themselves, if you know what I mean.

I did once go on a few dates with a man who was 5'4. He was nice but seemed shorter by not drawing himself up to his full height and stooping when walking, which I wasn't keen on.
Didn't mean to sounds shallow!

ALittleBitConfused1 · 25/08/2021 13:37

I'm 5 ft so all men I've dated have been taller than me. I do have 2 male friends who are around 5. 6 which I think is probably on the short side for a bloke. They are both a bit arrogant and in all honesty always act like they have something to prove however I've known a few taller blokes like that too so I'm not sure it can necessarily be put down to their height, all though one continuously pointed out how short he was.
Erm while short I prefer taller men. But I like larger builds in general, taller the better for me so I rarely date anyone below 5 10. Shallow I know, but we like what we like.

Hrpuffnstuff1 · 01/09/2021 10:22

@altmember

I'm 5'7" and never considered myself as a short arse. Never thought anything of it, until I started using online dating. The number of women who openly state on their profiles that they won't date anyone shorter than X height (typically 6ft) came as a bit of a surprise. I guess there's many more that think the same and are just polite enough to not say it explicitly in their profile.

In two years of OLD, I had about 3 'coffee dates' and that was it. Maybe it was something to do with my height. Not excusing it, but it's no surprise that men exaggerate their height. Especially when women tell each other to take 3" off whatever height a man says he is. I've even seen women state that they wouldn't feel safe dating a man shorter than 6ft, because they want a man who will protect them!

Never been in a relationship with anyone taller than me (wouldn't bother me if they were), current partner is 3 or 4" shorter, don't think that was a factor in us getting together.

There was something wrong either with your profile or the way you communicate.

I once had 25 dates in 1 month and I'm 5 8ft, 🤣🤣.
Who cares what women say, just ask them out fgs. They either sat yes or no.
A date once told me upon meeting I was too short for her, we had a few drinks said bye and that was that.

It is what it is, everyone is allowed preferences.

NautaOcts · 01/09/2021 10:44

I’ve got a friend who’s 5’3 or thereabouts.
He’s 51 and goes to the gym a lot, very toned, even has a 6 pack! He’s also very funny, a real joker.
He’s happily married with kids (that are all taller than him), he makes jokes about his size. We’ve never talked about it properly but I sometimes wonder if part of the reason for staying so fit is to detract from his small stature and similarly with the joking around. But who knows as plenty of men do that who are taller.

NautaOcts · 01/09/2021 10:46

It wouldn’t put me off by the way, it’s about the whole package.
Although having said that, because of how I feel about my own body I do quite like to feel ‘small’

altmember · 01/09/2021 12:24

@Hrpuffnstuff1
Nothing wrong with the way that I communicate (I didn't get the chance to most of the time because almost no one matched with me). Whatever anyone says, online dating is 95% about looks, and I'm ugly lol. I tend to do better in real life, when people get to know me a bit, and see past my looks. Also didn't help that I live in a very rural area - a few swipes and I'd reach the end of Tinder.

Hrpuffnstuff1 · 01/09/2021 12:39

[quote altmember]@Hrpuffnstuff1
Nothing wrong with the way that I communicate (I didn't get the chance to most of the time because almost no one matched with me). Whatever anyone says, online dating is 95% about looks, and I'm ugly lol. I tend to do better in real life, when people get to know me a bit, and see past my looks. Also didn't help that I live in a very rural area - a few swipes and I'd reach the end of Tinder.[/quote]
You have to open the app up and spread your wings, broaden your area.
Have a funny line, they'll message you, then ask them out in under 10 messages.
I had women asking me how tall I was, I just told them. Some went sorry, some said oh the shame...
What can you do...
Nothing.

Hopingforabagofbuttons · 01/09/2021 14:07

Well you can filter out people using whatever criteria you want, including weight, tattoos, hair colour or height.

If looks and physical attributes weren't important photos wouldn't be included on dating websites.

I wouldn't want to date a man thinner and smaller than me I don't think.

I agree , filters are there for a reason. You have every right to filter out the men who wouldn’t be what you consider to be attractive. I’m sure you have most likely been filtered out of some of their searches too, for not fitting their criteria. As I said previously, it cuts both ways.

SarahDarah · 01/09/2021 14:17

@Sakurami

I don't understand people basing their relationship on someone's height. I'm average height and most men I have been with have been taller than me. The last guy I dated is the same height as me and the guy I'm with now is a foot taller than me. It doesn't make any difference- it's what's in their hearts and brains that makes a difference.

@Sakurami It doesn't make any difference to you because it happens not to be something that affects your own personal attraction to men. Women (and men) differ on what they find attractive, not sure what's so difficult to understand

I'm sure what you find attractive in men, there will be other women for whom it doesn't make any difference to.

Most women simply find average or taller height guys more attractive. It's a common preference, like many men prefer slimmer women who are not overweight. You can't help what you're attracted to. It's such a significant number of women in the population with that preference so there's likely something biological behind it.

Somedude · 17/08/2025 21:36

Personally I prefer larger women (both weight and height), but the personality is 90% of what matters to me. The one exception is very very short is too creepy for me though. I am 6ft and would have no problem dating a 7ft tall woman.

I feel short as my dad is 6ft 4 and my cousin is 6ft 6.

I have a fiancè, I am with her for her personality in the end, that is really all that matters as beauty fades in time. I am 30 for reference, we have been together for over 9 years.

Side note: I want kids be she said never, but she is my first priority and having her is the most important thing to me.