Short Men Experiences

[TryingHarderToday]

Just curious about your experiences with dating short men, or knowing short men and the issues they’ve had with dating.

I’ve been developing this thing with a guy during the pandemic, and we are meeting up soon. He’s around 5ft 6 and I’m almost 5ft 8. I wouldn’t have thought much about it tbh but he clearly has had issues all of his life so he made light of his height and that sort of stuck.

I’m not concerned in the least but I want to be emphatic so I’m curious as to how others have had experiences dating shorter guys in terms of other people’s comments or whatever.

My guy is short, he’s the best I love him. No issues actually. Don’t overthink it.. shorter men make better husbands apparently 😊.

I'm on the fence. I'm 5'9, my husband is 6'2 so about 5 inches difference which feels about right to me. In theory if I was 5'2 I would like someone about 5'7 as at 6'2 they would be like a giant to me.
I'm on the fence because my 'work crush' at my previous job was about 5'8 and very slender (I'm unfortunately built like a brick outhouse) but I have never seen anyone with such a beautiful smile before or since .
I guess if you fancy them there is no rhyme or reason to it so give the guy a chance! And arseholes come in all shapes and sizes so as long as he's not one of those then it's all good 👌

I think I'm the opposite to many women as I would be unlikely to date someone over 5ft9. Tall men do not appeal to me at all!

Obviously there are lovely men of all heights and if you click, you click. It's a physical feature like any other and only you can know if it's something you like, dislike or don't care about.

[quote TryingHarderToday]@ISpyCobraKai I would expect so! Have you found any issues from other people?[/quote]
OP just curious as to why what other people say matters a damn here.

If a person's physical stature bothers you, then don't form a relationship with them, but if all you care about is what other people think or say then there's something badly wrong. It's pretty shallow. Height is hardly something a person can do anything about.

@pictish It’s just a title. Experiences with short men. As my original post and subsequent comments say, I have no issue with his height. HE had brought it up to me a few times hence why I wondered if other women have found similar, and if they have any anecdotes of experience with short men to perhaps suggest why the issue comes about.

It’s not complicated.

@daisychain01 Because how other people treat someone may explain why someone feels insecure about a physical attribute they have.

Yes?

Ok. My experience with short men is that they all differentiate as individuals like average height or tall men.
You’re right, it’s not complicated.

I don't think it's shallow to prefer to date someone who isn't shorter than me. I don't like towering over partners.

We all like different things. It's a matter of what attracts you. I like intelligent men as well. That's not shallow, it's a preference.

I’ve not heard anyone commenting negatively about a height difference in a couple I have to say.
That’s a lie actually, I can recall an instance…but in this case the bloke is 6ft 5 and his wife under 5 feet. Nothing insulting though.

I don’t think it’s an issue. Women seem to prefer tall men overall but I don’t think it’s a set in stone requirement for most?

I'm just under six foot.
DH is 5'6 and it's not a thing, really, he laughs about being a dwarf but he's talking about in the RPG/fantasy sense ie hairy feisty geezer with an axe.
Best mate is 6'9 (male) and that has challenges of its own.

@pictish

@MrsRussell Thanks. From what I gather, it seems to be a bit of pot luck who they’ve been surrounded by, and therefore whether they see their height as an issue in the eyes of others. I’ve made every effort to tell him I don’t care, when he’s raised it. Hopefully with time that will be enough.

My partner is 5 ft 6 and I'm just under 5ft 8 I have never dated anyone shorter in height before and it is no different to dating a 6ft man except he also ticks more boxes than usual remember to have fun on your date! We have been together 3 years now and we are always bantering away and i do occasionally take the piss out of him being shorter especially when he got a new bike for work and couldn't get his leg over it properly 🤣but we are both comfortable with each other now he takes the piss out of my obsession of cleaning clean things and most importantly everyone is the same size lying down 😉

What the fuck is this shit?

Can you imagine if this was ‘tall women experiences’ or ‘overweight women experiences’

What a pile of sexist bullshit this is.

Oh for the love of…

@ChipButties Actually, if I was complaining to my guy about feeling fat all the time I’d find it endearing that he wanted to find out how other people who also felt the same came to feeling that way in order to better understand me. But go on, assume I have an issue with his height if it makes you feel better.

@TryingHarderToday whatever, let’s see if your new potential gets the same responses when he posts about your heigh/weight/looks/insecurities online, and see how well that goes down with you.

‘Short’ men are not a breed. For fucks sakes grow up and have an adult conversation with your partner. Mumsnet is ridiculous sometimes.

We have plenty of conversations. Hence why I’m here.

Bless you.

I’m out. I can’t be arsed.

Thanks to all the lovely women who did get where I was coming from and shared their experiences. ❤️

Well I married him His kindness to me and others, generosity, humour and laid back nature are what I loved.

Sorry, to answer your original question. He is not in the slightest bit bothered about his height and if anyone else brings it up it goes right over his head, literally 🤣

Mrs. HRpuff is 5 7' I'm 5 8', in heels, she's way taller than me, she doesn't care, I don't care, no one cares.
I dated a woman who was 5 10', she was well over 6 ft in heels, I didn't care, she didn't care, other people, namely men used to come up to me and ask me if that was my girlfriend, wow, she's tall does it bother you etc.
No, it didn't bother me.

@OchNoAgain

I think I'm the opposite to many women as I would be unlikely to date someone over 5ft9. Tall men do not appeal to me at all!

Obviously there are lovely men of all heights and if you click, you click. It's a physical feature like any other and only you can know if it's something you like, dislike or don't care about.

Same here!

I'm 5'3 and am most attracted to men 5'3-5'6. I would be happy with someone up to 5'9 I think. Beyond that, they're too tall. I just don't fancy tall men. They're for other women. I have dated a couple of taller men because I really liked them but foundyself looking at the and thinking they'd before attractive if they were shorter!

I also think tall men with long legs look really odd naked

Good grief - typos!!

It’s nice to see the mature responses here.

I’m dating a 5’6 man. I’m the same height. It does make me feel fat and unfeminine sometimes...

I’d like to start wearing heels on our dates but I’m not sure how he’d feel about it. Can anyone advise?

Do guys get put off by taller girls? Would it make him insecure?

Could be the nicest man in the world but anyone my height or shorter would be like dating a child. That's what I think when I see other couples where the man is shorter. Can't help it, it's my natural preference/setting.