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Bastard bingo - full house!!

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helplesshopeless · 16/08/2021 06:59

Hi everyone, just creating a new thread for those interested as my second is nearly full now! I'll link back to the old one once mumsnet's browser is back up and running Grin

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movingon2022 · 17/09/2022 18:55

@Alcemeg Yes, I thought this very accurately describes many of our spouses.
It has been one year and five months since we separated and a year and one month since he moved out. It has been a battle for me, mostly an inside one. My emotions were up and down and some days it was harder to get up in the morning then others. Still, I never once regretted doing it, making the leap, and I never once longed for his presence, his love. Anyway, it has been a long and winding road and still is, I mean, but it is definitely a road forward and I am looking forward to all the days and years that I have ahead of me.

I am so happy to hear that you are getting on with your life @helplesshopeless.
I remember the first days of your struggle and how much you suffered. Every time I think of you, I am in owe of you, where you were and where you are now and how little by little you freed yourself from his grip and your own feelings of guilt and broke free, for yourself and your daughter. Like I said to you many times, you are one of the finest people I have known, so kind and gentle, so compassionate and selfless and I think you deserve the world. I know it is still hard for you to deal with your ex because of how good you are and how exactly the opposite of you he is, but you are doing so well, I am so proud of you. I wish I can give you a hug. 💕I also wish that we can all meet for that drink we mentioned so many times, to celebrate our freedom and self discovery. Anyway, take care of yourself and your daughter and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Onward and upward.

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helplesshopeless · 20/09/2022 19:38

Ahhh @movingon2022 you are so so sweet and kind. I honestly don't deserve that level of praise!! But thank you so much for your well wishes. I'm so pleased to hear that you're looking forward to a happy future as well.

Had a terrible moment over the weekend -bumped into exh's mother for the first time since everything. I was with LM. I said hi and she gave me the absolute filthiest stare for a few seconds, then told me I was a disgusting tramp and stormed off. Not gonna lie it knocked me back for a bit!!! LM was shaking with anger over it and wanted to go after her to tell her it wasn't ok to speak to me like that but I told him not to bother, I suppose I deserved it. She is picking DD up from school tomorrow to take her to exh's and I am hating the thought of her getting to spend time with dd after the way she looked at me! 🙈

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billy1966 · 23/09/2022 15:17

I really wouldn't be taking to seriously the ugly words and opinion of the woman who raised the absolute horror you married.

What a horror he is.
Take care.

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