DP sleeping around. Livid.

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I knew something was not right, just had a suspicion, so I checked DP's phone.

He has been messaging a woman he met 3 years ago since January this year. He initiated contact to get back in touch. Since February, he has been seeing her twice a month it seems when I am at work. We don't live together. They send each other crude messages about sex and about him 'filling' her up. They are not using condoms and she had a pregnancy scare from what I can see from the messages.

Get rid

I confronted him and he told me he has felt lonely and that's why he contacted her. DP has no other friends or family. He said things escalated.

I’m SO sorry OP.

He is begging me to stay

I just want to scream.

We were TTC

I'm so sorry. You should probably have an STI check, you can get home kits.

Please don't listen to his nonsense, he's only sorry he got caught.

Don't be a mug. He's shagging around without protection so no thought for your health.

I’m so sorry xxxxx

It feels unreal. Do people actually do this? I can't believe he has done this to me.

Sorry to read this. Everyone is different but if you stayed with him could you ever truly trust him?
Me personally would leave but it's easier said than done.

Thank goodness you didn't get pregnant. I know it hurts now but at least you can walk away from this excuse of a partner and never look back. He was lonely? Pathetic. Let him go and 'fill up' whoever he likes.

There’s no excuse for what he’s done. The fact that he’s even tried to make excuses would be the final nail in the coffin for me. Pathetic. Get rid.

The more you allow him to talk the higher the chance he will charm you.

Kick him out and go no contact. Men like him never change and are only sorry they’ve been caught.

Why are you TTC when you don't even live together?

You know what you need to do, it's a no brainer. Dump block and run.

He is blaming me and saying I was always threatening to leave, so he started looking

You know you are worth much more than this OP, get rid. He’s a repulsive prick.

Wow, what a twat. Him, not you.

He felt LONELY?? What, so the only thing he could think of doing was shagging another woman??

Thank God you found out before getting pregnant.

Get an STI test ASAP and move on without him.

Well isn’t he a treat. I hope you’re OK OP, what an awful shock for you

@cheatinglyingb

He is blaming me and saying I was always threatening to leave, so he started looking

Typical cheaters behaviour.

Beg to be forgiven, then says it’s your own fault anyway.

I’ve never used the term LTB, but seriously, LTB and don’t look back.

Well , if he has (a) cheated and (b) shown no remorse and (c) blamed you

Well, not a nice guy
Op ,time to cut losses ? X

I have ordered an STI kit. He told me he did a test and she did too before they stopped using protection. I am so angry with him how could he do this

@cheatinglyingb

I have ordered an STI kit. He told me he did a test and she did too before they stopped using protection. I am so angry with him how could he do this

Yeah, well honesty clearly isn’t his strong point, so I wouldn’t believe a word he says from here on out.

He did it because he's a selfish twat. Kick the fucker out and let her have him. She has no prize, he will be a useless father and go shagging someone else then too.

Of course he's begging you to stay, it's all part of his selfish shit. More reason to free yourself from such a prick.

Time for the old dump and block.

And YYY to get std tested. This experience should kill any lingering feelings you may have for him.